help!What can i do?
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I have a able bodied auntie. Shes in her 40+. For 5 years, she hasn't step out of the house,NOT EVEN THE DOORSTEPS,iM GOD serious.Believe it or not.Friends and relatives all came and try to get her out even just out of the doorsteps but she just refuses.She dosen't feel a thing about stayin at home facing the 4walls and the tv all day. Now all her friends and relatives had sort of given up and she had lost contacts with them.
Her daily time table which hasn't changed for these 5 years,not even a single day.Im Not JOKING.I can even install a camera and make a 5year long video to prove it.The sofa infront of the tv is her entire world.....
11am wake up
watch tv until 11pm sleep.
so basically it's like 1 day eat 3 meals then sleep
Its not like she has anything things to do at home at all.Housework and chores are all done by my other family members.even my grandma.She DOSEN't even cook her own food,my elderly grandma has to cook it for her sometimes.
But this doesn't concern me until things got more serious.....
Dunno she got bored after all these years nothing to do or wad ,,,, she starts picking on every small little thing and like to indulge whole family into controversy for her entertainment.
eg.my grandma accidentally mixes brown sugar for coffee instead of the usual white sugar we use and she yells about it. Hang a few piece of clothes only she will yells complaining that my clothes are heavy later wind blow will drop. i throw some waste papers into the bin and she wuld pick every single piece up ,unwrapped them,read them then throw back into the bin. i use electrical boiler to boil water she complains its unhealthy,must use gas boil.i was away from my room for 5mins only to the kitchen to make drinks she would yell that i didn't off my room lights.i change the bathing soap to other brand she also yells..... and many other small matters would be made up into a big fuss.....god im so tired........ -
dats a weird aunt u have...have u tried activities by community centres? mb u can get some of her frenz to watch tv with her...buy some movies cd or such
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friends tried bring her to community centre activities,failed,so they tried just to bring her out to just for a walk,also she refueses, It's just simply IMPOSSIBLE to get her foot out of the doorstep.great Singapore sale used to be those aunties favourites but......still 24/7 every min every second at home glued to that sofa......
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wow, you and your family are very caring and willing to take care of her.
i think maybe she has some illness like a depression?
and i guess that she is afraid that all of you are going to throw her away or out of the house, that is why she die die oso dont want to step out of the house.
try to talk and encourage her to take one step out of the house, then slowly increase the steps. -
Originally posted by Diesel_Dimension:I have a able bodied auntie. Shes in her 40+. For 5 years, she hasn't step out of the house,NOT EVEN THE DOORSTEPS,iM GOD serious.Believe it or not.Friends and relatives all came and try to get her out even just out of the doorsteps but she just refuses.She dosen't feel a thing about stayin at home facing the 4walls and the tv all day. Now all her friends and relatives had sort of given up and she had lost contacts with them.
Her daily time table which hasn't changed for these 5 years,not even a single day.Im Not JOKING.I can even install a camera and make a 5year long video to prove it.The sofa infront of the tv is her entire world.....
11am wake up
watch tv until 11pm sleep.
so basically it's like 1 day eat 3 meals then sleep
Its not like she has anything things to do at home at all.Housework and chores are all done by my other family members.even my grandma.She DOSEN't even cook her own food,my elderly grandma has to cook it for her sometimes.
But this doesn't concern me until things got more serious.....
Dunno she got bored after all these years nothing to do or wad ,,,, she starts picking on every small little thing and like to indulge whole family into controversy for her entertainment.
eg.my grandma accidentally mixes brown sugar for coffee instead of the usual white sugar we use and she yells about it. Hang a few piece of clothes only she will yells complaining that my clothes are heavy later wind blow will drop. i throw some waste papers into the bin and she wuld pick every single piece up ,unwrapped them,read them then throw back into the bin. i use electrical boiler to boil water she complains its unhealthy,must use gas boil.i was away from my room for 5mins only to the kitchen to make drinks she would yell that i didn't off my room lights.i change the bathing soap to other brand she also yells..... and many other small matters would be made up into a big fuss.....god im so tired........
I am pretty sure that could be a psychological disorder. You may want to check it out.
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I've read about this UK woman who just sat down and kept watching TV until she died. I think you've better go get some proper medical or psychatric help for your aunt.
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I think you need to get her to go for a mental checkup... It reminds me of the boy who stayed at home for a few years as he was hooked on his playstation......
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confirm and chop.Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:I've read about this UK woman who just sat down and kept watching TV until she died. I think you've better go get some proper medical or psychatric help for your aunt.
bt it wun be easy to coax her out of the house to the shrink. -
i tot it's not surprising.
I got relatives like that also, got hear of my fren's relatives behaving like that also.
They are those who dun feel the need to work, juz want to be spoonfed and treated like an emperor/empress. -
She either needs a sex partner , or is experiencing menopause prematurely.
Its a mental habitual problem. -
Get a psychiatrist.
Cheers.
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Destroy her tv & modem
at least she gets out of the house and cant shop online