Leave or not to leave
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I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
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She don't love the man, if she love him, she will be touched by what he did instead of getting bored. Leave him before hurting him further.
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I pity the guy not the girl.Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
This is what happens after a guy had put in so much for the sake of love.
Relatioship does not go bored when both sides put in the effort to maintain it.
My advice to the girl is to tell the truth to the guy and let the guy go and find his own happiness. It may be cruel but is better than dragging.. -
She never loved him then. Feel really sad for the guy.Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him? -
bored? she think her boyfriend is a leisure or recreation ar? leave the guy so that he will not be hurt further. spending time on this girl is a hell of a waste.
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Yea, agree.Originally posted by zeny:I pity the guy not the girl.
This is what happens after a guy had put in so much for the sake of love.
Relatioship does not go bored when both sides put in the effort to maintain it.
My advice to the girl is to tell the truth to the guy and let the guy go and find his own happiness. It may be cruel but is better than dragging.. -
*Off topic - I actually thought it was xinyi!'s clone acc in AA...
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how would your friend feel if someone she loves deeply and have changed so much for the person. Tells her that he is bored with her? How would your friend feel.Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
Clearly she have not put any effort in the relationship thats why she is feeling bored.
Ask your friend if she had done anything for the guy this past 3 years?
I believed that the guy had pampered her very well but why does the girl not feel anything for it ? Reason is simple she is the receiver not the giver. She may be pretty or young for now but when she grows old, things will change.
Ask your friend to treasure what she has or else when the time comes she will not have anything in the end. -
Draw the line between dependence and love.
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Be under the embrace of love and not sympathy.Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
As suggested, it's probably a mentality issue from the girl's point of view... Whatever's the reason... You can't just hang on to someone in a love relationship like that if she's not into it... -
Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
seriously...i pity the guy
the girl clearly doesn't treasure the guy at all...
How can she maintain this r/s when there is clearly NO love/care given out by her...Originally posted by Xmimi:What should she do to maintain?
its only just guilty feeling on her part if she does maintain it
~+Cheers+~
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Yes it's true that couples will eventually get sick of seeing each other for more than 2years.Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
It's a clear fact that sg guys will do anything to please their gfs, and that's what makes them more appealling to ang moh girls. Even though they aren't romantic enough compared to their ang moh counterparts.
Well, actually it's both at fault here in this common situation. Girls will always have some sort of complaints here and then....some expectations that they would like guys to match. Guys on the other hand are extremely clueless when dealing with the complaints/suggestions/nagging, they would want to find the fastest and easiest solution to resolve it...usually by giving it to girls' demand.
But is that what the girl really wanted? Were the complaints valid enough to the guy that they have to change? Love is indeed powerful isn't it? People change for one another without even thinking if it is really necessary at all. And eventually they don't realised that they've changed into someone else different who isn't the one which they were loved initially. That's what happen when both guy and girl tries to change each other and giving in to each other's demands...be it win or lose, it's pure silly behaviour of a child inside both of them.
In fact, I wished guys here would behave more like guys if only they thought carefully before giving in to their girlfriends. Demands that will affect the future happiness of the relationship shouldn't be easily given in to their girlfriends. Hehehe...girls sometimes demanded alot of nonsense from guys, only the silly ones will give in without second thoughts.
I'm not asking guys out there to tell their girlfriends to shut up ok?
Just suggesting that it's always best get hold of your rational mind and don't allow your emotional mind to take over the way you run your relationship.
No matter what happens, guys will always love girls and girls will make them feel like wanna die but cannot live without them.
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Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him? A woman needs a man, not a slave.
The minute the man loses himself and become servile, he blurred the reason/s why she falls in love with him.
This respect is lost.
And Love follow suit shortly.
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wait a few years later the exact same words used against the girl..
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it depends on ur character... its all in the mindset... maybe the guy jz dun suit her lifestyle... she needs a bad guy to abuse her n treat her like crap... n in the process she can hv her excitement... tell her to be content wif wat the guy is doing for her...Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him? -
I feel that the guy is largely at fault. What a wuss. Girls will never truly like guys who change for them (even though they say so).Originally posted by Xmimi:I have a friend who is in a relationship for 3 years. The guy changed everything for her and do everything for her. However she found that after the 3 years she is bored of the relationship. She is not happy despite the fact that the guy had changed everything for her. She wanted to leave the relationship. Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years? What should she do to maintain? Or should she just leave him?
It's a mistake they were even together.
Call me a chauvinist
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*clap clap clap*.... well said...Originally posted by Yunhaier: A woman needs a man, not a slave.
The minute the man loses himself and become servile, he blurred the reason/s why she falls in love with him.
This respect is lost.
And Love follow suit shortly.
Cheers
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yes, itÂ’s true that r/s will get bored aft a few yrs (cus human r always craving for better things)..Originally posted by Xmimi:Is it true that a relationship will get bored after a few years?
What should she do to maintain?
Or should she just leave him?
she must not eye for another guy (which it quite impossible)..
yes, she shld jus leave him, cus thereÂ’s no pt being together liao..