she treats me like a brother...but i love her deeply...
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i have a friend we've juz got to know each other not too long ago, but when i first met her it was love at first sight. as our relationship continued as friends, i began to appreciate her alot more. shes the perfect girl, the type of girl i've been searching for, for many many years...she has almost the same personality as me. the problem is...all this while, she is oblivious to the fact that i like her, and she treats me like her brother, but i love her deeply...can anyone tell me how to continue with our relationship at a higher level? i dont want to stay stagnant like this forever. i want to progress. but i dont know how to confess. im afraid of rejection. i cannot accept it. i need help, thanks...
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does she like alien stories as well?
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Face possible rejection or eternal regret.
You chose.
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You find her the perfect one for you, but does she find you the same?
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u ownself say u only know her not long ago. wad's the hurry? stick around and be nice to her. see how things go lah.... so desperate for wad?
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Ok...she loves you and she'll accept you....Originally posted by SixSentinels:i have a friend we've juz got to know each other not too long ago, but when i first met her it was love at first sight. as our relationship continued as friends, i began to appreciate her alot more. shes the perfect girl, the type of girl i've been searching for, for many many years...she has almost the same personality as me. the problem is...all this while, she is oblivious to the fact that i like her, and she treats me like her brother, but i love her deeply...can anyone tell me how to continue with our relationship at a higher level? i dont want to stay stagnant like this forever. i want to progress. but i dont know how to confess. im afraid of rejection. i cannot accept it. i need help, thanks... -
what do u mean?Originally posted by alexkusu:does she like alien stories as well? -
one sided love.
forget it la. move on or stay miserable. -
Originally posted by SixSentinels:i have a friend we've juz got to know each other not too long ago, but when i first met her it was love at first sight. as our relationship continued as friends, i began to appreciate her alot more. shes the perfect girl, the type of girl i've been searching for, for many many years...she has almost the same personality as me. the problem is...all this while, she is oblivious to the fact that i like her, and she treats me like her brother, but i love her deeply...can anyone tell me how to continue with our relationship at a higher level? i dont want to stay stagnant like this forever. i want to progress. but i dont know how to confess. im afraid of rejection. i cannot accept it. i need help, thanks...
When you have remove that fear of rejection, then maybe you can consider trying to chase her.
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Liking someone is a very interesting thing.
We can easily like someone, but turning into love is another thing.
I liked my gal (now wife), and after confessing that I liked her, it developed into love.
I liked another gal, and now she is my sworn sister whom has a really good relationship with me.
The issue is, gals, esp those who are passive, do not think about that SORT of 'like' which you want your gal to like you with. She likes you as a friend, a close friend, and until you declare you like her in that way, she might not even noticed it.
Most gals whom I know, tell me they are passive, and can like many guys in their passive way. However, if the guy doesn't explicitly say that he wants to go into that sort of relationship, most of them would just take you as a good friend. Only when you indicate your seriousness, will they seriously consider.
My wife never considered me more than a really good fren, until i told her i liked her in that way. Only then did she think thru and agree to go steady with me.
Bear in mind, by doing that, you risk losing her as a friend. But as another forumite said, either try or live with eternal regret. It is even worse when you see her go with another guy one day, and you DID NOT EVEN TRY.
Face it, either you try and win or lose her, or you don't try and lose her (coz I don't think you can bear seeing her with another guy, in which case, you STILL lose her friendship), so go all out and try I say!Originally posted by SixSentinels:i have a friend we've juz got to know each other not too long ago, but when i first met her it was love at first sight. as our relationship continued as friends, i began to appreciate her alot more. shes the perfect girl, the type of girl i've been searching for, for many many years...she has almost the same personality as me. the problem is...all this while, she is oblivious to the fact that i like her, and she treats me like her brother, but i love her deeply...can anyone tell me how to continue with our relationship at a higher level? i dont want to stay stagnant like this forever. i want to progress. but i dont know how to confess. im afraid of rejection. i cannot accept it. i need help, thanks... -
Let's Just Be Friends...
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it's better to haf confessed than regret for not doing it right?
if she dont wan to be in a relationship wif u... how about ask her to consider u as a gay... or jus bro/sis frenship. -
Originally posted by alexkusu:does she like alien stories as well?
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now this is SO true.Originally posted by soul_rage:Liking someone is a very interesting thing.
We can easily like someone, but turning into love is another thing.
I liked my gal (now wife), and after confessing that I liked her, it developed into love.
I liked another gal, and now she is my sworn sister whom has a really good relationship with me.
The issue is, gals, esp those who are passive, do not think about that SORT of 'like' which you want your gal to like you with. She likes you as a friend, a close friend, and until you declare you like her in that way, she might not even noticed it.
Most gals whom I know, tell me they are passive, and can like many guys in their passive way. However, if the guy doesn't explicitly say that he wants to go into that sort of relationship, most of them would just take you as a good friend. Only when you indicate your seriousness, will they seriously consider.
My wife never considered me more than a really good fren, until i told her i liked her in that way. Only then did she think thru and agree to go steady with me.
Bear in mind, by doing that, you risk losing her as a friend. But as another forumite said, either try or live with eternal regret. It is even worse when you see her go with another guy one day, and you DID NOT EVEN TRY.
Face it, either you try and win or lose her, or you don't try and lose her (coz I don't think you can bear seeing her with another guy, in which case, you STILL lose her friendship), so go all out and try I say! -
i see alot comment like wats the hurry?Originally posted by starblue:u ownself say u only know her not long ago. wad's the hurry? stick around and be nice to her. see how things go lah.... so desperate for wad?
so wat is actually the appropriate time frame to confess?
if too late, the girl might already give up on u already! -
you mean she likes to post weird stories and questions in the bar too?
could it be.. xinyi? -
Sad. If you really love someone from the botom of your heart, why scared rejection, you are scared because you are self protective, and if so, you don't really love her as you propose. Have you heard love is as vast as space?