am i overly sensitive??

• I.M.ME

  10 Jun 06, 17:34

  i have a fren who like to call me whenever he's lonely, eg waiting for bus, walking to interchange.. blah blah... to be honest, i find it a little irritating as he has a gf already and he could have call his gf to pass his time
  
  now the problem.. recently my gf called him up once for someone's else contact and then carried on a long telephone chat till 1am. since then this guy has been calling my gf to pass his time so often that i get jealous..
  
  i even suspect now that he knows my gf more than me.. esp my gf is having problems with work yet my gf always tell me: lets not talk abt work.. and this guy recently got msn and tell him my gf the moment he got it set up.. he nvr like online chatting before..
  
  i'm so jealous of this guy... my gf is spending more time on him than on me... (my gf knows he's attached)... am i worrying unneccessarily?
• browniebaobao

  10 Jun 06, 17:38

  maybe his gf dun like to talk to him on the phone mah.
  
  and then when guys have prob, usually they wun tell their gf first de.
• casino_king

  10 Jun 06, 18:00

  Originally posted by I.M.ME:

  i have a fren who like to call me whenever he's lonely, eg waiting for bus, walking to interchange.. blah blah... to be honest, i find it a little irritating as he has a gf already and he could have call his gf to pass his time
  
  now the problem.. recently my gf called him up once for someone's else contact and then carried on a long telephone chat till 1am. since then this guy has been calling my gf to pass his time so often that i get jealous..
  
  i even suspect now that he knows my gf more than me.. esp my gf is having problems with work yet my gf always tell me: lets not talk abt work.. and this guy recently got msn and tell him my gf the moment he got it set up.. he nvr like online chatting before..
  
  i'm so jealous of this guy... my gf is spending more time on him than on me... (my gf knows he's attached)... am i worrying unneccessarily?

  If you think you are overly sensitive, then you are! If you think that you are not; then you are not!
  
  Your perception is the reality.
  
  If your gf doesn't mind talking to him, then it is none of your business. You can try to stop it or you can just control your own thoughts.
  
  If you try to control your own thoughts, nothing happens and life goes on. If you try to stop him or or gf; your relationship might sour.
  
  I prefer that you control your own thoughts. BTW how old are you 3?
  
  I am not trying to be kaypoh, it is important because if you are very young and not thinking about getting married any time soon... wth, enjoy life while you can and stop getting worked up for nothing.
• dakkon_blackblade

  10 Jun 06, 18:10

  I think you should trust your girlfriend, and have more confidence in yourself. A little jealousy may be normal in any relationship, but too much of it can be harmful.
• FadeToBlack

  10 Jun 06, 21:35

  
  Trust is important in a relationship and mutual.
  
  However, i am going to say that, some people just abuse with this trust. If you give them too much of it, that they took for granted and began to play with your feelings.
  
  so... i'd say, if you think you're over sensitive, then you should start talking to your gf about it. Talk it carefully, slowly and most of all, you must say the truth and respect whatever decision she comes up with.
  Work something out. It's no use thinking now later, or forever.
  No use if you don't think either.
  Let actions do the talking.
  Tell her sincerely how you feel about this situation..
• hyperactivechatterbox

  11 Jun 06, 11:10

  I think you should tell your girlfriend how you feel about that.
  
  Your girlfriend and your friend can probably get along well, but possibly...
• casino_king

  11 Jun 06, 11:13

  Originally posted by FadeToBlack:

  Trust is important in a relationship and mutual.
  
  However, i am going to say that, some people just abuse with this trust. If you give them too much of it, that they took for granted and began to play with your feelings.
  
  so... i'd say, if you think you're over sensitive, then you should start talking to your gf about it. Talk it carefully, slowly and most of all, you must say the truth and respect whatever decision she comes up with.
  Work something out. It's no use thinking now later, or forever.
  No use if you don't think either.
  Let actions do the talking.
  Tell her sincerely how you feel about this situation..

  You are a bad nut. You have to give all and unconditionally. How the other respond is their business. It is not something you try to control.
• technoboy

  11 Jun 06, 11:15

  Find some place peaceful and have a heart to heart talk with her. During that talk just be truthful to her and tell her anything that you're not happy with. I guess she'll also tell you the reason for why she keeps talking to the other guy.
  
  Well, work out a solution from there. Good luck!
• technoboy

  11 Jun 06, 11:16

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  You are a bad nut. You have to give all and unconditionally. How the other respond is their business. It is not something you try to control.

  Lol, I don't think thats very good. If you give all to the other party while what you get is just shit, it isn't fair right?
• Devil1976

  11 Jun 06, 23:58

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  You are a bad nut. You have to give all and unconditionally. How the other respond is their business. It is not something you try to control.

  Nope. Loving unconditionally often doesn't mean you love blindly...?
  
  I think FadeToBlack has got his own point to deliver... COMMUNICATION which is an important aspect of a relationship not to be overlooked.. You are right in a way that he shouldn't oversensitive (applicable to most cases), but that doesn't make he should tone down on his own communication with his gf and building on a proper foundation as well..
• weijian

  12 Jun 06, 03:21

  Originally posted by FadeToBlack:

  Trust is important in a relationship and mutual.
  
  However, i am going to say that, some people just abuse with this trust. If you give them too much of it, that they took for granted and began to play with your feelings.
  
  so... i'd say, if you think you're over sensitive, then you should start talking to your gf about it. Talk it carefully, slowly and most of all, you must say the truth and respect whatever decision she comes up with.
  Work something out. It's no use thinking now later, or forever.
  No use if you don't think either.
  Let actions do the talking.
  Tell her sincerely how you feel about this situation..

  +1
  
  

  Originally posted by hyperactivechatterbox:

  I think you should tell your girlfriend how you feel about that.
  
  Your girlfriend and your friend can probably get along well, but possibly...

  maybe they both can become buddies, as she knows he's attached!!
  don't dwell too much, it's not healthy at all.
  
  must trust her and have faith in her la
• corebooster

  12 Jun 06, 04:02

  i spend more time with my god-sister then my GF. why? because there are some issues which i cannot bring up to my GF. for example, regarding monetary issue, regarding job issues. I am always scared that she worry for me. i always want her to be happy. whereas my god-sister is a problem solver to me. Trust urself n your GF. if things get out of hand. a simple yet warm converstaion is always good.
  
  For example after dinner on the mrt, or on a walk. Dear ah, this few days u talk so much to ah wei(for example ur fren name) share some with me lah, ah wei also got his own gf leh, later u talk to him, he no time talk to hes GF. lol.
  try to talk in a jokily manner, do not ever turn stern etc. it will affect her stance on the question.
• alexkusu

  12 Jun 06, 05:38

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  You are a bad nut. You have to give all and unconditionally. How the other respond is their business. It is not something you try to control.

  here is a gambling man
• dragg

  12 Jun 06, 08:53

  why dont you call and chat with his girlfriend?
  
  
• FORGET-ME-NOT

  13 Jun 06, 14:37

  You chit chat with him more then he don't have the time to talk to your girlfriend. Becareful, some chitchat may lead to love someday. When your girlfriend thinks he is more concern about her.