hmmm sorry to trouble u ppl here
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i hav a ger whom we met for sumtimes...recently we both expressed that we loved each other...jus that...the ger felt she wasnt ready for a relationship yet...so they were going out and such...but not labelling each other...the ger's parents onli wan her to go into relationship after uni...shes takin O this yr and i'm in poly...i dun wan to affect her studies so i encourage her in doin well for her sch work and i'll be waiting till after her Os..but she felt that i'm suffering waiting for her...which i'm totally not at all...i explained to her...but there's so much she's saying such as she dun wan mi to do all this for her and that i'm doing too much for her...things such as creating a blog to write bout her and all which i felt was actually the least i can do...i was helpless watching her suffer due to stress of the parents and her studies...she believe once sch start she has less time for mi which i told her i understand and tell her to push hard through the O lvl after that jiu can enjoy...but sumhow she always feels i'm doin too much for her...and that now she wants to leave mi...i realli dun want that to happen..i noe its alot of stress but i believe this is really nt the best solution and i'm sure when we finally get together everything will be alright..but she doesnt even allow mi the chance to get there wif her...till the very end she still tells mi she loves mi and i noe veri well...and i'm realli struggling...i was realli depressed when she told mi to leave..but after which i stood up again and back to my confident self and try to explain and tell her everything...but she's not replying to my msg nor answering my calls...and the fact that her best fren is on her stand of believing leaving mi is the best for both of us is nt helping...her fren even use our different lifestyle as a reason of mi and her conflicting...its like...haiz...i realli dunno wat to do thus i posted this msg...sorry to bother u ppl here but if sumone can help mi improve my situation pls do!! i noe sum ppl wud prolly feel that leaving might be better but i'm sure if i did i'll regret so i dun wan to...thanks in advance
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You know what you want, what's stopping you? It sucks to live with regret.
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pls paragraph next time.
go for it, dun regret anything in life. -
so what do you want now?? since you already say u dun wan to leave...
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sorry for not paragraphing...right now i'm already trying my best...i tried contacting her see doesnt respond i kinda noe she sees my msg becoz her fren seem to be able to contact her...wat's stopping mi right now?? hmm i'm nt exactly her..but i'm going all out for her...but she doesnt seem to hav responded...
and like i said her fren really isnt helping at all... -
You must say something like...
"I know the situation we are in, and I don't mind waiting. I'm not pressuring you to do anything and we can always get back together when you're ready."
Or something like that. Show her you have patience and give her a sense of control. -
its always difficult to tread relationship when its comes close to a major event like exams...which i hate alot...
my take?
go for it...meet her face to face...tell her not to worry about exams and parent stress...cos you will be there with her to meet all these obstacles...
what girls need is ASSURANCE...and nothing else...you can give her the mental support...take her out when she is stressed...study with her if you must..make double sure that she can score well for her Os and prove to her parents that you 2 can be responsible for this relationship...
however...all this come with a catch...do you think she really loves you?
p.s:i am sick and tired of relationship that is always held back by exams and such...really sick of it...unless its really critical period like just a month or so before the major exams...if not i think just fcuk it... -
eh you sounds like my friend.
Studying in NP year 2 ? -
I got together with my first girl 3 weeks before the A levels.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:its always difficult to tread relationship when its comes close to a major event like exams...which i hate alot...
my take?
go for it...meet her face to face...tell her not to worry about exams and parent stress...cos you will be there with her to meet all these obstacles...
what girls need is ASSURANCE...and nothing else...you can give her the mental support...take her out when she is stressed...study with her if you must..make double sure that she can score well for her Os and prove to her parents that you 2 can be responsible for this relationship...
however...all this come with a catch...do you think she really loves you?
p.s:i am sick and tired of relationship that is always held back by exams and such...really sick of it...unless its really critical period like just a month or so before the major exams...if not i think just fcuk it...
Exams? Who cares.
Seize the day
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hmm thnks guys for the encouragement...hmm to forfun_cash i'm nt in yr 2 haha so i'm nt the guy..hmm i hope everything turns out fine but i'm sure right now my brain and heart is still hurting and i'm trying realli hard but right now i think there's some issue among the fren...coz my her gd fren who is also now my gd fren the one who intro her to mi is on the phone wif her and the other "helpful" girl..and sounds like everythings no good...hmm mebbe the fren feels that its the best but i disagree to her stand that leaving each other is the best
i feel that it is jus a simple way to escape but it does nt solve the problem...i dunt noe y this is my 5th r/s so far..but its the first time i felt so vastly affected.. -
Originally posted by R3SsH|n:
me too. but shit has to happen in life.
[b]its always difficult to tread relationship when its comes close to a major event like exams...which i hate alot...
my take?
go for it...meet her face to face...tell her not to worry about exams and parent stress...cos you will be there with her to meet all these obstacles...
what girls need is ASSURANCE...and nothing else...you can give her the mental support...take her out when she is stressed...study with her if you must..make double sure that she can score well for her Os and prove to her parents that you 2 can be responsible for this relationship...
however...all this come with a catch...do you think she really loves you?
p.s:i am sick and tired of relationship that is always held back by exams and such...really sick of it...unless its really critical period like just a month or so before the major exams...if not i think just fcuk it...[/b] -
Personally, I think that stop seeing each other is the best option..
Cus I believe thatÂ’ll be better for both parties..
No more troubles after the break-up, isnÂ’t that better??
A friend of mine is being retained after he failed jus 1 of the modules in poly..
Reason of failing is bÂ’cus of r/s problems..
Now most of us are enlisted into NS while he still has to wait for another yr/half a yr..
Wasted right??
Guys cannot afford to waste time..
Final verdict: itÂ’s time to let go, or else life will be miserable.. -
If you are really keen on staying with this great gal of yours, I'd suggest you take control of the situation. Right now it sounds like you're just getting dragged along.. and you might be unwittingly be adding to her stress if she constantly has to worry about you.
Give her more space. Work out the best plan to stay together.. be sincere, but don't make her feel obligated by sounding desperate or pleading when you talk to her. Don't pressurize her to meet up or call you/take your calls during the exam periods.. Max u should do is SMS once or twice to wish her luck before an exam, etc.. but if u're not sure what's acceptable, ask her. Give yourselves a deadline for assessing the relationship (an after exam date).
It can happen, but it depends on how you both handle it gd luck. -
Forget it friend... She aspires to be a university graduate while you're just going to be a diploma holder.. Deep down, she feels that it's a waste of time being with you... but she just made up the entire story to make u feel better... who knows?
Poly got so many girls... please lah dun waste your time.... it's actually a blessing in disguise that she din agree to let you wait for her... just forget abt the whole thing and try to get to know more girls in poly... enjoy your poly days man! -
I like your last line 'seize the day'.Originally posted by LazerLordz:I got together with my first girl 3 weeks before the A levels. Exams? Who cares.
Seize the day
familiar
reminds me of a7x's 'seize the day',
'Seize the day or die regretting the time you lost..'
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A relationship is a 2 way affair. What you want, no matter how much you want it; no matter how right it is; no matter how much you believe in your love for her and her love for you... means nothing if the other party does not want it.Originally posted by -_sky_-:i hav a ger whom we met for sumtimes...recently we both expressed that we loved each other...jus that...the ger felt she wasnt ready for a relationship yet...so they were going out and such...but not labelling each other...the ger's parents onli wan her to go into relationship after uni...shes takin O this yr and i'm in poly...i dun wan to affect her studies so i encourage her in doin well for her sch work and i'll be waiting till after her Os..but she felt that i'm suffering waiting for her...which i'm totally not at all...i explained to her...but there's so much she's saying such as she dun wan mi to do all this for her and that i'm doing too much for her...things such as creating a blog to write bout her and all which i felt was actually the least i can do...i was helpless watching her suffer due to stress of the parents and her studies...she believe once sch start she has less time for mi which i told her i understand and tell her to push hard through the O lvl after that jiu can enjoy...but sumhow she always feels i'm doin too much for her...and that now she wants to leave mi...i realli dun want that to happen..i noe its alot of stress but i believe this is really nt the best solution and i'm sure when we finally get together everything will be alright..but she doesnt even allow mi the chance to get there wif her...till the very end she still tells mi she loves mi and i noe veri well...and i'm realli struggling...i was realli depressed when she told mi to leave..but after which i stood up again and back to my confident self and try to explain and tell her everything...but she's not replying to my msg nor answering my calls...and the fact that her best fren is on her stand of believing leaving mi is the best for both of us is nt helping...her fren even use our different lifestyle as a reason of mi and her conflicting...its like...haiz...i realli dunno wat to do thus i posted this msg...sorry to bother u ppl here but if sumone can help mi improve my situation pls do!! i noe sum ppl wud prolly feel that leaving might be better but i'm sure if i did i'll regret so i dun wan to...thanks in advance
Since you love her and are willing to wait, then wait. Wait until after her "O" before you contact her again. Then come back here if you like after you have contacted her after her "O" -
whats wrong with a diploma holder going out with a university grad?Originally posted by freakass:Forget it friend... She aspires to be a university graduate while you're just going to be a diploma holder.. Deep down, she feels that it's a waste of time being with you... but she just made up the entire story to make u feel better... who knows?
Poly got so many girls... please lah dun waste your time.... it's actually a blessing in disguise that she din agree to let you wait for her... just forget abt the whole thing and try to get to know more girls in poly... enjoy your poly days man!
are you blind in the first place...the girl is take O levels...not As...who says she wanna go to a JC?
btw...in case you didn't know...diploma grad oso can go to university...and come out being a diploma and degree holder... -
Don't do things that u'll regret on later part of ur life.
If u think that u'll regret the decision to leave her, den i suggest u to either work hard to forget her or hang on to this loose hope.
Like they say, after the Rain comes the Rainbow. Jus stick to ur belief and everything will work out jus fine.
Cheers.
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alrite..thnX guys especially all who hav gave mi that boost when i needed that..i've settled the problem...hmm we're fine...hmm mebbe even better thn be4...suddenly everything straighten out after our conversation that night and all...hmm even her fren has seen my point of view and even on my stand now haha..well and to freakass...haha if diploma and such is such a big deal to u..hmm i was able to go JC..L1R5 10..but i chose my route and i'm still working my way to uni..jus i decided to do wat i want...thnx for ur advise though...and i'm nt gonna start ani poly JC dispute in this forum lol...and especially thnx to R3SsH|n,lazerlord,jerzzZz ur comment made sure i did nt look back
and thinking back i was like hmm...wheww i fought for wat i believe else i realli wud hav lost her..or rather if i sat and did nothing i would have reaped wat i sowed lol....well thnx to all u guys..nice dae and thnx for takin time to listen to my yakking