An unfairly intrusion that lasted for 4 mins & made me down
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Yesterday night at 9pm, i got a sudden MSN msg from her. My ex. I was very surprise yet afraid. After 1 year + of no contacts after we broke up, she contacted me.
In the end, i was very sad and angry after this 4 mins of conversation. In the chat, she asked me not to initated any forms of contacts to her. She kept saying she hoped that we ceased all contacts from now on, she lives her life while i will live mine. She did apprec all the small gestures i did for her during the past mths. That's all. I even asked her why, till now..she say she do not need the concern. She also say, " so to just let you know, i will be deleting ur contact from now on" goodnites and she logged off, forever.
For the past few mths on impt events like her birthdays, exam periods and even..Val day, i msged her, gave her a card. I know that she will not reply but i just want to let her know of my concern to her. Later two months now, she MSN me. I am very angry by her way of doing things in the last time and now, she just intruded my life by clicking the mouse and made my life upside down again in just 4 mins. Can't she end this thing in a more humanly way or faster way..shd't she just cut me off 1 year ago. Why waited till now...
Btw, both of us are in early 20s..Love is really just an illusion. I am pretty upset yest, but now getting better. When i thought about what she say, i felt so pain in my heart. Yes, i will keep my words and shut her off from my mind now. But before penning of the world she and i together first..i know its silly.
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She's not strong to live on with you in the background, that's why she's deleting all traces of you.
There are other fish out there, take care. -
hmm... forgive her for being harsh in her ways cos she is not able to forget u completely if u kept msging her or being around her even when u both have broken up.
these types of girls are so common. dun let this set back get to u yah? there're still many interesting girls around so, just keep ur eyes and mind opened.
at least this is better than a girl cutting off all ur contacts and friendship the moment she breaks off with u. it's like turning her back on u when things turn sour. that goes to show how weak and unworthy she is.
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yeah.. move on dude.. tis is life..
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Love itself need not be an illusion... But yeah... You're DELUSIONING YOURSELF in this case...Originally posted by universe:Yesterday night at 9pm, i got a sudden MSN msg from her. My ex. I was very surprise yet afraid. After 1 year + of no contacts after we broke up, she contacted me.
In the end, i was very sad and angry after this 4 mins of conversation. In the chat, she asked me not to initated any forms of contacts to her. She kept saying she hoped that we ceased all contacts from now on, she lives her life while i will live mine. She did apprec all the small gestures i did for her during the past mths. That's all. I even asked her why, till now..she say she do not need the concern. She also say, " so to just let you know, i will be deleting ur contact from now on" goodnites and she logged off, forever.
For the past few mths on impt events like her birthdays, exam periods and even..Val day, i msged her, gave her a card. I know that she will not reply but i just want to let her know of my concern to her. Later two months now, she MSN me. I am very angry by her way of doing things in the last time and now, she just intruded my life by clicking the mouse and made my life upside down again in just 4 mins. Can't she end this thing in a more humanly way or faster way..shd't she just cut me off 1 year ago. Why waited till now...
Btw, both of us are in early 20s..Love is really just an illusion. I am pretty upset yest, but now getting better. When i thought about what she say, i felt so pain in my heart. Yes, i will keep my words and shut her off from my mind now. But before penning of the world she and i together first..i know its silly.
Since you've already broke off with each other, pls give her a break... -
Yap!!! U r a torn in a flesh to her! Maybe she actually suffer more mental stress than u could imagine..
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sad leh.
i wana keep in touch with my first love but i hesitated and think a lot..
now that i pick up the courage to do that, he nv respond.
so i tell myself, let go lor..
changed my name and contact number, really cease all contacts with my exs le. -
i think wat the girl has done is abit too much leh
need to goto this extend meh?
even not couple also can be frens right?
but ofcoz i dunno wat u have done to make her react this way
u bug her huh? try to let go.. leave her alone.. -
Yeah, most exes, somehow have the ability to turn our world topsy turvy in a matter of moments, and at the weirdest time, becoz they meant something to us... in the past.
Move on. It's easy to say but difficult to do. But most of us have been there.
Think of it this way, would you rather stay in the past and hope for something that may never come true or pick up the pieces and look to the future. -
actually to be really honest....even now...not only in the past...cos we will always have a soft spot for them...its not a matter of not letting go...but the reason why we got together in the past....I am not suggesting that we linger in the past though....when its time to move on...we should.Originally posted by Croaking_Toad:becoz they meant something to us... in the past.
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actually U should have msged her and ask if she minds U sending her msgs on her impt events when U started doing it a few months ago...but its a little too late for that now so what I would suggest is to send her a final msg saying that U will respect her decision and cut off all contact...and mean it.....dun let her wonder if U will still msg her out of the blue...move on.Originally posted by universe:Yesterday night at 9pm, i got a sudden MSN msg from her. My ex. I was very surprise yet afraid. After 1 year + of no contacts after we broke up, she contacted me.
In the end, i was very sad and angry after this 4 mins of conversation. In the chat, she asked me not to initated any forms of contacts to her. She kept saying she hoped that we ceased all contacts from now on, she lives her life while i will live mine. She did apprec all the small gestures i did for her during the past mths. That's all. I even asked her why, till now..she say she do not need the concern. She also say, " so to just let you know, i will be deleting ur contact from now on" goodnites and she logged off, forever.
For the past few mths on impt events like her birthdays, exam periods and even..Val day, i msged her, gave her a card. I know that she will not reply but i just want to let her know of my concern to her. Later two months now, she MSN me. I am very angry by her way of doing things in the last time and now, she just intruded my life by clicking the mouse and made my life upside down again in just 4 mins. Can't she end this thing in a more humanly way or faster way..shd't she just cut me off 1 year ago. Why waited till now...
Btw, both of us are in early 20s..Love is really just an illusion. I am pretty upset yest, but now getting better. When i thought about what she say, i felt so pain in my heart. Yes, i will keep my words and shut her off from my mind now. But before penning of the world she and i together first..i know its silly. -
Actualli........so be it for now.........
Start and build up your life now....only early twenties nia.... -
Come on, she most probably have found a new love and she dun want her boyfriend to ask about her past relationship or see funny sms on her phone.
That is why she is ceasing all contacts with you.
Maybe her new boyfriend is sensitive about her past relationship so she may have lied that she is never attached.
Appreciated her intention and wish her good luck.
Dun get upset about things that u dun care or care about u.
She is now just another stranger on the street that you see everyday. -
wow. she is such a bitch.
you should be feeling pissed off and angry instead of sad. she treated u as a 'thing'.. "just to let you know... i will be deleting your contact".
its as though u she controls you, she decides whether you are deleted out of her contact, and her life. similiarly, she decides that she will delete herself out of your life.
i'm preety sure she dominated your relationship in the past.. this type of girls dont make good partners. its time to move on. -
Only through making stupid mistakes will a kid grow into a man.
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at least she didnt block you
why didnt u block n delete her so u cant get any msn msg frm her? -
girls nowadays are like that sia. how i wish i was born ten years back. girls then are better. now become bachelor is the best
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Ok, I know this sounds a whole lot easier for me to say it than for you to do it, but the best idea right now is to simply forget about her as well. Since she's going to cut off all contact from you, then you should also do the same as well.
I'm sure lots of people have told you that there's plenty of fish in the sea, and I think that saying holds true in this case. It doesn't make sense for you to keep going after a particular fish which has swum away from you after you had caught it. -
saw my ex today..
2 yrs ago when i saw him at the newly opened jurong regional library, i siam him and walked away with my then suitor and later bf.
2 yrs later, today, i saw him with a girl from ITE. he was standing right in front of me again. this time i wana approach him and initiate a talk, but to cfm that it was him, i took out my specs and put it on so as not to mistaken the wrong person for him, coz i rem last time at my ite, there was a guy who looked 90% like him. when i looked up aft putting on my specs, they disappeared in sight. i search ard, and saw them crossing the road.
Jitao SAD. Came home and cry. then i web smsed him. He said he din see me, asked why he did not reply my sms that time when i tried to keep in touch with him, he said he dun want me to hate him. Then he said we can still be frens if I want to. I hesitated.. he appears everytime when I tell myself to move on and forget him.. after break up i always bump into him outside at the wrong time.. if it's a test from god, then i really fail the test everytime lor.. i cannot forget him, he's my first love. Afterall, we shared so many happy times together and I would never be able to find someone who share so many common interest with me, a nice companion, someone who can talk about anything under the sun with me. Ironically, it was me who left him. Frens asked why do I still feel the heartache then? Love too deep ma?
Then I decided.. i dun want to let go of him again.. if not, i will live to regret. -
can do it?Originally posted by browniebaobao:saw my ex today..
2 yrs ago when i saw him at the newly opened jurong regional library, i siam him and walked away with my then suitor and later bf.
2 yrs later, today, i saw him with a girl from ITE. he was standing right in front of me again. this time i wana approach him and initiate a talk, but to cfm that it was him, i took out my specs and put it on so as not to mistaken the wrong person for him, coz i rem last time at my ite, there was a guy who looked 90% like him. when i looked up aft putting on my specs, they disappeared in sight. i search ard, and saw them crossing the road.
Jitao SAD. Came home and cry. then i web smsed him. He said he din see me, asked why he did not reply my sms that time when i tried to keep in touch with him, he said he dun want me to hate him. Then he said we can still be frens if I want to. I hesitated.. he appears everytime when I tell myself to move on and forget him.. after break up i always bump into him outside at the wrong time.. if it's a test from god, then i really fail the test everytime lor.. i cannot forget him, he's my first love. Afterall, we shared so many happy times together and I would never be able to find someone who share so many common interest with me, a nice companion, someone who can talk about anything under the sun with me. Ironically, it was me who left him. Frens asked why do I still feel the heartache then? Love too deep ma?
Then I decided.. i dun want to let go of him again.. if not, i will live to regret.
Remember, not what u've decided will have the outcome u expect/want... -
humph..well wat did i sayOriginally posted by universe:Yesterday night at 9pm, i got a sudden MSN msg from her. My ex. I was very surprise yet afraid. After 1 year + of no contacts after we broke up, she contacted me.
In the end, i was very sad and angry after this 4 mins of conversation. In the chat, she asked me not to initated any forms of contacts to her. She kept saying she hoped that we ceased all contacts from now on, she lives her life while i will live mine. She did apprec all the small gestures i did for her during the past mths. That's all. I even asked her why, till now..she say she do not need the concern. She also say, " so to just let you know, i will be deleting ur contact from now on" goodnites and she logged off, forever.
For the past few mths on impt events like her birthdays, exam periods and even..Val day, i msged her, gave her a card. I know that she will not reply but i just want to let her know of my concern to her. Later two months now, she MSN me. I am very angry by her way of doing things in the last time and now, she just intruded my life by clicking the mouse and made my life upside down again in just 4 mins. Can't she end this thing in a more humanly way or faster way..shd't she just cut me off 1 year ago. Why waited till now...
Btw, both of us are in early 20s..Love is really just an illusion. I am pretty upset yest, but now getting better. When i thought about what she say, i felt so pain in my heart. Yes, i will keep my words and shut her off from my mind now. But before penning of the world she and i together first..i know its silly. -
yupOriginally posted by dcx:can do it?
Remember, not what u've decided will have the outcome u expect/want...
simple and philosophical -
BAD GURLOriginally posted by universe:Yesterday night at 9pm, i got a sudden MSN msg from her. My ex. I was very surprise yet afraid. After 1 year + of no contacts after we broke up, she contacted me.
In the end, i was very sad and angry after this 4 mins of conversation. In the chat, she asked me not to initated any forms of contacts to her. She kept saying she hoped that we ceased all contacts from now on, she lives her life while i will live mine. She did apprec all the small gestures i did for her during the past mths. That's all. I even asked her why, till now..she say she do not need the concern. She also say, " so to just let you know, i will be deleting ur contact from now on" goodnites and she logged off, forever.
For the past few mths on impt events like her birthdays, exam periods and even..Val day, i msged her, gave her a card. I know that she will not reply but i just want to let her know of my concern to her. Later two months now, she MSN me. I am very angry by her way of doing things in the last time and now, she just intruded my life by clicking the mouse and made my life upside down again in just 4 mins. Can't she end this thing in a more humanly way or faster way..shd't she just cut me off 1 year ago. Why waited till now...
Btw, both of us are in early 20s..Love is really just an illusion. I am pretty upset yest, but now getting better. When i thought about what she say, i felt so pain in my heart. Yes, i will keep my words and shut her off from my mind now. But before penning of the world she and i together first..i know its silly. -
simi outcome?Originally posted by dcx:can do it?
Remember, not what u've decided will have the outcome u expect/want...
i juz want to stay in contact, be frens, that's all. -
basically, she wants to get on with her own life, without you "disturbing" her. She knows that your little gestures are your secret hidden intention of getting her back one day. But have you spare a thought for her current bf(if she has one now)?
You and her have broken up 1 year ago...As a friend, i think you can probably just sms her on her bday or something.. Dont do anything extra, which resulted in her getting irritated instead of being appreciative.
Find a new gf dude...
good luck!