relationship problems again..

• ducktan

  1 Jul 06, 11:18

  I NEED HELP!!!! can any sincere ppl pls add me in msn. thanks.
• RaTtY8l

  1 Jul 06, 11:48

  are u really having r/s prob? y cant share on sgforums? like tis more ppl can offer their advice ma.
• ducktan

  1 Jul 06, 12:12

  haiz. me and her brk le. and now theres a guy who wants to jio her. i trust her. but i don trust de guy. the guy is her god-brother. now has a gf de. still dare confess. wan 2 time. but my gf reject then he say is play de. then last time before me and my gf got together. he went out with her. and went for movies. later he tried to touch her hands and put hands over her shoulder. its like they are jus friends. and he did dat.
  
  now my gf tell me he wan call her out. and she say she will go out with him. even only they both go out er yi. then i told her not to. cus de guy is our sch de gangster. then alot of problems de. then i tell my gf not to go. but she insists. she says she believe he had change. but de problem is. if he has change. why he still dare confess. and wan 2 time. then i jus wan protect my gf. and she says i too control. my friends told me. let her get hurt once. then she will noe u protect her. but during my time with her. she nv got hurt by others. and after brk. i oso don bare to let her get hurt. but she jus hurl me with insults. saying i'm weak, keep cry. but i cried. is cus i donwan anything to happen to her. haiz. wad can i do
• aRcTiC_sTaR

  1 Jul 06, 12:17

  I know this hurts a lot, but the best thing you could do is to really just let her do what she wants. In a relationship, it takes two to work things out. When one party decides to walk away, don't cling on to it.
  
  It's difficult yes, but when it's time to walk away you have to walk away. Just know that you have already done your best to protect her and care for her. It is now her choice, and as an individual you should respect it.
  
  One day when she gets hurt, and think back, she will realise who is the person who really loves and cares for her. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. We all need to learn from our mistakes and grow stronger. You have done your part on walking with her, so for now let her choose her own path.
• blowfish

  1 Jul 06, 12:30

  Originally posted by ducktan:

  haiz. me and her brk le. and now theres a guy who wants to jio her. i trust her. but i don trust de guy. the guy is her god-brother. now has a gf de. still dare confess. wan 2 time. but my gf reject then he say is play de. then last time before me and my gf got together. he went out with her. and went for movies. later he tried to touch her hands and put hands over her shoulder. its like they are jus friends. and he did dat.
  
  now my gf tell me he wan call her out. and she say she will go out with him. even only they both go out er yi. then i told her not to. cus de guy is our sch de gangster. then alot of problems de. then i tell my gf not to go. but she insists. she says she believe he had change. but de problem is. if he has change. why he still dare confess. and wan 2 time. then i jus wan protect my gf. and she says i too control. my friends told me. let her get hurt once. then she will noe u protect her. but during my time with her. she nv got hurt by others. and after brk. i oso don bare to let her get hurt. but she jus hurl me with insults. saying i'm weak, keep cry. but i cried. is cus i donwan anything to happen to her. haiz. wad can i do

  cry for what! be a man! kick the shit out of the gangster. scold your gf till she know who calling the shots.
• used

  1 Jul 06, 12:49

  don lose out to a fag! stand up to him and draw the line. you should let her read your post then maybe she will change her mind.
  
  add me in your msn. the_used_1414@hot......
• SexyChin

  1 Jul 06, 12:51

  If you girlfriend is fickle minded, it is time to leave her before you get hurt.
• Eternal-fire

  1 Jul 06, 17:49

  Now who intiated the break up and why you people break up?
• R3SsH|n

  1 Jul 06, 18:11

  show her you want to be with her...school gangster big fcuk ar...you hurt my girl...i show you what is big fcuk...
• dakkon_blackblade

  1 Jul 06, 18:11

  If she doesn't appreciate the care and concern that you show for her then I think you should just stop wasting your time, effort and money on her. Let her go her own way and you'll have the satisfaction of rejecting her when she comes crying back to you asking for forgiveness later.
• SGpork

  1 Jul 06, 18:16

  lol...if help already help..try already tried..
  still dont listen..
  ill f her..leave her alone..let her die..n regret..
  there is a limit for me..once reach..ill give up..
  
  
  
  happen before then she cry n cry..but..what can i do liao?
  
  
  
• olala

  1 Jul 06, 19:02

  Originally posted by ducktan:

  haiz. me and her brk le. and now theres a guy who wants to jio her. i trust her. but i don trust de guy. the guy is her god-brother. now has a gf de. still dare confess. wan 2 time. but my gf reject then he say is play de. then last time before me and my gf got together. he went out with her. and went for movies. later he tried to touch her hands and put hands over her shoulder. its like they are jus friends. and he did dat.
  
  now my gf tell me he wan call her out. and she say she will go out with him. even only they both go out er yi. then i told her not to. cus de guy is our sch de gangster. then alot of problems de. then i tell my gf not to go. but she insists. she says she believe he had change. but de problem is. if he has change. why he still dare confess. and wan 2 time. then i jus wan protect my gf. and she says i too control. my friends told me. let her get hurt once. then she will noe u protect her. but during my time with her. she nv got hurt by others. and after brk. i oso don bare to let her get hurt. but she jus hurl me with insults. saying i'm weak, keep cry. but i cried. is cus i donwan anything to happen to her. haiz. wad can i do

  before all these
  note ur language
• ducktan

  1 Jul 06, 22:16

  i don't know what to do after breaking up. went for a soccer match in the morning. went home sleep till 9. how i wish i can sleep forever. i don't dare to log on to msn. i'm afraid that i will see her. but i still think of her. hoping that she will call. and i'm worry about her safety. what can i do when school starts? i'm alone in the school. my friends left me after i neglect them. during recess i lock myself in the room listening to songs. because i lost confidence in myself. what can i do to forget her? she is my first love though. and 11 months of relationship gone in less than a minute. haiz
• darknessfall

  1 Jul 06, 23:01

  waa...xiao di di.....
  
  you and her break le.... i am sorry to be too direct to you, but if she doesnt treasure you anymore, and you have done your part as a friend in warning her about that guy, you have done enough..
  
  if she insist on going out with the guy, let her be, because you are in no position to control anymore.. if you keep pestering her, she will find you more nussiance than before...
  cheer up..let her learnt it the hard way...
• forfun_cash

  2 Jul 06, 00:08

  Sad la.
  1) you are a weakling
  2) you got no friends no backup
  3) opponent is a gangster( a big big advantage if you are still a secondary student
  
  Tio Owned, badly!!
• olala

  2 Jul 06, 11:00

  Originally posted by darknessfall:

  waa...xiao di di.....
  
  you and her break le.... i am sorry to be too direct to you, but if she doesnt treasure you anymore, and you have done your part as a friend in warning her about that guy, you have done enough..
  
  if she insist on going out with the guy, let her be, because you are in no position to control anymore.. if you keep pestering her, she will find you more nussiance than before...
  cheer up..let her learnt it the hard way...

  since u and her broke,her personal issue is of no concern to u
  now u can juz hope shes a smart gal and not to lose her head over that beng
• ducktan

  2 Jul 06, 11:40

  Originally posted by forfun_cash:

  Sad la.
  1) you are a weakling
  2) you got no friends no backup
  3) opponent is a gangster( a big big advantage if you are still a secondary student
  
  Tio Owned, badly!!

  in school i have no friends. but out of school i got my loyal brothers. but they all guai guai type. so also no use. i keep think of her. very terrible. very worried about her safety. i haven tok to her for a day le. maybe she really thinks i'm a nuisance. haiz. anyways to forget her?
• gLc

  2 Jul 06, 22:45

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  show her you want to be with her...school gangster big fcuk ar...you hurt my girl...i show you what is big fcuk...

  LOL. u think what..comedy ar. later in end is he kena whack up
• ducktan

  3 Jul 06, 00:14

  i waited for her call. finally cannot take it. so i msged her during afternoon. she call at 11 plus. i dono why she took so long to call. i begged her again and again for a patch. cus i really cannot live without her. i don have any mood at all for anything. home isn't a place i want to be. i cannot ask parents for help. i'm scared. she says she does not treat me as a guy anymore. for i keep cry. i love her deeply. i really don't know wad to do. i disappoint my brothers. i disappoint my family. i don't want to die. but i really can't take all this. she changed jus in a day. became a really scary person. i can't take all this. this is the first time i faced this. i need help. but i dono whr i can find. from u guys or else whr? i'm really lost
• freestyle

  3 Jul 06, 01:01

  bro. dont mind me asking. hw old are u?
  
  u have to learn to face it. ur first love crashes. the impact is always the greatest and it takes the longest to heal. but believe me, u will get over it sooner or later.
• gLc

  3 Jul 06, 12:13

  when the time u really grow up and find a new love , u would think back and think that your past were just childish. Time heals all wounds.
• ducktan

  3 Jul 06, 21:35

  Originally posted by freestyle:

  bro. dont mind me asking. hw old are u?
  
  u have to learn to face it. ur first love crashes. the impact is always the greatest and it takes the longest to heal. but believe me, u will get over it sooner or later.

  i'm 16. ppl say time heals it all. but i don't know how long it takes. i keep think of her. went to see her today with the letters she gave my last time. i jus hoped she can read them. but she threw them into the rubbish chute. i went downstairs to look for it. but de thing is unable to open. i can nv get the letters back. dey are so precious to me. haiz. out of anger i took back de soft toys i gave her. but when i look at them. i get more sad. kept cry till my dad sees. haiz. i really need her. but she hates me now. for me slappin her. but i didn't meant to slap her. jus slapped and i realised it. i can't control myself. haiz. i'm a b a s t a r d who abuse girl.
• Devil1976

  4 Jul 06, 11:55

  Originally posted by ducktan:

  i'm 16. ppl say time heals it all. but i don't know how long it takes. i keep think of her. went to see her today with the letters she gave my last time. i jus hoped she can read them. but she threw them into the rubbish chute. i went downstairs to look for it. but de thing is unable to open. i can nv get the letters back. dey are so precious to me. haiz. out of anger i took back de soft toys i gave her. but when i look at them. i get more sad. kept cry till my dad sees. haiz. i really need her. but she hates me now. for me slappin her. but i didn't meant to slap her. jus slapped and i realised it. i can't control myself. haiz. i'm a b a s t a r d who abuse girl.

  Since you realise that you don't really know how to treat a girl correctly.. Why don't you spend more time changing yourself than to bother her at all cost...?
• dcx

  4 Jul 06, 12:02

  Originally posted by ducktan:

  i'm 16. ppl say time heals it all. but i don't know how long it takes. i keep think of her. went to see her today with the letters she gave my last time. i jus hoped she can read them. but she threw them into the rubbish chute. i went downstairs to look for it. but de thing is unable to open. i can nv get the letters back. dey are so precious to me. haiz. out of anger i took back de soft toys i gave her. but when i look at them. i get more sad. kept cry till my dad sees. haiz. i really need her. but she hates me now. for me slappin her. but i didn't meant to slap her. jus slapped and i realised it. i can't control myself. haiz. i'm a b a s t a r d who abuse girl.

  She's not yours.
  Don't treat her as if she's yours coz she doesn't treat you as hers...
  
  If you can't control yourself, what makes you think she'll give you this chance of going back to you?
  
  You're regretting, but have you learn anything yet?