Wat shd i do to this man??
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did u owe the man $$$ or something? better dont play play ok.
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i feel his pain...
by ignoring him, u r being heartless... why cant u just treat him as a normal friend? when a guy is possessive, he wont give up so easily. right now he is feeling more wound n life is worthless to him anymore.
u need to give him a talk else he is going crazy. -
Actually i told him that we can still remain as norm friend as first.. But he still cant give up the idea of getting me back.. He was trying to get close to me like the way he used to persue me.. In order not to give him any wrong ideas, i've tried to keep a distance from him... Then he start with the nuisance sms and call.. As a result, I've to ignore him totally..Originally posted by 798:i feel his pain...
by ignoring him, u r being heartless... why cant u just treat him as a normal friend? when a guy is possessive, he wont give up so easily. right now he is feeling more wound n life is worthless to him anymore.
u need to give him a talk else he is going crazy.
To me, he is a 30 yrs old man.. he should noe how to "behave" himself, handle things properly rather than doing all these stupid act.. which really annoying..
I've deleted all his sms once i received it.. like that how to make police report???
P.S I Din owe him $$ or anything
I believe better not to involve $$ in a relationship... -
for this type of people, they only wanted to do things to get response from you.
They will try to be nice, pityful and if all does not work - they will try nasty - even if he can get a response of you sms him to tell him off or a call to scold him.
Don't fall in the trap, if you response, to him he will take it that he still have a chance.
Be cool, just ignore him.
If you want can change phone number. If you decide to keep the phone number, then when he sms, just delete it, never reply. If he call just hang up.
Remember he is nothing, if nothing call or sms - what is there to react to, and response to ? don't even try to waste time of thing of nothing.
Statement like we still be friends will just give them hope, forget it have a total new clean break.
Go to the police or the court to get a personal protection order which will force him to keep a distance from you only when there is a danger or he pester you in person.
But if he just sms & call you, well just ignore him, threatening to call the police to him is still a welcome response. -
X 2. It's really not as hard as you think... So long as you're willing to do it...?Originally posted by Princess livia:but tu advoid him tis ish e best way lo...
eUu gt no choice..n fer ya client,suppliers,contractors...etc..eUu can oways inform em of ur new number..
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CALL POLICE LOH~!~!
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i dun think we can bar calls n sms from a particular person. i used to work at a telco coy.Originally posted by Furinax:ur hp which network company one? singtel, m1 or starhub? just ask them if they can block ur ex number from both sms and call. Best is change hp number. although its troublesome to inform all ur clients and friends again, but sometime its worth it. better than u got mentally torture until end up in IMH. if he go to ur house to pester u, u can directly make a police report. No need to soft hearted to such a nuisense guy.
in order to bar a call, u wld need to bar all calls. right..all incoming calls.
as for sms however, some hps have this function where u can block a number, then u wont rx any sms from them -
Serious? I very 'mountain turtle' one!! Which MODEL??Originally posted by alfagal:i dun think we can bar calls n sms from a particular person. i used to work at a telco coy.
in order to bar a call, u wld need to bar all calls. right..all incoming calls.
as for sms however, some hps have this function where u can block a number, then u wont rx any sms from them
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not sure about other phones bt if using pda phone, can get third party apps to keep a blacklist or auto-reply function.Originally posted by Devil1976:Serious? I very 'mountain turtle' one!! Which MODEL??
e.g. someone from my phonebook call me, ill auto-sms back -> pang sai, later call back. -
dun get it, then in the first place
ur also using him .. -
call police
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u post his number here.... if u have his address even better...Originally posted by pinkyjoey:I been harrassed by this man since i break up with him...
He was my ex-colleague.. He did persue me when i'm still attached... That time, I and my ex are facing some old problems which come and go for very long times... but we still can't resolve.. At the end, we choose to end the relationship..
After break up, I was very sad.. But he was there for me.. So end up i was together with him cause he was very nice to me and care for me which it's lack in my previous relationship..
However after some time, i found that actually we are not quite compatible.. the gap between us is too big... he is 8 yrs elder than me .. however i dun think the age does a matter, it's just the mentality and thought cant click...
He likes to control me where i go and restrict me to go out with my buddy or friends..He even ask me why my friends is asking me out?? which i really cant stand at all.. I din go out wif my friends very often, maybe just once a while...
Got one time I was so piss off.. During CNY, I went back my hometown in M'sia for vacation.. I told him i'll be away for a few days before i go back wif my family... I was thinking of getting away from him at least for few days.. cause i was almost suffocated having him around in my daily life... One day, he called me but i din pick up the line, i did it purposely.. He then keep calling me until my phone was showing 20++ missed call from him.. He even use his friend's phone to call me to see whether i pick up the line...
I was so mad....
After this incident, I decided to break up with him... So i meet him right after i came back from m'sia n told him the whole things... He cant accept and wouldn't want to accept... I told him not matter how, this is my decision.. I was very firm with that...
From that day onwards, my nightmare starts.... At first he was waiting me and even drink at my void deck, insist to see me... then follow by nuisance calls and sms... I told him if he continue that way, we cant even remain as normal friend.. Later on, I got a new job and left that company.. But the nuisance sms still on...
To get rid of these, I brag him that i gt a new bf and my bf is very unhappy wif his acts... Then the nuisance finally stop...
I thought I would have a peace of mind from that day onwards... But it only last for about 2 months.. Recently, he have started his nuisance sms again.. I delete it straight after i've read... But it has affected me emotionally and mentally... I really veri veri angry of his acts, but cant do anything to it... Sometimes i just felt so helpless that i can only let him torture me mentally which i cant stop him at all..
HELP!!!!!!!! Can anyone tell me wat shd i do to this man????? Can i just call him to scold him and ask him to stop all his stupid act????
then we all go harrass him...
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he was there when u broken off wif ur ex to heal ur wound, where r u now when he need u the most? u sure u didnt owe him anything?Originally posted by pinkyjoey:Actually i told him that we can still remain as norm friend as first.. But he still cant give up the idea of getting me back.. He was trying to get close to me like the way he used to persue me.. In order not to give him any wrong ideas, i've tried to keep a distance from him... Then he start with the nuisance sms and call.. As a result, I've to ignore him totally..
To me, he is a 30 yrs old man.. he should noe how to "behave" himself, handle things properly rather than doing all these stupid act.. which really annoying..
I've deleted all his sms once i received it.. like that how to make police report???
P.S I Din owe him $$ or anything I believe better not to involve $$ in a relationship...
love has nothing to do wif age in term of maturity. heart-broken can lead a grown men to cry n act immaturity. the more u avoid him, the more despo he get for he dunno why u treat him tis way.
how u define nuisance call or sms?
- the type he called u n hung off? the type he sms u mushy msg of how he miss u?
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- the type he asked how r u n wat u been doing? the type he sms greetings msg?
the latter parts are not nuisance imo as he is showing concern for u.
only u can save him from darkness, or u simply just let him bleed n ignore the consequence. for me , i feel u should not avoid him cos he might nvr give up, treat him like a friend but draw a clear line by not giving him false hope.
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Oh.. Okie... Thanks...Originally posted by Ito_^:not sure about other phones bt if using pda phone, can get third party apps to keep a blacklist or auto-reply function.
e.g. someone from my phonebook call me, ill auto-sms back -> pang sai, later call back.
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Originally posted by 798:he was there when u broken off wif ur ex to heal ur wound, where r u now when he need u the most? u sure u didnt owe him anything?
love has nothing to do wif age in term of maturity. heart-broken can lead a grown men to cry n act immaturity. the more u avoid him, the more despo he get for he dunno why u treat him tis way.
how u define nuisance call or sms?
- the type he called u n hung off? the type he sms u mushy msg of how he miss u?
or
- the type he asked how r u n wat u been doing? the type he sms greetings msg?
the latter parts are not nuisance imo as he is showing concern for u.
only u can save him from darkness, or u simply just let him bleed n ignore the consequence. for me , i feel u should not avoid him cos he might nvr give up, treat him like a friend but draw a clear line by not giving him false hope.
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Actually i do agree to wat u've said... i do think myself a bit heartless when i decided to leave him... I felt sorry to him and have let him down...Originally posted by 798:he was there when u broken off wif ur ex to heal ur wound, where r u now when he need u the most? u sure u didnt owe him anything?
love has nothing to do wif age in term of maturity. heart-broken can lead a grown men to cry n act immaturity. the more u avoid him, the more despo he get for he dunno why u treat him tis way.
how u define nuisance call or sms?
- the type he called u n hung off? the type he sms u mushy msg of how he miss u?
or
- the type he asked how r u n wat u been doing? the type he sms greetings msg?
the latter parts are not nuisance imo as he is showing concern for u.
only u can save him from darkness, or u simply just let him bleed n ignore the consequence. for me , i feel u should not avoid him cos he might nvr give up, treat him like a friend but draw a clear line by not giving him false hope.
From ur point of view, i agree that i did owe him somethings in somewhere... but i dun think i've to sacrifice my happiness just for that... Since we are not suitable for each others, wat for to drag on it??? Break up will be a good solution.. good for me and for him as well.. NO point to carry on whereby both of us wont be happy..
Definitely his nuisance sms is the first category.. At first, he sms me said he still miss me a lots, still love me very much, cant forget me, whether i can give a 2nd chance, etc.. After i ignore this sms sometimes, he start sending those sarcastics sms... like saying i'm mean, cruel, not as nice as he used to think, etc.. No matter wat write, i just ignore him..
I dun want to have anything to do with him, i just wish to get out of these "dark" day and start a new life... If i still remain friend with him, he will think he still has chance, then will be endless story... -
Terminate you HP line, quit your job....Go back to malaysia & hide.....then you will find absolute peace.Originally posted by pinkyjoey:Actually i told him that we can still remain as norm friend as first.. But he still cant give up the idea of getting me back.. He was trying to get close to me like the way he used to persue me.. In order not to give him any wrong ideas, i've tried to keep a distance from him... Then he start with the nuisance sms and call.. As a result, I've to ignore him totally..
To me, he is a 30 yrs old man.. he should noe how to "behave" himself, handle things properly rather than doing all these stupid act.. which really annoying..
I've deleted all his sms once i received it.. like that how to make police report???
P.S I Din owe him $$ or anything I believe better not to involve $$ in a relationship...
If still not peaceful enough, move into the oil palm or rubber plantations
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Originally posted by de_middle:Terminate you HP line, quit your job....Go back to malaysia & hide.....then you will find absolute peace.
If still not peaceful enough, move into the oil palm or rubber plantations What a brilliant idea???!!! ya... maybe i can try to do this.... -
He din sms me this few day liao... maybe i can get a peace of mind.. Hopefully it really going that way i wish.. -
Originally posted by pinkyjoey:
Best is ,inform of yr good friend in spore. At least,if he turn mad or violent. Someone knows who did that to you! If he continues to harass you. Call yr friend to go see him to gether and tell him firmly to stop harassing you or else you will report to police! More people around,he wouldn't dare to do funny things to you even if he turns that mad!
[b]He din sms me this few day liao... maybe i can get a peace of mind.. Hopefully it really going that way i wish..[/b]