torturing relationship...
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i am wif tis gal for almost a year... but i really don like the feeling when im wif her occassionally... sometimes... she can let mi feel very happy and i feel like im the most fortunate guy... but sometimes... she can let mi feel tat she has other guys outside... i duno y... maybe is i tink too much... but i gonna type it down... so tat u all can gif mi some help... thx...
everytime at nite... we talk on phone... she will feel tired quite early... den i ask her go slp... she say ok... den nxt morning... she came up my hse... she continued to slp... from morning till night... how can she be sleeping so long when she had slept the whole nite at home... i was tinking... "did she went out after our phone calls?"
and when she go out wif me... she intend to say i nid reach home by 9pm or 10pm... but when she is out wif other frenz... 11plus oso nvm... she will tell me her mum today slping or will be home late....
a lot excuses from her de... sometimes i really feel like asking her... does she still loves me... or she had other bf outside... cuz i really don like the feeling... fancy meeting me almost everyday... either sleeping or rushing home at nite after she woke up.... really hate it...
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Dont like the feeling or dont like her?
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U seem to be very suspcious of her.
U dun trust her.
Can't she have other reason for sleeping late?
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some ppl jus love to slp..
IÂ’m one of them and ur gf might be one of them too..
always look at the bright side.. -
why dun u jus ask her? tell her you are feeling insecure..
btw, alot of gals like to sleep alot, me oso
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U must learn to trust her... unless u find out she is unfaithful lor..
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Guys nowadays tend to be the possesive lot...this is what i discovered... actually to the extent that they need to know their g/fs every move....
actually this is quite suffocating for both parties leh...i think sometimes we have to put a little bit of kong jian for both parties... and to have more confidence in the other party as well.. -
R U sure? Mostly it is the gers... guys very openminded one leh.Originally posted by pingsquare:Guys nowadays tend to be the possesive lot...this is what i discovered... actually to the extent that they need to know their g/fs every move....
actually this is quite suffocating for both parties leh...i think sometimes we have to put a little bit of kong jian for both parties... and to have more confidence in the other party as well..
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Dont read too much into things..Some people jus like to slp..i like to slp alot too..besides her sleeping habits, what made u think that she's being unfaithful?
When she's with you does she gets lots of sms/phone calls? I used to be suspicious of my bf too..well, actually i stil am..i guess it all boils down to insecurity and lack of self confi
Try to brush away those nagging thots..what's urs will be urs..cheerio~! -
Think she is soothing and comfortable begin with you.
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if you 2 can take jokes, then say
eh you pig ah, need sleep how many hours, yesterday sleep not enough ah today come my hse slp.
i think you should like that ask her lor, see her reaction, and deciper from her expression.
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she is playing with you la. cfm + chop. play gal lai de.
watch "the art of seduction" u will understand.
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If you have no confidence in her, then ask her out to a cafe, speak to her on this, don't let it drag and let the snowball roll down the hill, by the time the snowball reaches the foot of the hill, it will be too big to handle, and when the time comes, bang into the tree, off the both of you in your each separate ways.
Let her know how you feel, ask her why the difference in timing when she's with her frenz and when she's with you. Find out from her, you position in her heart.
Not being an mcp here, but if you want to maintain this relationship, get to know what she thinks.
If your girlfriend can't sleep well at night, and comes to your place to sleep all day long, at least be happy that she feels at peace with you around her, you still have a place in her heart, not to worry on that, just speak to her nicely. -
Other than what you've stated... Are there other reasons to make you suspect that she might have other guys outside...?Originally posted by sadboyboy:i am wif tis gal for almost a year... but i really don like the feeling when im wif her occassionally... sometimes... she can let mi feel very happy and i feel like im the most fortunate guy... but sometimes... she can let mi feel tat she has other guys outside... i duno y... maybe is i tink too much... but i gonna type it down... so tat u all can gif mi some help... thx...
everytime at nite... we talk on phone... she will feel tired quite early... den i ask her go slp... she say ok... den nxt morning... she came up my hse... she continued to slp... from morning till night... how can she be sleeping so long when she had slept the whole nite at home... i was tinking... "did she went out after our phone calls?"
and when she go out wif me... she intend to say i nid reach home by 9pm or 10pm... but when she is out wif other frenz... 11plus oso nvm... she will tell me her mum today slping or will be home late....
a lot excuses from her de... sometimes i really feel like asking her... does she still loves me... or she had other bf outside... cuz i really don like the feeling... fancy meeting me almost everyday... either sleeping or rushing home at nite after she woke up.... really hate it...
can anyone help mi....
How old are the both of you...? -
waiting for ur reply to mod.
at the moment i can ask u a few questions
Who started the relationship?
Why did u start this relationship?
If u really love your gf, you should realise that you should respect/understand and most importantly trust her.
You must also search yourself. what gives you such insecurity that she has other bf outside? Is it that your are feeling inferior or is your GF such a beauty that she stuns everyone who walks down the street? There are signs which will make u feel this insecurity, what are this signs? please specify them. when u are able to say out this signs, then you are able to figure out it.
Sleeps. Yes sleep is essential to us. I ask u smth, how long do your know this GF of yours?You know her for 1 year plus already! you should roughly know whether she is a person who sleeps long/short. For example, I myself is a person who can sleep from 1am til 5pm wake up, eat dinner, watch tv, den turn to bed at 1am den wake up at 5pm again. It is down to individuals. there are also people who sleep at 1am wake up at 9am and unable to continue their sleep. is this just another sleeping pattern of hers or just your insecurity? or she may have problems sleeping due to some reasons.
Going out late. There are various reasons why she is able to come home late with her girlfriends but not with you. firstly, she may wish to hang out with her girl friends longer and therefore choose the day to hang out when her mom gets home late. and she may also feel, i been hanging out with u so frequently, if we dun spend that much time tonite, we can spend more time tml. Secondly, her parents may give her a curfew while hanging out with you, but do not give a curfew while hanging out with her girlfriends. maybe because her girlfriends are closer to their parents? you may not know.
a lot excuses from her de... sometimes i really feel like asking her... does she still loves me... or she had other bf outside... cuz i really don like the feeling... fancy meeting me almost everyday... either sleeping or rushing home at nite after she woke up.... really hate it...
regarding the above paragraph, wad excuses she give? If she have BFs outside, and me believeing that she is a very long sleeper, how could she have time for other BFs?.
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It is very likely that you are being played by her, for reasons that only you and her know. She might find you too boring, but chose to stay on with you as she is too used to the relationship. When a guy she fancies more than you enters her life, it is likely that she will leave you for him.
Essentially, you've become her door mat. You're being too nice to her. Women love guys who can be both good and bad boys at the appropriate moments. -
thx for all yr rreplies.... i will try to tink of a way out for myself... thx for all yr comments....
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since she always slp..
then u slp with her loh..
dun get me wrong..
slp together doesn't mean u guys gonna do anything..
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looking at ur topic title, torturing relationship..
since it's a torture, there's no pt being together liao..
better break up then.. -
i think applies mostly to sexOriginally posted by casino_king:R U sure? Mostly it is the gers... guys very openminded one leh. -
i think guys are very openminded when it comes to themselves. but when it comes to their own girls, its a total different story.
Of course not all guys are like that thou. *shrugs*
btw, i am a guy. -
I mean guys don't mind whatever siht their gerfriends do right? They are always busy living their own lives right? It is the gers who want the guys to spend more time with them right?
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not true?Originally posted by casino_king:I mean guys don't mind whatever siht their gerfriends do right? They are always busy living their own lives right? It is the gers who want the guys to spend more time with them right?
i do care what my gf is doing, who she is with and stuff.
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If she have another bf.. why would she meet u almost everyday?? If she is really a play gal.. think she won't wanna spent almost everyday for a yr lo..