What is happening to me?
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Hi,
Would like to get some advice from fellow forumites here... I am currently at the mid-career stage working in the health industry. I have been in this MNC company for more than 3 years now. When I first join the company, I was really hardworking and managed to promote to a higher rank in just 2 years. I learned from my colleagues that it would usually take 3-4 years before one can be promoted as it is the norm here. That said, after the first 2 years, I am beginning to slack. Not sure of the reason why but I dun really have the interest to work hard anymore. Even after I had successfully requested for a transfer, my attitude in the new position does not change.
Now, I am contemplating quitting just to rest and take my time to look for a new job and ponder over my aspiration. However, I have my financial commitments... such as car loan, and the upcoming mortgage loan. Also, I would not want to end up earning less than my peers.. as I currently command quite a good salary (I know this is kinda stupid and kiasu).
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I think the fact that u have pretty much known the ins n outs of ur area's or departments that u seem to loose the energy to go hard from beginining to end.U already know when to do what or what is to be expected from various situations. Or maybe the loss of interest due to your bosses or those above you can also be a reason.Originally posted by nick28:Hi,
Would like to get some advice from fellow forumites here... I am currently at the mid-career stage working in the health industry. I have been in this MNC company for more than 3 years now. When I first join the company, I was really hardworking and managed to promote to a higher rank in just 2 years. I learned from my colleagues that it would usually take 3-4 years before one can be promoted as it is the norm here. That said, after the first 2 years, I am beginning to slack. Not sure of the reason why but I dun really have the interest to work hard anymore. Even after I had successfully requested for a transfer, my attitude in the new position does not change.
Now, I am contemplating quitting just to rest and take my time to look for a new job and ponder over my aspiration. However, I have my financial commitments... such as car loan, and the upcoming mortgage loan. Also, I would not want to end up earning less than my peers.. as I currently command quite a good salary (I know this is kinda stupid and kiasu).
PLease advise... Thanks.
Or maybe u are just bored of your job. But ask urself whether u can find a better job or not. In the end of the day its all about commitment to your work whether u like it or not. -
As my area is quite specialised, I may not be able to get a better job unless I dun mind the paycut. All these issues are vexing me. I really duno what to do. That's why I hope someone who had such experiences can enlighten me..Originally posted by BadzMaro:I think the fact that u have pretty much known the ins n outs of ur area's or departments that u seem to loose the energy to go hard from beginining to end.U already know when to do what or what is to be expected from various situations. Or maybe the loss of interest due to your bosses or those above you can also be a reason.
Or maybe u are just bored of your job. But ask urself whether u can find a better job or not. In the end of the day its all about commitment to your work whether u like it or not. -
Maybe u are suffering from burn-out.
U should take a vacation & come back energized! -
I did try that but it doesnt work. When I am back, I would be able to work hard for a couple of days.. after that, it would be status quo.Originally posted by gerrykoh:Maybe u are suffering from burn-out.
U should take a vacation & come back energized!
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can u take a pay cut to do something u like and then look for another source of income to pay the loans ?
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That could be possible but is it advisable?Originally posted by pqr:can u take a pay cut to do something u like and then look for another source of income to pay the loans ? -
u could have taken a pay cut easily to do things u like right?Originally posted by nick28:That could be possible but is it advisable?
but u cannot bcos of the loan commited..
So u have to choose which has higher priority?
The loan (stick to the high pay u are getting) or be happier with the job that u like (but lower pay)..
Although the ideal is if u can get something u like with same pay or even higher than ur exsiting job -
Yah, that would be ideal but not quite possible...Originally posted by pqr:u could have taken a pay cut easily to do things u like right?
but u cannot bcos of the loan commited..
So u have to choose which has higher priority?
The loan (stick to the high pay u are getting) or be happier with the job that u like (but lower pay)..
Although the ideal is if u can get something u like with same pay or even higher than ur exsiting job
If i get a job with lower pay, i could be more stressed afterwards with all the loans coming after me..
If i continue with my job, I could also be more stressed with all the deadlines coming after me..
Either ways, I am a goner... or am i Wrong??? -
u r not a goner....Originally posted by nick28:Yah, that would be ideal but not quite possible...
If i get a job with lower pay, i could be more stressed afterwards with all the loans coming after me..
If i continue with my job, I could also be more stressed with all the deadlines coming after me..
Either ways, I am a goner... or am i Wrong???
why do u want? which has higher priority??
hence, i say to compromise, the better solution is to be happy (with a lower pay) and get another source of income to meet the loan.
U should also discuss with ur partner on the housing loan issue together -
It certainly looks like you are dying inside. Some people find the answer in religion but others do not.Originally posted by nick28:Hi,
Would like to get some advice from fellow forumites here... I am currently at the mid-career stage working in the health industry. I have been in this MNC company for more than 3 years now. When I first join the company, I was really hardworking and managed to promote to a higher rank in just 2 years. I learned from my colleagues that it would usually take 3-4 years before one can be promoted as it is the norm here. That said, after the first 2 years, I am beginning to slack. Not sure of the reason why but I dun really have the interest to work hard anymore. Even after I had successfully requested for a transfer, my attitude in the new position does not change.
Now, I am contemplating quitting just to rest and take my time to look for a new job and ponder over my aspiration. However, I have my financial commitments... such as car loan, and the upcoming mortgage loan. Also, I would not want to end up earning less than my peers.. as I currently command quite a good salary (I know this is kinda stupid and kiasu).
PLease advise... Thanks.
What is clear is that it is a "mental" issue. That is to say, physically, financially and career wise, you do not seem to have a problem.
Switching careers might not be the answer. You might end up with both internal AND external problems.
You are in fact at a cross road. The path you take from here can be dangerous. I advise you to be careful. Many people turn to VICE at this juncture of their lives.
Gambling, prostitution, sexual affairs and so on....
You have to search deep down and come up with an answer. I am not much help am I, asking you to find the answer for yourself? -
Do you have enough $ for you to do investments which might support yuo for a while? If so, you might wanna try going on a long 'no pay leave' at the moment... (but of course, that would put your job at some risk also)Originally posted by nick28:Yah, that would be ideal but not quite possible...
If i get a job with lower pay, i could be more stressed afterwards with all the loans coming after me..
If i continue with my job, I could also be more stressed with all the deadlines coming after me..
Either ways, I am a goner... or am i Wrong???
Else, there's just no free lunch in this world.. You'll be LUCKY if you can be a job which you can ENJOY and be PAID WELL.... Many people really just don't enjoy their work at all.. (but they need to get paid) While there're still some other who get paid sh|t to do an equally lousy job... Getting the drift...?
There other alternative is to lower your standard of living... -
I have enough to last me more than a year but I dun wish to deplete it cos I need it for future use...Originally posted by Devil1976:Do you have enough $ for you to do investments which might support yuo for a while? If so, you might wanna try going on a long 'no pay leave' at the moment... (but of course, that would put your job at some risk also)
Else, there's just no free lunch in this world.. You'll be LUCKY if you can be a job which you can ENJOY and be PAID WELL.... Many people really just don't enjoy their work at all.. (but they need to get paid) While there're still some other who get paid sh|t to do an equally lousy job... Getting the drift...?
There other alternative is to lower your standard of living...
How wonderful it will be to get a job I enjoy and at the same time earn good monee... I guess that is not likely for the time being.
I can lower my standard of living but I dun wish to bring my dependents down with me.
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Ask yourself: if, after pondering about your life and what you want, you get a job which doesn't pay you as well (and possibly with a lower job title), although it may give you greater satisfaction/motivation - will you be able to accept that? Perhaps the answer can clarify your issue.Originally posted by nick28:Now, I am contemplating quitting just to rest and take my time to look for a new job and ponder over my aspiration. However, I have my financial commitments... such as car loan, and the upcoming mortgage loan. Also, I would not want to end up earning less than my peers.. as I currently command quite a good salary (I know this is kinda stupid and kiasu).
PLease advise... Thanks.
I think you may be going through a spiritual (note: NOT religious) phase, since you are already on a good rung of the career ladder and yet you're not motivated...it's like somethings is missing. -
you need motivation.
where's your DRIVE? -
Then I can only say sometimes we have little choices in life...Originally posted by nick28:I have enough to last me more than a year but I dun wish to deplete it cos I need it for future use...
How wonderful it will be to get a job I enjoy and at the same time earn good monee... I guess that is not likely for the time being.
I can lower my standard of living but I dun wish to bring my dependents down with me.
Sometimes we simply don't wish to be doing what we're doing, but because of the circumstance which befalls us... We just do what we need for a living... -
how much u earning now!Originally posted by nick28:I have enough to last me more than a year but I dun wish to deplete it cos I need it for future use...
How wonderful it will be to get a job I enjoy and at the same time earn good monee... I guess that is not likely for the time being.
I can lower my standard of living but I dun wish to bring my dependents down with me. -
Do you have the partner or girlfriend? U need a lifetime partner to get you into a new direction! Changing work will not solve yr problem! Go and find yr gal.
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my friend once tell me that ur path or ur experience depend on the ur surrounding people... cause they make a impact on ur life.... I think ur effort play a part too... that what i think!
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Thanks everyone for your advices.
I guess I just have to go back to the workplace battlefield and carry on with my life. I see that money is still an essential tool of survival in Singapore. Until, I managed to achieve financial independence or get a new job, I would still have to slog in this company...
Any last advice? -
Often no place is a perfect sh|t hole....Originally posted by nick28:Thanks everyone for your advices.
I guess I just have to go back to the workplace battlefield and carry on with my life. I see that money is still an essential tool of survival in Singapore. Until, I managed to achieve financial independence or get a new job, I would still have to slog in this company...
Any last advice?
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Well, what can we do? Ren Zai Jiang Hu Shen Bu You Ji...Originally posted by Devil1976:Often no place is a perfect sh|t hole....
Wait till I build up more savings then see what can be done... Business, lower pay job which I have passion in, and so forth.
Speaking of this, I do have a friend who recently quit his job as a business development manager in one of those MNC and started out on his own as a physical trainer. Wonder how he's doing now... -
maybe eUu think tt eUu get enfu experience??and think tt its tyme fer eUu tu find a new jobs in the area which euU r pro in??
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Most likely ennui. Countercheck with Oxford Mushroom please.