[b]Pls Advise [/b]
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My gf has left me 4 other guy 2 times, i 4give her 2 times now we r still 2geter, i'm veri confuse dont now should i still carry on or give up she told me tat she wont do it again and she noe who is the one she love, should i still trust her..................?
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Trust people don't suspect..suspect people don't use. - chinese saying.
If you still got even a little doubt..please give yourself a chance for better one then. -
It seems that u have make clear of ur stand..Originally posted by (^0*):My gf has left me 4 other guy 2 times, i 4give her 2 times now we r still 2geter, i'm veri confuse dont now should i still carry on or give up she told me tat she wont do it again and she noe who is the one she love, should i still trust her..................? -
the problem is i not sure still carry on or give up -
The first thing u should do is to find the root of the problem.
ask her y did she do that.
is it bcos u dun spend enough time for her or she is not happy with u?
is she really sure what she wants? I doubt so. -
She has done it twice..
Most probably sheÂ’ll do it again..
Cus it makes no differ whether she has done it once or 10 times..
IÂ’m not trying to scare u..
But dun trust her so easily..
ThatÂ’s all I can say.. -
It might have been a problem.Originally posted by browniebaobao:The first thing u should do is to find the root of the problem.
ask her y did she do that.
is it bcos u dun spend enough time for her or she is not happy with u?
is she really sure what she wants? I doubt so.
It might be other unseen problems beyond the BGR.
Sometimes, it's straightforward. Some isn't.
Relationships are complicating.
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i'm gonna tell u to be brave and give her up. once beaten, twice shy, thrice and you'll die..
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You're not helping dude.. =POriginally posted by M©+square:It might have been a problem.
It might be other unseen problems beyond the BGR.
Sometimes, it's straightforward. Some isn't.
Relationships are complicating.
Advise ?
If she really loves you she wouldn't do such a thing.
=)
Well...
I'm sure, you allow her to be with you cause you love her,
But the thing is with her is,
is she really in love with you ?
If she says she's confuse over who she likes,
Then that might be your fault. =0
Cheers =) -
Mmm...Originally posted by Sekundes:You're not helping dude.. =P
Advise ?
If she really loves you she wouldn't do such a thing.
=)
Well...
I'm sure, you allow her to be with you cause you love her,
But the thing is with her is,
is she really in love with you ?
If she says she's confuse over who she likes,
Then that might be your fault. =0
Cheers =)
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I've been thru the same thing.Originally posted by Sekundes:You're not helping dude.. =P
Advise ?
If she really loves you she wouldn't do such a thing.
=)
Well...
I'm sure, you allow her to be with you cause you love her,
But the thing is with her is,
is she really in love with you ?
If she says she's confuse over who she likes,
Then that might be your fault. =0
Cheers =)
One might really love the other but still cheat...how to reconcile?
You can't be sure.
Humans are complicated because they, at times will commit hasty mistakes or do stupid things. Some, they can't help but to keeping falling into the same hole. (subconciously)
Cases happens from extreme to extreme.
It's all up to threadstarter to continue and take the gamble, or leave from it once and for all.
Have you thought about this? You've posted:
1. If she really loves you she wouldn't do such a thing.
=)
2. If she says she's confuse over who she likes,
Then that might be your fault. =0
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Do you realise 1 and 2 could be valid at the same time?
Keyword:::Complications. -
whatever problems you may been having in your relationship, it dosent merit her having sex with someone else. Dont ask what you did wrong. Dont share the blame. And in case she tells you that it just 'happened', just remember cheating dosent just 'happen'. Its not an accident as in 'Oops, I just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else'.
It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end/ruin your relationship.
You already gotten two red flags. Do you need another one to tell you something is wrong with your relationship? -
that's why I say find out what's the real problem and then tackle it lor.Originally posted by M©+square:It might have been a problem.
It might be other unseen problems beyond the BGR.
Sometimes, it's straightforward. Some isn't.
Relationships are complicating.
gees.. how come I sound like someone now?
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You sureOriginally posted by alexkusu:whatever problems you may been having in your relationship, it dosent merit her having sex with someone else. Dont ask what you did wrong. Dont share the blame. And in case she tells you that it just 'happened', just remember cheating dosent just 'happen'. Its not an accident as in 'Oops, I just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else'.
It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end/ruin your relationship.
You already gotten two red flags. Do you need another one to tell you something is wrong with your relationship?
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If you are a working guy, how much time do you spend with her during weekdays? How about weekends?Originally posted by (^0*):My gf has left me 4 other guy 2 times, i 4give her 2 times now we r still 2geter, i'm veri confuse dont now should i still carry on or give up she told me tat she wont do it again and she noe who is the one she love, should i still trust her..................?
Same thing for her. If you two aren't spending much time together, problems are bound to happen because there isn't communication. -
after my work i mit her n is almost everyday, whenever she need me, i'll be there even i tired, i oso a gd listener, but she alway throw her temper at me
when we r 2geter i didnt do anyting unfaithful behind her. -
x 2Originally posted by Devil1976:You sure -
Some problems are not meant to be solved.Originally posted by browniebaobao:that's why I say find out what's the real problem and then tackle it lor.
gees.. how come I sound like someone now?
Or Rather there are problems which cannot be seen.
Hmm...i think it's becoming philosophical....i'll stop here. -
doesnt mean u tell urself "i';ll trust her or i wont trust her" means u'll be able to do it.
just follow your heart ya? -
maybe ur just too good to her, and too compromising to her needs and desires...
sometimes being too good also kills that very spark which made her to like u in the first place...
try to recall what is it in u that she is attracted to?
after u have got her as ur stead, did u still do the same thing to her?
or did u change urself to be a good lame staying by her side without trying to make her laugh, do something bad, but gals like it very stuuf de stuffs?
its indeed her fault that she had a change, and she apologized by coming back to u, perhaps u lost what she was attracted to initially, and have found it in other guys, but what she cant find in other guys which made her come back to u, is the true love, which she can really feel, but don't change urself just for her!!
she loves u for the way u are, and even if u get to win her heart totally, dun change a bit of u, even if its a con..
people love one another just the way they are, when its love, the partner love every single pros and cons of that person, so in the eyes of the lover, there are no cons..bear that in mind..that's what i think.. -
Guys, wat will u do if the things happen to u ?????
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It's always a give & take thing...Most prob. it'll be my last chance for her....Originally posted by (^0*):My gf has left me 4 other guy 2 times, i 4give her 2 times now we r still 2geter, i'm veri confuse dont now should i still carry on or give up she told me tat she wont do it again and she noe who is the one she love, should i still trust her..................? -
Hmmm maybe you shld tell her how you feel, and then if that happens again... GIVE up man...
