fed up

• green_mile

  7 Jul 06, 02:17

  I'm the kind of girl who prefers the company of guys. I've always thought it's much easier to get along with them. Today i was proven wrong.
  
  I was particularly fond of this one guy. Dont get me wrong...we've never been romantically involved. I have a boyfriend and he's in love with a schoolmate. He was easy to talk to, fun to be with and he never tried to get into my pants. In short...we were good friends. We used to stay up late chatting on msn, sometimes even til 4am. He said he loved me(as a friend) and wanted to protect me and honestly...i felt the same way about him. I felt blessed to have a mate like him.
  
  Now we're growing apart and i dont know what to do. He's spending most of his spare time with the girl he likes and im busy with my studies. He recently said he missed our long talks and i miss them too. It's strange really...he says he misses me but whenever i try to talk to him i hardly get any reply. He either says 'ok', rolls his eyes or keeps quiet. He couldnt care less about anything i say. I can see that i sometimes even annoy him. "You once said you loved me. What happened?"
  
  Today i got really angry with him cos he's always insulting my boyfriend. Usually i try not to get upset but today he really crossed the line. I said he's got an attitude and he needs to work on that or otherwise i want nothing to do with him. I even deleted him on msn so that i wouldnt get tempted to talk to him.
  
  I really dont know what to do. I want my buddy back but he's been a real arse lately. Nothing i say can make him change his ways. I think he doesnt care about me anymore
  
  
• R3SsH|n

  7 Jul 06, 02:24

  then forego this buddy lor...
  some guys are like this...when they get interested in a girl...they will try all means to please them...entertain them by talking to them...and all kinds of things...
  but when they have other attractions...they can totally forget about you...you were probably just an object of attention to him...and maybe...you just enjoyed that attention...therefore the negative feeling when he started to return u short replies and ...you didn't like it...
  
  i say...continue treating him like a normal fren...since u got a boyfriend...why worry about him?
• Devil1976

  7 Jul 06, 02:24

  Maybe he's just not in a good mood?
  
  Give both of you some time, and chat up a period later to see how things are?
• browniebaobao

  7 Jul 06, 02:33

  perhaps he juz want to have u ard?
  
  He knows u are fond of him and yet he dun wana get in a r/s with u?
  
  But at the same time, he's jealous of ur bf?
• green_mile

  7 Jul 06, 02:37

  This bad mood has been going on for some time now...a few months. And i dont think he was just using me. He has other female friends too and he's never wanted to date me. I dont want to let him go cos he's like a brother to me. You cant forsake your family. I love my boyfriend but i need my friends too. Him alone just isnt enough.
• R3SsH|n

  7 Jul 06, 02:45

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  This bad mood has been going on for some time now...a few months. And i dont think he was just using me. He has other female friends too and he's never wanted to date me. I dont want to let him go cos he's like a brother to me. You cant forsake your family. I love my boyfriend but i need my friends too. Him alone just isnt enough.

  you are craving for his attention?
  
  what horoscope are u?
• green_mile

  7 Jul 06, 02:46

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  perhaps he juz want to have u ard?
  
  He knows u are fond of him and yet he dun wana get in a r/s with u?
  
  But at the same time, he's jealous of ur bf?

  Friendship is a r/s too. He's not jealous of my boyfriend, he just hates his guts. They are simply too different. My boyfriend is a good guy and he's a so called 'bad boy'
• monoslayer

  7 Jul 06, 02:52

  how come recently always have new forumites coming to AA to post their sad stories ah.. somemore always at tis kind of hr one..
• green_mile

  7 Jul 06, 02:55

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  you are craving for his attention?
  
  what horoscope are u?

  I'm a virgo. Yes, i guess i am craving for his attention. I just want what we had back. I need to be able to talk to my friend.
• R3SsH|n

  7 Jul 06, 02:59

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  I'm a virgo. Yes, i guess i am craving for his attention. I just want what we had back. I need to be able to talk to my friend.

  then you craving for his attention...do you think its a problem?
  it seems like you will be centering your life around his...u are like the moon...he is earth..
  
  it sort of eats you up inside that he is ignoring you is it?
• green_mile

  7 Jul 06, 03:05

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  then you craving for his attention...do you think its a problem?
  it seems like you will be centering your life around his...u are like the moon...he is earth..
  
  it sort of eats you up inside that he is ignoring you is it?

  My earth is my boyfriend. He is just a good friend. I just dont understand why he's been so cold to me lately. You have good friends too, right? Surely it hurts when they ignore you.
• R3SsH|n

  7 Jul 06, 03:11

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  My earth is my boyfriend. He is just a good friend. I just dont understand why he's been so cold to me lately. You have good friends too, right? Surely it hurts when they ignore you.

  according to background information...it may really be because both of you are really busy with your own lives..
  its inevitable that he can't spend so much of his time on you...if you really need to see him and talk to him again...take some time off...let both parties cool down...then maybe go out and meet one of these days...
• kopman

  7 Jul 06, 03:30

  yea temptation is a mother,u can talk to me also
• Devil1976

  7 Jul 06, 12:07

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  My earth is my boyfriend. He is just a good friend. I just dont understand why he's been so cold to me lately. You have good friends too, right? Surely it hurts when they ignore you.

  If you really bother about this friendship, perhaps yuo can try snapping some senses into him..?
  
  Otherwise I'll suggest you start to look for a friend elsewhere....?
• Cerebral_Assassin

  8 Jul 06, 00:11

  you claim to be buddy with him? really?
  
  Possibly I don't think so.... if you are buddy with him, he would not treat you so unless i'll explain otherwise.
  
  If you are buddy with him, probably he'll still talk to you etc, maybe less now that he got to also entertain his higher priority gf or target. As a buddy fren, u got to be understanding on this really. If not you won't be categorized as that. In fact asking him, "you don't love me anymore izzit" etc goes to show that you are not a buddy or even close to a good fren status. You are not being considerate. So do not be amazed he is irritated of you.
  
  I do agree you are craving for his attention? ask yourself why? just as a buddy fren? weird... do you crave for your bf attention? if not, weird again. Buddy frens do not crave for each other's attention, but more of a heart-to-heart talk and not "insult" about each other's bf/gf etc, they should in fact respect that also. So based on this, i don't believe so. I believe more that the 2 of you are flirting over than being buddy etc.
  
  Conclusion probably is your fren thinks inside of him "sorry mate, end of flirting with you for me, I got better things to do, I hope you can disappear from my life for the moment". Again I can predict he might be back into your life when he has no other gals or better things to do.
  
  
• Chelzea

  8 Jul 06, 00:44

  Originally posted by monoslayer:

  how come recently always have new forumites coming to AA to post their sad stories ah.. somemore always at tis kind of hr one..

  cos ppl paiseh dont wan use real nick
  
• SpeedStar

  9 Jul 06, 03:38

  I have one good friend who changes too. Every since he got gf, things start to change. We ain't spendin time together to play games, cycle, swimming or playing soccer. I used to go his home, drink wine and chat with him till wee hours...we are so close together. Things have change when we go out to the soicety to work and he has a gf. He have to accompany his gf. He ain't have much time altot he tries. But I knew this is going to happen soon and the good thing is we still cherish time together. We make an effort to get in touch. Maybe this is what we call understanding and I am glad to have a friend like him.
• alexkusu

  9 Jul 06, 07:27

  I have a female friend like you too.
  
  I guess best not to expect so much from them. Even though he is your good friend, you cant expect him to be a good friend to you everytime you need him to be. He has his own life as well and may be undergoing different phases of life which require him not to be a 'good friend' at the momment.
• Rejected

  9 Jul 06, 19:14

  ever so sweet..
• de_middle

  12 Jul 06, 09:42

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  perhaps he juz want to have u ard?
  
  He knows u are fond of him and yet he dun wana get in a r/s with u?
  
  But at the same time, he's jealous of ur bf?

  spare tyre ar
• green_mile

  15 Jul 06, 02:09

  me and my buddy made up. everything's like it used to be
• littlestream

  15 Jul 06, 02:12

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  me and my buddy made up. everything's like it used to be

  i'm glad everything's work out.
  
  enjoy the friendship!
• green_mile

  15 Jul 06, 02:37

  thanks...he even apologized for insulting my bf
• pretzel

  17 Jul 06, 00:36

  Originally posted by green_mile:

  thanks...he even apologized for insulting my bf

  Erm, how come? Did you like let him get into your pants or something
• Sakuraflower

  17 Jul 06, 19:04

  Next time dun let him insult ur boyfriend... insult him back... next his girlfriend back or his mummy.....