i'm stuck. what should i do??
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i need some help,i would really appreciate it thanks..... there is this girl i really like for some time already but i never had the confident and courage.. and recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
but yet..she did not break contact with me.. she initate conversation with me again later in the day but didn't mention anything about my attempt earlier in day. and thereafter i find it so hard to initate conversation with her anymore and we talk lesser .. i don't know if its me or what but i feel that she is reluctant to chat anymore.
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
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Wait till her mind is clearer then ask her again the same question.
Or, another intepretation is that she never thought about such things together with you. So, the best is to remain as friends bah.
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first of all how well do u know her? got date her before?
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i understand how u feel.. it seems kinda awkward to speak to her ever since tat attempt yeah? well... i know u like her very much, but u must understand that her reply of saying she don't know means that she doesn't want to break this friendship... or maybe she isn't mentally prepared yet for relationship.. well, i personally think that for the time being, remains as friends... take this opportunity to get to know her even better... this is not the time for u to neglect this friendship or wad... well, even if u cant be boyfriend girlfriend, u two still can be really great friends yeah? perhaps this is only a crush... time will prove everything.. all the best to you =) Cheers ~
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i still lament every now and then about my regrets not telling my secondary school sweet heart how much i was in love with her.
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think of the brighter side.. perhaps it is a good thing u nv tell her yeah?Originally posted by Deportivo:i still lament every now and then about my regrets not telling my secondary school sweet heart how much i was in love with her. -
You have come to the right place because almost all of us here have gone through the experience...Originally posted by nerfz:i need some help,i would really appreciate it thanks..... there is this girl i really like for some time already but i never had the confident and courage.. and recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
but yet..she did not break contact with me.. she initate conversation with me again later in the day but didn't mention anything about my attempt earlier in day. and thereafter i find it so hard to initate conversation with her anymore and we talk lesser .. i don't know if its me or what but i feel that she is reluctant to chat anymore.
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
Just keep cool. Take it easy and casual. After you have calmed down and she has calmed down like a month or so... ask her for a date. Just don't do anything stupid that makes you so desperate.
Stare at her and smile at her to let her know you like her but don't do "abnormal" stuff and scare her away.
Your big mistake was to confront her directly... she must think you siao.
You should have just asked her to go out with you... anywhere, just be together. Nobody ask this type of things. -
Guess she just want to remain as friends.
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She just don't want to hurt you by rejecting you verbally, that's why she said she don't know.Originally posted by nerfz:i need some help,i would really appreciate it thanks..... there is this girl i really like for some time already but i never had the confident and courage.. and recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
but yet..she did not break contact with me.. she initate conversation with me again later in the day but didn't mention anything about my attempt earlier in day. and thereafter i find it so hard to initate conversation with her anymore and we talk lesser .. i don't know if its me or what but i feel that she is reluctant to chat anymore.
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
It does feels terrible to be stuck without an identity right?
You don't know if she's considering or she's rejected you right? Go ask her and find out the sad revelation from her. But be emotionally prepared for it.
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dont force...just wait...she will tell u when shes ready...but u do stand a good chance if she actually still talks to u later in the day...
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Don't do too many presumptions at this point... Just carry on as usual...Originally posted by nerfz:i need some help,i would really appreciate it thanks..... there is this girl i really like for some time already but i never had the confident and courage.. and recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
but yet..she did not break contact with me.. she initate conversation with me again later in the day but didn't mention anything about my attempt earlier in day. and thereafter i find it so hard to initate conversation with her anymore and we talk lesser .. i don't know if its me or what but i feel that she is reluctant to chat anymore.
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
Feel free to drop tiny hints of interest from time to time if you may... Take note not to overdo things though? Her natural reactions should tell you more or less if she's interested in most cases... -
friendship last longer than loveOriginally posted by FORGET-ME-NOT:Guess she just want to remain as friends. -
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So lonely, so lonely, (so lonely), Mr. Lonely -
I don't think I need to give any more advice than what has been already been churned out by others on this thread, so I'll just address the abovementioned.Originally posted by nerfz:its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
When she says she doesn't know, it could really be a genuine case that she doesn't know(as in she might not be prepared for a relationship at this point in time, she isn't sure if you're the one for her, among a list of other countless possibilities) - hence, do not try to read between the lines when there is, in all likelihood, nothing there to begin with. In other words, she'd probably have given the same reply had someone else(barring someone whom she has a strong sense of revulsion for) done what you did, which also suggests her seemingly negative response was not reserved exclusively for you(perhaps, she doesn't even know her reaction had sowed the faintest notion of rejection in your mind!).
Clearly, the fact that she still makes the effort to initiate a conversation with you after the incident is a clear indication it wasn't a outright rejection. I suppose only time will tell if anything comes of this, but I see nothing to suggest she actually rejected you. -
actually i think diff girls means diff things leh.Originally posted by nerfz:i need some help,i would really appreciate it thanks..... there is this girl i really like for some time already but i never had the confident and courage.. and recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
its the first time i ever done something like this. and the answer was she said she don't know ... i guess its a polite way of rejection.
but yet..she did not break contact with me.. she initate conversation with me again later in the day but didn't mention anything about my attempt earlier in day. and thereafter i find it so hard to initate conversation with her anymore and we talk lesser .. i don't know if its me or what but i feel that she is reluctant to chat anymore.
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
last time my ex i asked her a first time and she did not say dunno she straight away rejected me.
HOWEVER, like u described, she initiated conversation with me at times and before long i cannot take it and asked her again and she agreed.
so...i think u need to rely on your gut feeling or juz simply have a talk with her la whether she wants to remain friends or what.. make things clear instead of guessing and guessing and getting it wrong. -
u have come to the rite place nt mainly bcuz there r thsoe who expereinced it,Originally posted by casino_king:You have come to the right place because almost all of us here have gone through the experience...
Just keep cool. Take it easy and casual. After you have calmed down and she has calmed down like a month or so... ask her for a date. Just don't do anything stupid that makes you so desperate.
Stare at her and smile at her to let her know you like her but don't do "abnormal" stuff and scare her away.
Your big mistake was to confront her directly... she must think you siao.
You should have just asked her to go out with you... anywhere, just be together. Nobody ask this type of things.
its really due to concern ppl like casino_king who is wiling to hear ur pm abt ur probs -
thanks for all the reply.
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Rearranging it...Friendship then love, last longer.Originally posted by used:friendship last longer than love
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Haaa.... normally friendship will never end up love. Because she will fall in love with others before you confess. Tell her and be prepared to lost her as a friend.
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You no strategy or planning. She say don't know means 'could be yes' or 'could be no'. It can be quite critical at that point to 'seal the deal' by convincing her you both could try it out and express strongly how you feel towards her repeatedly.
Sometimes, even better not to say anything after, just hold her hand and see how it goes.
Sigh, you so stone, of course no chance. -
Well.. She didn't tell u direct that she dun like u.. So u are still 50/50... or maybe she need time to think? U said u will regret later on in ur life if u didn't tell her.. BUT do u know if u walk out of her life NOW... the person who regret most is U. U all stilll can be friend wa..why must do til such an extreme of forget her? So u are saiding if u cannot be lover . u cannot be friend ah??Originally posted by nerfz:\recently i pluck up my courage and tried to bring the relationship to the next level because i'm afraid i might regret later on in my life and also because the feeling just grow so much stronger than before.i'm still wondering if i what i did was correct..
i don't know what to do anymore.should i forget her? how can i forget her? i like her so much that i dream of her. i think of her all the time.. and my heart hurts
U selfish IDIOT!!! -
Maybe she need more time, ask her directly. We are not her, only she knows the reason. No harm being honest, if she reject then remain as friend. You also know what to do. To look for another or wait.
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cannot be friends one lah. It hurts too much to see her with somebody else. only when it does not hurt anymore, then and only then can be friends.Originally posted by spycampers:Well.. She didn't tell u direct that she dun like u.. So u are still 50/50... or maybe she need time to think? U said u will regret later on in ur life if u didn't tell her.. BUT do u know if u walk out of her life NOW... the person who regret most is U. U all stilll can be friend wa..why must do til such an extreme of forget her? So u are saiding if u cannot be lover . u cannot be friend ah??
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Can be friend lah, just don't see loh when she is with somebody else. No harm having another friend.
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however the longer you wait the harder you fallOriginally posted by FORGET-ME-NOT:Maybe she need more time, ask her directly. We are not her, only she knows the reason. No harm being honest, if she reject then remain as friend. You also know what to do. To look for another or wait.