The 90/10 Principle
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Enjoy, applies to many issues, especially those who asked me how one can raise one's optimism in life...
The 90/10 Principle
WHAT is the 90/10 Principle? It means that 10 percent of life is made up of
what happens to you; 90 percent of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10 percent of what happens to us.
For instance, we cannot stop the car from breaking down, the plane from
arriving late, which throws our whole schedule off. We have no control
over this 10 percent. The other 90 percent is different. You can control
the 90 percent.
How? By your reaction.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down
in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows. you storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.Your spouse must
leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you
arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get
worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you
find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of your reaction that morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in
those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have been done and should have happened. Coffee splashes
over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's OK honey,
you just need to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After pulling out a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back
down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the
bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you go to work.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same.
Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
Apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life - at least the way you
react to situations.
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Strange mutual dependence this, in which the appearance
needs the reality in order to exists, but the reality
needs the appearance in order to be known
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no wonder im such a successful person in life.
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the 90/10 principle also applies to kissing...
its about going 90% of the way...and holding that 10%...
though its different idea from lau's concept...its still 90/10
picked it from "Hitch" -
interesting topic u have here.. but sometimes when one had a bad mood or a bad day its not easy to control his/her emotion or reaction when such things happen. So in the end, nothing much can be done.
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if its easy , then everyone will be successful in life.Originally posted by cannonprinter:interesting topic u have here.. but sometimes when one had a bad mood or a bad day its not easy to control his/her emotion or reaction when such things happen. So in the end, nothing much can be done. -
Right, success in life depends on how you react and whether you can react correctly.
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Ya right, many times we cannot control whatever has happened, and it's really up to us to deal with it.
Well, the scenario above is a small case. But if it comes to big issues that involves feelings, death etc, it wun be that easy to follow the 90/10 principle.
Who would want to be unhappy (for long term)? Nobody.
Then why are they unhappy? -
is this something new?
i only heard of 80/20 principle. -
true, i read somewhere from books that it is the 80/20 principleOriginally posted by dragg:is this something new?
i only heard of 80/20 principle.
but i guess some of us here miss the point
its not about the numbers 80/20, 90/10 or anything
its not about what correct methods to achieve thing successfully
its about attitude really -
HAHAHA. are we suppose to follow rules in our life?
NO! we do what we feel like, and choose whatever our heart tells us.
no such thing as what 90/10 principle.. we choose our actions we bear the consequences.. there is no such thing as no control.. your life, your own control.. -
well, basically, u have just summarised some parts of this principleOriginally posted by FadeToBlack:HAHAHA. are we suppose to follow rules in our life?
NO! we do what we feel like, and choose whatever our heart tells us.
no such thing as what 90/10 principle.. we choose our actions we bear the consequences.. there is no such thing as no control.. your life, your own control..
again, its not about the numbers
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i thnk..if we all just learn to be more forgiving and look on the brighter side...everything will go well for us
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i knw who this thread is for... hmmm am i rite ah lau ?
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a lot of peopleOriginally posted by ETboy:i knw who this thread is for... hmmm am i rite ah lau ? -
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Nice idea ....
But I get affected by small incidents sometimes, and when my mood is down, it's hard to react positively to the things ard me -
can be applied to numbers too.....Originally posted by laurence82:well, basically, u have just summarised some parts of this principle
again, its not about the numbers
e.g on cost of a project.... 10% if the number of your suppliers usually make up 90% of ur cost in term of value...... same.... 90% of the transaction usually make up to only 10% of the value only... -
Nice 1 lol
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well, its more of or less ofOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):can be applied to numbers too.....
e.g on cost of a project.... 10% if the number of your suppliers usually make up 90% of ur cost in term of value...... same.... 90% of the transaction usually make up to only 10% of the value only...
what i mean by its not about the numbers, is because its really not about the numbers
its more of an intuitive measurement, guts feelings etc
also, it can be 90/10, 80/20, 70/30..whatever, but what counts is the reaction and attitudes towards events in your life -
Originally posted by R3SsH|n:the 90/10 principle also applies to kissing...
its about going 90% of the way...and holding that 10%...
though its different idea from lau's concept...its still 90/10
picked it from "Hitch" -
Thanks for sharing, ah Lau.
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yea hehe
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Learn to slowly run a balance and control plan over these 3 things...Originally posted by pete_parker:Nice idea ....
But I get affected by small incidents sometimes, and when my mood is down, it's hard to react positively to the things ard me
Emotions, attitude & behaviors...
It's a bit like anger management... Except that 'anger' is only one of the many emotions... Nobody say it's easy, but with time... You should see yourself achieving more...?