Need help...Social Problems...
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Hey yea All... Have this Problem in sch...Well its goes like this...During my starting years in poly...I was selected in this class, Unfortunately this Friend of mine in ITE which i really dont like him is in the same class...Somehow over the weeks we got thru poly life and stuff...So there was this day when we started socialising with our classmates, Theres this girl too from ITE macpherson...in the same class..So one day when i was Going to sch with him on da bus...he asked me who i had a crush on...But I though knowing him for 2 years...yea maybe i could trust him and all...so i kinda told him...So theres this day...He was walking with me to the mrt on da way home...He told me he wanted to Fark that girl...and stuff...When i asked him if he like that girl, he said no...I even told him even if he like the girl i wouldnt mind...I meant was if he got the girl i wouldnt bother so much...and just let it be. so a few weeks later came our break usually after common test...we went to this chalet...In fact the girl i did had a crush on, Was blowing my china friend in the chalet when everyone was downstairs Barberqueing...I was upstairs Sleeping btw. So a few weeks later i told her that it was wrong bla bla just to advice good stuff to her hoping she will listen...But in fact she Barked at me and told me its not my problem...WHen we got back to school...during one of the lab lessons...I saw her leaning on my malay friends back and started rubbing her chest against his back...and When she stood up she kept on starting at me...Whenever i was sitting on a chair...she would normally come to my back and keep staring at me and my shoulders...Or some times she would always come make eye contact with me give me that innocent look...like shes trying to hint to me something...When one day i was out with my another male classmate...i kinda jokingly told him that even if she gave me her body i wouldnt do it with her...The next day..Back at sch...all my classmates kept on scolding me a gay...fag...and Saying things like " no wonder la...you got broad shoulders". i was kinda stunned la... Then i tried again to advice her again...but she Told me this...If working people in the office can do one night stands...Why cant i... Then from there she used all sorts of rumours about me....and started spreading to all the people she know...and kept saying i have bad attitude etc etc...In fact i am not this kinda person...and Help??? or Advice ??
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maybe she is playing a fool... just dun take it too serious ... even u try to clear the issue by explaining to people also no use... since u talk to her and she dun listen then give up.....
Poly people are a playful bunch..... sometime their mind is on playing and fun... -
you dont like him but you trust him enough to tell him who your crush is??
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Hi
You have to know who you are. who are you? As far as I can see from your short post, nothing has been done to you other than rumours that you are gay. Are you? Who are you?
You cannot stop people from talking nonsense behind your back. You are not what they say your are so, who are you? You can try to change people's perspective of you but you need to know who you are first and "Who are you?"
Take out a piece of paper and write down who you are and what you hope to become. Know that this is you only for "now" and you will change and all your friends will change.
How do you want people to see you? You can try to project an image but it is much better if you know who you are and just be yourself. Once you know who you are, you try not to give people the wrong impression. It is easier that way.
You have what is known as an identity crisis. Maybe you can google and find out how to solve identity crisis problems. Maybe some here will be able to help you.
As for me if I try to tell you it will sound as if i am preaching to you... unless you are interested to hear? -
Erm yes sorry for this mis interpretion... Wells... That guy its not that i dont like him...But i've been with him for 2 years and what we're gonna be in the same class for another 3 years in my poly life? Thats why i tried to become good friend with him... thats why when he asked me...I kinda told him...thought it will be alright...But in the end he Kinda Tell stuff about me thats not true just to get the girl away Or trying to gain popularity amongst the girls in my sch or something...I was thinking it might be a sign of jealousy...
And about the identity Crisis thingy? Yes i am not Gay...I like Women and Sex like all guys Do...But...I dont go Around doing it anyhow...I prefer to find a gf... thats it...She said to me that...Loyalty Towards your GF and stuff is all crap...But the thing is that She dont understand that is i am 20 and i havent even dated once at all... To me...I repect a Woman's Dignity...I just dont like going around exploting it...or trying to get in bed with this girl that girl...Thats the part No one Have ever understood about me...and About what i want...yes i Know what i want...and currently i am working hard towards it...But when people like her and my classmates view on my goals...They say i am crazy and its totally irrelevant... and the funny thing is that...I read books on history, Wars and Etc they say i am mad reading this kinda stuff...I mean whats wrong at all... Who dosent read...I can even name a number of my friends reading it... And what they say because i read this kinda books i am a garang Army Guy or something...All damm crap
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Everybody have their own opinions and you cannot control what others want to think about you. Most of the time they actually do not care and they are thinking about other things. not you.
You do not want to sleep around, that is you. You want to read books others do not want to read, that's you.
You have to be confident about yourself and know yourself. You are you. Find friends who think like you and read the same books and have the same interests as you. OR find friends who does not criticise you and stop you from being you and trying to turn you to be like them. You are you and be sure and confident of who you are. -
One thing you've got to learn in life... You can't possibly stop everyone from saying bad things about you..... If you're not, you're not... If those people are as to be so shallow as to believe in whatever they're told as and when they like, it'll probably be better to keep your distance from such SHALLOW people...?Originally posted by Seth35:Hey yea All... Have this Problem in sch...Well its goes like this...During my starting years in poly...I was selected in this class, Unfortunately this Friend of mine in ITE which i really dont like him is in the same class...Somehow over the weeks we got thru poly life and stuff...So there was this day when we started socialising with our classmates, Theres this girl too from ITE macpherson...in the same class..So one day when i was Going to sch with him on da bus...he asked me who i had a crush on...But I though knowing him for 2 years...yea maybe i could trust him and all...so i kinda told him...So theres this day...He was walking with me to the mrt on da way home...He told me he wanted to Fark that girl...and stuff...When i asked him if he like that girl, he said no...I even told him even if he like the girl i wouldnt mind...I meant was if he got the girl i wouldnt bother so much...and just let it be. so a few weeks later came our break usually after common test...we went to this chalet...In fact the girl i did had a crush on, Was blowing my china friend in the chalet when everyone was downstairs Barberqueing...I was upstairs Sleeping btw. So a few weeks later i told her that it was wrong bla bla just to advice good stuff to her hoping she will listen...But in fact she Barked at me and told me its not my problem...WHen we got back to school...during one of the lab lessons...I saw her leaning on my malay friends back and started rubbing her chest against his back...and When she stood up she kept on starting at me...Whenever i was sitting on a chair...she would normally come to my back and keep staring at me and my shoulders...Or some times she would always come make eye contact with me give me that innocent look...like shes trying to hint to me something...When one day i was out with my another male classmate...i kinda jokingly told him that even if she gave me her body i wouldnt do it with her...The next day..Back at sch...all my classmates kept on scolding me a gay...fag...and Saying things like " no wonder la...you got broad shoulders". i was kinda stunned la... Then i tried again to advice her again...but she Told me this...If working people in the office can do one night stands...Why cant i... Then from there she used all sorts of rumours about me....and started spreading to all the people she know...and kept saying i have bad attitude etc etc...In fact i am not this kinda person...and Help??? or Advice ??
And... Regarding that female friend of yours... Maybe you should have just kept your distance from her in the 1st place...? Do not speak of others if you do not wish of others to speak of you.... -
hw come u let the girl u like blow ur china fren and u are nt doing anithing abt it? man u r a loser.
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No man thats when you are wrong...You are a loser when you have sex with her knowing she already done it with another guy...She Dont Own me
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That is your opinion and you are entitled to your opinion but I would not be too confident if I were you and what is the one you marry become like this ger after you marry her?Originally posted by Seth35:No man thats when you are wrong...You are a loser when you have sex with her knowing she already done it with another guy...She Dont Own me
If she never do what this ger did after she marries you, does that mean you 2 will live happily ever after?
Life is a lot more complicated than you think...
Yet you must have certain guiding principles to follow while acknowledging that you do not pwn reality. -
Yea ur Right.... But at the Same time Feel So Stupid...Very stupid...Did certain Stupid things cause i used to like that Girl...Right Now Feeling so Farked up...Everyones think ur loser or Something....
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next time use paragraph pls...
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can intro the gal?
no really.
leave em alone, and dun advise her any more. let evil dwell in their own making. -
*shakes head*
haiz... -
Why want to know her ah? For your info the China Guy in my Class Isnt the only one That slept with her...There are more...Malay and Chinese Guys...
But seriously...I am just hoping to just jump out of the spotlight...I dont even want to get involved anymore...But i somehow feel people are still trying to drag me in the problem...Just feel as if they are peer pressuring me to Follow what they do... -
What do u want him to do ?Originally posted by pierre^^:hw come u let the girl u like blow ur china fren and u are nt doing anithing abt it? man u r a loser.
lol
Ask the girl to blow him meh ? -
wad they wan u to do? sleep with her!?Originally posted by Seth35:Why want to know her ah? For your info the China Guy in my Class Isnt the only one That slept with her...There are more...Malay and Chinese Guys...
But seriously...I am just hoping to just jump out of the spotlight...I dont even want to get involved anymore...But i somehow feel people are still trying to drag me in the problem...Just feel as if they are peer pressuring me to Follow what they do... -
Originally posted by casino_king:
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[b]That is your opinion and you are entitled to your opinion but I would not be too confident if I were you and what is the one you marry become like this ger after you marry her?
If she never do what this ger did after she marries you, does that mean you 2 will live happily ever after?
Life is a lot more complicated than you think...
Yet you must have certain guiding principles to follow while acknowledging that you do not pwn reality.[/b]
I don understand the sentence ?
Meaning the girl doesn't do sex acts they won't live happily ?
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Guiding Principles ? this i wanna know...
Whats Guiding principles in reality ?
If you do not pwn reality,
How do you have Guiding principles ?
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Back to the topic,
Hey just forget about this girl,
your life's your own,
doesn't really matter much on how ppl say or think.
but the most important thing is to just know what you want.
Be who you are.
Just have to take things in to consideration sometimes like peoples feelings and ideas.
Life's ironic and complicated.
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Erm..hello, you can avoid the probelm one is you keep telling yourself you can't you can't , they force me one. I mean..how? Stop getting to close to the girl you like and stop talking abt her to your friend. Your friend force you to do what? I don't understand..
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Why bother?
If you're bothered, you're involved. Simple said. -
Wah, Gan Simple lor!!!Originally posted by dcx:Why bother?
If you're bothered, you're involved. Simple said. -
Ya but its Irritating la !! Just because Some guy in my Class Wants all the Girls In Nanyang Poly... Come and Implicate me...Wtf Man...
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wah liew eh....how complicated you expect it to be?Originally posted by M©+square:Wah, Gan Simple lor!!! -
Once they're tired, they'll stop.Originally posted by Seth35:Ya but its Irritating la !! Just because Some guy in my Class Wants all the Girls In Nanyang Poly... Come and Implicate me...Wtf Man... -
which course? which year? which class?Originally posted by Seth35:Ya but its Irritating la !! Just because Some guy in my Class Wants all the Girls In Nanyang Poly... Come and Implicate me...Wtf Man...