Frd's Dad just passed away -
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Hi everyone,
there is this gal whom i knew for some time and i have gone out a few times,
i just saw her on the streets just now and she told me that she is feeling very down as her dad just passed away 2 weeks back.
Is that anything i can do to cheer her up?
SHould i bring her to the seaside to enjoy the see breeze?
let her shout out all her sadness?
or a small cafe ?
or mountain top?
any suggestions is welcome! -
No you shouldnt. In times like this, i think she wanna be more closer to people she is closer with. You may tell her that you will be there if she needs you to. But other that tat... i think u shld give her some space to let her mourn.
tats my opinion though. -
hi mhcampboy,Originally posted by mhcampboy:No you shouldnt. In times like this, i think she wanna be more closer to people she is closer with. You may tell her that you will be there if she needs you to. But other that tat... i think u shld give her some space to let her mourn.
tats my opinion though.
thanks for your view, yeah...i did thought about it...more time wif her immediate family n frds...and I'm not really that close to her...but she was there when i broke up wif my ex-gf.
n she gave me some really good advice .
i really wana return the favour and be there for her...this time ard...when she is at her lowest point in her life..
but i really dun know what to say to her...or do to make her feel better....
yeah...calling her or sms ...seems to be the rite thing..
but i wana do a bit more... -
Hmmm... well actually, you could ask her out you know. go and have a quite dinner together. but dun bring her to arcade and sorts la. hahahOriginally posted by ricardo79:hi mhcampboy,
thanks for your view, yeah...i did thought about it...more time wif her immediate family n frds...and I'm not really that close to her...but she was there when i broke up wif my ex-gf.
n she gave me some really good advice .
i really wana return the favour and be there for her...this time ard...when she is at her lowest point in her life..
but i really dun know what to say to her...or do to make her feel better....
yeah...calling her or sms ...seems to be the rite thing..
but i wana do a bit more...
since its already been 2 weeks... im sure its ok to hang out with her...so that she wont be so tensed up. -
since she is down then offer to pay her a visit n bring her to sightseeing... maybe beach...Originally posted by ricardo79:Hi everyone,
there is this gal whom i knew for some time and i have gone out a few times,
i just saw her on the streets just now and she told me that she is feeling very down as her dad just passed away 2 weeks back.
Is that anything i can do to cheer her up?
SHould i bring her to the seaside to enjoy the see breeze?
let her shout out all her sadness?
or a small cafe ?
or mountain top?
any suggestions is welcome! -
it depends ba.
let her know that u are there for her when she needs you is enough.
after my dad passed away, i was in a kinda state of isolation. I just shut my door to anyone.
applied 2 weeks leave from sch, stayed at home and looked after my mum. Could not catch up with sch work, health went worse, i was under tremendous stress. -
i think u shd leave her alone
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juz dun mention the words "DAD", "PAPA", "DADDY", "FATHER", etc
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got one insensitive netfren actually asked me whether I was happy since my dad passed away..Originally posted by Ah Cek:juz dun mention the words "DAD", "PAPA", "DADDY", "FATHER", etc -
huh? ur fren assume u and ur dad not in good terms?Originally posted by browniebaobao:got one insensitive netfren actually asked me whether I was happy since my dad passed away.. -
The best idea is not to talk about the matter (her father, funeral, etc) unless if she brings it up first.
Rather, just treat her the same way you usually would. The worst thing you can do is bring it up and upset her all over again just as she's getting over it. -
how i know?Originally posted by Ah Cek:huh? ur fren assume u and ur dad not in good terms?
that girl ar... really made me wana cry.. -
Even if not good terms, I wouldn't say that. Somehow, there's still the gratitude and you'll feel upset. No matter how much you 'hate' him on the outside.Originally posted by Ah Cek:huh? ur fren assume u and ur dad not in good terms? -
I agree with campboy, you should just let her know you are there for her...
I think that maybe you should just listen to her...? Play games with her that would take her mind off things. But... I don't think you should take her out. Scully she sees dads... -
Hi everyone thanks for your views.Originally posted by hyperactivechatterbox:I agree with campboy, you should just let her know you are there for her...
I think that maybe you should just listen to her...? Play games with her that would take her mind off things. But... I don't think you should take her out. Scully she sees dads...
i think play games is good...maybe broad games / card games...yeah
sometimes causal...not too serious..
or maybe i bring her for coffee at some little cafe...just talk..n avoid the "sensitive topics"
yeah...then leave her alone for some time....
n sms her that she can contact me - if she ever needs someone to talk to.
Cheerz,
Ricardo -
For now juz leave her alone but b4 t hat,give her a handmake gift[eg.cards,seashell,coloured powdered sand]Originally posted by ricardo79:Hi everyone thanks for your views.
i think play games is good...maybe broad games / card games...yeah
sometimes causal...not too serious..
or maybe i bring her for coffee at some little cafe...just talk..n avoid the "sensitive topics"
yeah...then leave her alone for some time....
n sms her that she can contact me - if she ever needs someone to talk to.
Cheerz,
Ricardo
after a period,bring her out and back into tune once more -
Give her a big hug....
Let her cries out...
Give her a pet.......
....on her shoulder...
Kiss her on her forehead(AT YOUR RISK)... but it could be sweet as a friend though...
Do things to cheer her up.... even at the cost of making yourself looked stupid!
Do everything..... just to make her happy.. -
i would do exactly the same!!Originally posted by FadeToBlack:Give her a big hug....
Let her cries out...
Give her a pet.......
....on her shoulder...
Kiss her on her forehead(AT YOUR RISK)... but it could be sweet as a friend though...
Do things to cheer her up.... even at the cost of making yourself looked stupid!
Do everything..... just to make her happy..