How she treated me so unfairly
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Why would u prefer her to treat you good initially and then a change of heart after that? Either way, u will still be hurt wor.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Brownie, kinda sad right..this kind of feeling...
if she treat me gud during the r/s, she change of heart or love lessen for me...still nvm..during r/s, she treat me so badly...tat is y so sad
But l am trying hard to get over it...it seems like she is veri happy now..l told myself no point being sad or wad oso..if l am sad..l stupid, she happy. l should be more happy than her mah...altot now at times l still hav sum memories, but l owazs try not to think further or wad..cancel the thoughts..
for the 1st 3 weeks after breakup..my mood was veri bad.. l cried at 1st, feel that reality was veri harsh, and later l bring this mood to school, owazs keep quiet and appear quite blank..Friends oso ask me y l like this, l say dun noe..l feel veri sian..but now better le..gradually l can take the fact....although still hav the bits and bits of memories flashing across my mind at
All I can say is, she dun need you in her life. I can truely empathise with your feelings.. it hurts when you see the one who hurt u to be living happily. But then, life goes on. Take it as a lesson learnt. You can be happy too. I know it's hard. But you definitely have a choice! It took me 2 years to be happy again.
Perhaps time cannot erase the memories nor hurt.. but time can made u feel numb to the pain. All you need to do is to be strong and face it, dun harp on it, dun cry over it, dun shed tears for someone who is not worthy of your love. Move on. Someday, somehow, you will be able to let go and meet someone who truly appreciates you.
All the best~!
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Thanks brownie...for ur positive comments...=D
feel that u reali understand the state l am in currently -
dun mention..Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Thanks brownie...for ur positive comments...=D
feel that u reali understand the state l am in currently
i understand coz i had been there.. -
wait, how old are u??
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sometimes i feel, when guys become so good in a relationship, it can actually backfire.
for example, during a quarrel, good guys will often be the one to apologise first no matter who is right, who is wrong or who is the unreasonable one; as they do not want to strain the relationship further and because the relationship is very important to them. Hence they are willing to make this 'first step' - sacrifice.
however, such attitude, if prolonged in a relationship, will somehow tend to portray the guy as 'soft' and easily manipulatable. Thus, the girl will feel that the guy is not a guy at all! Perhaps she will feel that the basic natural qualities of a man is missing - tough, strong, big, hard etc etc.
so i feel, sometimes it will actually help if guys in a relationship can be firm and say no, and i dare say sometimes you have to be able to scold your gf too. Of course the reason must be there lah..
perhaps that is why they say "nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai" -
l was 18 yrs old btw, and she was 15...oh ya jeramy l agree with what u say too..
l oso think my nxt r/s, if the gal is unreasonable or wad..l will scold her de..and l wan make it to her tat me and her are on equal.. -
I somehow in same boat with u, always like to treat ex girlfriends very nice de. They want what, I get for them even if I am broke.
Somehow they just treat us for granted lor.
your 100% efforts also cannot compare to a yandao's 1% of effort.
I got one ex always look at yandao guys when we went shopping, then always tell me I should dress like them, comb their hairstyle etc.
In fact, she secretly met up with a guy from IRC when I was in Ns, and they went stead for one month before I found out.
She ignored me here and there, teling me she busy for exams or homework.
Well, just excuses lor.
I don't even know why she chose me in first place when I don't meet her requirements of being handsome and rich.
But then after breakup with her, life got better as I no longer have to tolerate her bad attitudes. -
ya..my gf requirements oso high..say want rich and shuai bf...but l dun noe y at the start l dun match the requirements, she choose me...den choose le..den treat me badly, never respect me...zzz
ya lol....we average looking work so hard..100% put in..cant even compare to a yandao 1% efforts...1% onli wor.. -
lol boy. You are 3 years her senior and yet she treat you like a dog. It's no wonder why she want to break up with you.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:ya..my gf requirements oso high..say want rich and shuai bf...but l dun noe y at the start l dun match the requirements, she choose me...den choose le..den treat me badly, never respect me...zzz
ya lol....we average looking work so hard..100% put in..cant even compare to a yandao 1% efforts...1% onli wor..
From the way you had typed, i can only say you are 95% at fault, and another 5% goes to her. Bear in mind that the 5% refer to her looking for yandao guys only and as for your 95%, you go and think yourself.
And if you didnt mention about being 18, i was thinking if you are just another sec 3 or 4 boy boy. -
Be a man, not a dog !
She's still young and immature it seems.
Yandao guys action abit only she in heaven..
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i think the problem is not because of your looks, it is because you are to good to her, you are predictable not interesting at all, gals nowadays are not interested with men if they are all the same, they need challenges, they are always testing if you are the kind of man that they like, be different in a different way.
I recommend you to read Double your dating written by David de Angelo. It works for me.. and hope it could help you..
How can you be interesting while all other men are doing it too.. buy gifts, act like the dog... men are exist to lead the women, not her leading you..
i've been once being dumped, dont make my mistake yours...
change my man...
let her know that the biggest mistake that she's ever made is losing you. -
Invest love in something worthwhile, a person who reciprocrates. To threadstarter, you'll find someone better, not to worryOriginally posted by FadeToBlack:to the above, not to xShevchenkox thread starter..
most people would say stay away from her...
but for me.. i would say go for her..
follow your heart.. if you really have some feelings for her.. go for her again..
of course, some ppl say staying away would prevent one from agony in a long run...
but hey, no try.... you never know.. -
Originally posted by xShevchenkox:Hello everyone..it has been quite sum time, l decide to post sumtinz here..due to laziness and playing too much games lately, l dont post anything here, only come here and read the stories inside..
Today l am here to tell u all sumtinz...hoping u all tell me ur thinkings and comments.
l hav a ex gf...me and her were together for 5 months + and then we break..Initally was veri gud...for the 1st two months, but as time passes..getting worst..l dun understand wad fault l have..l always think of her, treat her veri nice, buy things for her, care for her, help her do things without even grumbling . But she seems unappreciated. whereas her guys classmates who is cool looking or shuai help her do a bit of things, she is delighted over the moon. l am an average looking guy anyway..do so much oso = shit, shuai ppl do things owazs the most nicest and best..this is the feeling she give me.. And l ask her why her friends help her do things, she so happy, and me help u do so many things, u like nver seem to be veri happy or wad...She give me a response that l wont forget forever "this is what you should do" Indeed it shocks me, but l like her mah, so l dun care much. Den when l am with her, my words are restricted. l have to be careful in my words. Some things l cant say, or she angry le.
Everything..is always my fault, she no fault de..and every time quarrel is she initated de..den in the end, l juz keep apologising and apologising..
Always got scold by her, scold me "jian huo", "ask me go die", l didnt even scold her at all. To her she scold me..she thinks it as a joke and laughs it away or nothing, but l am a human too..imagine ppl scolding u when u hav done nothing wrong, how do u feel? but she dun care abt my feelings, l guess.
Told her once that l like this shirt..a mickey shirt tat costs onli $22. And she promised to buy for me...but in the end, she never buy. Her $ in the wallet keep accumlating, and l saw her wallet..she told me the $, she going to use for herself, wtf.. If dun wan buy then dun promise ppl. her wallet is getting fatter and fatter, what abt mine..my wallet lighter and lighter, and she dun even cared. She wants wad, she told me..l quickly save adn buy for her le..even if l hav to starve my stomach or borrow $ from other ppl.
She dun care whether l am tired or not..being with her, at times tiring, but no matter wad..l always smile and treat my best to her.
Called me, and what she told me...her most favourite topic...always like to tell me abt the guys in her school, this guy cute or shuai, or outside she see this guy tat guy...l guess most guys hear their gf telling them all these..will be angry or wad, rite..but l never..l listen lol, although l admit l am not veri happy. Why compared? And why tell me, l am not interested oso..then l quietly listen..she oso angry...say hey y u no response de? WHAT THE FUCK, u say all these things, wad response u want me to have ne? she always love to compare...But certain things really cannot be compared de mah..No matter what l do, just because l am an average looking guy. l get such unfair treatment...l guess u all oso noe wad l am thinking...now l get this theory from her, As long as u are shuai or gud looking, u own. You want wad oso can, u do bad things, ppl oso clap hands for her or complimented u..whereas u are an average looking guy, u get nothing..
she never complimented me before...even if got...oso veri less..
During her examinations period...mid yr exams, l did told her not to call me so much or go out. She never listen. And when results not so gud..she simply pushed the blame to me. Like l am the downfall of her exams..she nver say to me. But l can feel it..the attitude and what she says.
Then after her results out le..her attitude to me change le...treat me coldly and giv negative response. l think she wanna break with me..but she dun dare say out..so she resorted using such a method lor, forcing me to say out...until l realli cant take it...on monday...l took a cab down to her house and told her. l cried badly as l told her, is like l cant bring myself to say..l feel that she is juz pointing a gun, forcing me to say...l that day reali sad..l told her my heart is shattered to pieces and is veri painful...but she didnt even cried or rite...l say break softly..she says ok lor..so sad rite? l feel that l am being treated like a toy onli...she sian le, tired of this toy, she throw it away..imagine this feeling, u are being treated like a toy.... After that..l msged her...asking her whether l shld wait for her, she told me she feel confused..zzz
Sad rite..told this story to my frenz they all...they told me...this conclusion..maybe she liked u at the start...den eventually she veri confused, dun noe wan u anot, and is change of heart..
haiz...l am now okie le...but just wanna share this story with u all...and want to see u all de comments and reactions, and what u all concluded..=) thanks
Before you rant about the long and short of how a woman treated you unfairly, you got to understand that initially before all these drama-mama took place, you have all the freewill and time to:
I) Understand her as a person/friend before moving further.
II) Decide if she is suitable for a relationship with you.
Am I not right?
Since you have already ACCEPTED her and CHOSE to be in a relationship, don't ever retrograde, snarl and bite your deal the minute she is not the product you wanted in the first place. This is exactly the woman you have picked and if it wasn't the deal, blame the lack of wisdom and decision you have made - this is applicable to both genders.
This is a breach of CloUdiSm first law - 'It is we who chose our partner, not the other way round.'
Here comes the interesting part: in the end, you still willingly chose to be in her 'service'.
You must remember that nobody, but ourselves, can make us stay in a bad relationship.
Although I don't fancy using age as a factor, you can't really expect much from a 15 years old girl, could you?
Think about it.
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
This sounds kind of harsh, but nevertheless it does make sense. Before you rant about the long and short of how a woman treated you unfairly, you got to understand that initially before all these drama-mama took place, you have all the freewill and time to:
I) Understand her as a person/friend before moving further.
II) Decide if she is suitable for a relationship with you.
Am I not right?
Since you have already ACCEPTED her and CHOSE to be in a relationship, don't ever retrograde, snarl and bite your deal the minute she is not the product you wanted in the first place. This is exactly the woman you have picked and if it wasn't the deal, blame the lack of wisdom and decision you have made - this is applicable to both genders.
This is a breach of CloUdiSm first law - [b]'It is we who chose our partner, not the other way round.'
Here comes the interesting part: in the end, you still willingly chose to be in her 'service'.
You must remember that nobody, but ourselves, can make us stay in a bad relationship.
Although I don't fancy using age as a factor, you can't really expect much from a 15 years old girl, could you?
Think about it.
Cheers[/b] -
if my gf scold me jian huo, on the spot break. don even hav to think..
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Please intro to me. I teach her good lesson.
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to shevchenko: from what u just spoken, i feel that your ex is maybe just pure immature. the girls in my school too from 13-15 also desire to have handsome and rich guys to be their stead. some in my sch go for a relationship not because of true love but to enjoy the process of being loved, gifts being showered. from what i read, sadly but truly i think ur ex belongs to this group.
however, you needn't be sad. it's time to move on. anyway i am 18 just like you.