Friendship with a new opposite sex fren..

• lktlkygr

  2 Jul 06, 15:50

  I went out wf her twice le.. But i don really know how to improve our frenship to a more closer relationship.. I felt that i was way too boring..
• rathcycle

  2 Jul 06, 15:51

  Find out mroe about her ? When you feel that its the time, then proceed.
• used

  2 Jul 06, 17:07

  seriously got nothing to talk abt? or not enough topics? you should work on your charisma
• FireIce

  2 Jul 06, 17:08

  slow and steady lah.....
  
  do more activities together, spend more time, talk more.....get to know each other more.........
• aiglosicicle

  2 Jul 06, 17:09

  boring because of you or her? identify the causes and then work on it in a smart way
• SingaporeMacross

  2 Jul 06, 17:12

  don't rush. get to know her better first.
• yeswing

  2 Jul 06, 17:52

  try getting more topics in ur mind then tok to her abt it.. people, let's help him with more topics to let him tok to her abt ^^
• dakkon_blackblade

  2 Jul 06, 18:04

  Do you have any "chemistry"? Do you have much in common or are you rather different? Recently I met this girl (who's already attached by the way) and after two days we'd virtually exhausted all possible topics of conversation as we are just too different. This seems to have put paid to my belief in the "opposites attract" theory of relationships once and for all.
• OasisBlue

  2 Jul 06, 18:21

  discuss on de same hobbies?
• StarPuppy

  2 Jul 06, 18:53

  hmm...maybe u should talk about more of her intrest and yours...casual talk
  
  no need to rush
  
  
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy
• olala

  2 Jul 06, 20:22

  plz dun have the thinking of wanna get to know her better
  ur tlaking abt friendship,it has to be natural,steady and easy
  closer and strong friendship bonds comes the occasional fall...this allow u guys to know one another better
  
  in ur case,i get the hint that u wanna know her betetr as a partner?
  
• lktlkygr

  2 Jul 06, 21:05

  Certain things cannot wait for too long de..once i like a gal for 1.5 yrs..i knew her after 1.5 yrs..den she got attached 2 wks later..
  
  [b][b]plz dun have the thinking of wanna get to know her better
  ur tlaking abt friendship,it has to be natural,steady and easy
  closer and strong friendship bonds comes the occasional fall...this allow u guys to know one another better
  
  in ur case,i get the hint that u wanna know her betetr as a partner?
  
  
• MovingSG

  2 Jul 06, 23:05

  I also have the problem although we have some common interest but still the topic will very fast end.....y
• darknessfall

  2 Jul 06, 23:15

  Originally posted by lktlkygr:

  I went out wf her twice le.. But i don really know how to improve our frenship to a more closer relationship.. I felt that i was way too boring..

  more imptly, is how she feels..maybe she likes the outing with you..
• Simple_Bear

  2 Jul 06, 23:17

  Originally posted by MovingSG:

  I also have the problem although we have some common interest but still the topic will very fast end.....y

  U need to ask her more qns...
  
  
• WiNtEr'SkiLL

  2 Jul 06, 23:24

  ya.. uill nid more time to get to know her more
  ask her out for more actitives
  
• hello321

  6 Jul 06, 01:32

  ya take things slowly
  
• browniebaobao

  6 Jul 06, 01:39

  errr... went out twice nia u wan to see wat improvement?
  
  frens only right?
  
  or are u thinking of progressing to bgr?
  
  it takes time to really know a person hor..
  
  it's not juz the time spent together, there has to be sharing and understanding etc.
  
  
• LazerLordz

  6 Jul 06, 01:43

  Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:

  Do you have any "chemistry"? Do you have much in common or are you rather different? Recently I met this girl (who's already attached by the way) and after two days we'd virtually exhausted all possible topics of conversation as we are just too different. This seems to have put paid to my belief in the "opposites attract" theory of relationships once and for all.

  Familarity breeding contempt is also False.
• Magnus

  6 Jul 06, 08:57

  Just like reading a book, you have to go page by page.
  Skip the pages & u will miss the very essence of the book.
• gerrykoh

  6 Jul 06, 10:33

  To build closer ties u should call/ sms her often- ask her how's her day, chit chat on common interests & invite her to join outings/ activities with your frens.
  The more u get together, the better your chances of developing into a r/s.
• alexkusu

  6 Jul 06, 10:36

  pardon me
  
  I read it as sex-fren as opposed to opposite-sex
• tiggersgd

  6 Jul 06, 10:54

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  pardon me
  
  I read it as sex-fren as opposed to opposite-sex

  
• M©+square

  6 Jul 06, 12:20

  Originally posted by lktlkygr:

  I went out wf her twice le.. But i don really know how to improve our frenship to a more closer relationship.. I felt that i was way too boring..

  Why do you think you're boring?
  
  Do you like her and hought of her as your potential?
  
  Cheers?
• geodome

  9 Jul 06, 03:02

  as a guy, i find it nice to go out with girls.
  
  if the girl i always go out with grow dependent on me in some ways, i find it a burden i need not carry, so i will steer away from her for a while.
  
  I think it is a problem if any of my female friends enjoy the sense of security of having my presence because the only girl I want to protect is the one I love.