I don't seem to be interested in anything
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Quit ur job
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Then no money, I lagi more moody, right?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Quit ur job
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maybe a different job?
one that you like? or do you like the one you are doing now? -
don wry im 18, and me and my friends experience almost the same thing, BORED! ARGHGHGHGHGH!!! somthing like that, wanto go out also dunno what to do where to go. go on msn everyone send me the same thing and i do the same. " BORED!!!!" so well, i really need help too -.-Originally posted by Honeybunz:One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis?
maybe at my age, ppl will tell me to club since im finally legal, buts its like i club since 16, gt bored of it soo long ago, sometimes i feel like games are too boring to play, wanto go out but too lazy, bored but dunno wad to do. this is a sh!tass feeling -
final option, take up planting and post pix hereOriginally posted by Honeybunz:Then no money, I lagi more moody, right? 
http://agony.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=164364&page=8 -
I love planting. I used to plant when I lived with my parents.Originally posted by a_splash:final option, take up planting and post pix here
http://agony.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=164364&page=8
But at the current place that I am living now, dunno why all the plants don't live long
I replaced and replaced, until I lost all the satisfaction and gave up totally 
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this is a new job...hehehOriginally posted by the Bear:maybe a different job?
one that you like? or do you like the one you are doing now?
It is not my dream job, but definitely better than the last one. -
well.. you could work freelance or temp jobs or part time jobs for the time being and just bum around.
Stay at home, relax, go to the beach and do absolutely nothing... and just wait for urself to recharge? -
At your age, shouldn't you still be studying? If all else seems boring to you, why not focus your attention on studies? I assume you and your friends go out to have fun and such. Ever tried heart to heart talk? Or closer chat with a close group of friends? I think you may have tried this too and you are bored.Originally posted by phanta5y:don wry im 18, and me and my friends experience almost the same thing, BORED! ARGHGHGHGHGH!!! somthing like that, wanto go out also dunno what to do where to go. go on msn everyone send me the same thing and i do the same. " BORED!!!!" so well, i really need help too -.-
maybe at my age, ppl will tell me to club since im finally legal, buts its like i club since 16, gt bored of it soo long ago, sometimes i feel like games are too boring to play, wanto go out but too lazy, bored but dunno wad to do. this is a sh!tass feeling
For my case, I go out with friends to anywhere, EVEN if its the same place repeated over and over again. I have many things to talk to them and I like their company. I will never feel bored going out with most of them.
I think its more of the person to try to make good use of the time given to do the things one wants. If one cannot find a purpose or "reason" in life, no matter what one does, that person will still feel empty in the heart and soul. -
I guess you've lost you compass and now you are lossing you directional sense. Try to confide in something you used to like. Maybe you can find back your compass.
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I normally recharge at home, sleep and sleep and sleep... except today cuz I need to go office (only do that once a month according to my Sat roster).Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:well.. you could work freelance or temp jobs or part time jobs for the time being and just bum around.
Stay at home, relax, go to the beach and do absolutely nothing... and just wait for urself to recharge?
Cannot do freelance or bum around leh. Freelance ... I have no special skill to do any freelance. Temp/PT jobs... cannot find and also dun think will improve anything. These days, employers like to slavedrive temp staff. heheheh -
the invitation to come learn scuba diving with us is always open
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heheheOriginally posted by the Bear:the invitation to come learn scuba diving with us is always open
Thanks for the invitation. I'm afraid of the sea. Very bad phobia from the past. -
hmm.. can one.. coz.. in the group (which isn't confirmed who and when), shro-cat is afraid of big fish like friendly potato cods..
but she's going anyway
so, if you wanna, just tell us yah?Originally posted by Honeybunz:hehehe
Thanks for the invitation. I'm afraid of the sea. Very bad phobia from the past. -
I dont know.. sometimes when I feel that the routine is getting to me... yeah.. the first thing I do is quit my job. Its a little bit like bungee jumping without the rope. Reckless, but I like the freedom. Lucky... cos.. hmm mum and dad don't really depend on me at those time.Originally posted by Honeybunz:I normally recharge at home, sleep and sleep and sleep... except today cuz I need to go office (only do that once a month according to my Sat roster).
Cannot do freelance or bum around leh. Freelance ... I have no special skill to do any freelance. Temp/PT jobs... cannot find and also dun think will improve anything. These days, employers like to slavedrive temp staff. heheheh
Money I can do with .. very little. Lots of things to do really to get money. Temp jobs at events, I even did this weird.. video taking thing at Levi's leadership camp once. waitressing at ktvs. etc etc.
Its quite fun really, as if you get to see life from other camps, other lifestyles. The people I've met in these jobs are interesting.
Doesnt happen to me that often ba. Maybe once in about 2 - 3 years.
At the very least, problems would crop up and you got to be interested in them.
NOW that I am supposed to be stable and settled down though.. Hmm..
Anyway good thing u r conscious abt ur boredom. I find that a lot of people who aren't aware of it start to create problems for themselves so that SOMETHING is happening and they dont feel it anymore. -
yes studies, school has already bcome an option i take to escape boredom alone, meaning at least in school i got to rush for classes and be occupied.Originally posted by Bontakun:At your age, shouldn't you still be studying? If all else seems boring to you, why not focus your attention on studies? I assume you and your friends go out to have fun and such. Ever tried heart to heart talk? Or closer chat with a close group of friends? I think you may have tried this too and you are bored.
For my case, I go out with friends to anywhere, EVEN if its the same place repeated over and over again. I have many things to talk to them and I like their company. I will never feel bored going out with most of them.
I think its more of the person to try to make good use of the time given to do the things one wants. If one cannot find a purpose or "reason" in life, no matter what one does, that person will still feel empty in the heart and soul.
yes me and friends do hang out and talk about stuff but there are times we run outta stuff to talk and go back to the bored topic and being bored all over again, maybe coz we do this 'heart to heart' talk to often lol
and yes, i can say im rather aimless in life lol. not really a laughing matter but i just find no motivation to do anything abt it -
Slowly bah. You may not find it now doesn't mean you will NEVER find it. It took me a LONG time to find it, but I found it. I am sure you will too.Originally posted by phanta5y:yes studies, school has already bcome an option i take to escape boredom alone, meaning at least in school i got to rush for classes and be occupied.
yes me and friends do hang out and talk about stuff but there are times we run outta stuff to talk and go back to the bored topic and being bored all over again, maybe coz we do this 'heart to heart' talk to often lol
and yes, i can say im rather aimless in life lol. not really a laughing matter but i just find no motivation to do anything abt it
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There are possible reasons for losing appetite over the usual daily chores and events of your life.
1. You have grown wiser. e.g., look back to your teenage years. Would you now react, behave, be interested in things, as you had when you were a teenager? Why have you lost appetite for those that you used to enjoy as a teenager - is a similar question you would be asking yourself now - iff (mathematical abbrev for 'if and only if') your current loss of interest is due to your becoming wiser.
The times when you feel 'no point' are evidence that you have become wiser.
2. There is an unfulfilled desire which has become amplified recently. The amplification could have been triggered by a series of advertisements running on TV, the middle-east situation, your sister/brother/neighbour getting married or having had a baby. A silent unknown obsession can cause you to lose interest in other things. It's like an unreachable itch and you just don't know where to scratch.
You might have seen a cute furry sheep dog at your friend's landed house, and since you know your HDB apt can never accommodate such a huge dog, you throw it off behind your mind and you'll never know it's the cause of your disinterest.
3. Feelings of helplessness and haplessness. And you don't like the feeling and therefore you block the helplessness off your mind. But it still bugs you. You offended a neighbour or friend just before she/he left the country or died. You feel offended for having offended your own principles and therefore the framework of your life is breaking down silently.
There are times when we should enjoy the emotional free-fall of feeling helpless. It is a very great experience. It is like jumping off a plane before the parachute opens without the risk and cost of parachuting.
4. It could be a combination of all the above.
One could medidate to equalise his/her mental and physical state, to calm oneself against the superficial waves smashing into your face and feel the strong silent undercurrent of tide flowing by your feet, stretch out your hands and let it flow with the calm of the surface water and gradually let the natural response of your body balance your body against the rollicking surface currents.
After a long while (just don't fall asleep and drown yourself) you will discover that you could attain a wider attitude, a wider mind, a wider mode of communication and then you will notice what was ugly is no longer. What was beautiful is mundane. But then as you go off home, your ordinary attitudes return to you. Then you have to find another opportunity of free day and free moments to repeat the exercise.
There is a silent back cove at Sentosa. Once during off-peak days/hours, I have seen a couple doing stuffs there. But that is not the point. The point is there is a cove at sentosa that at times is so silent you could immerse yourself to the neck and meditate there. Haven't been there in years - hope it's still there. -
Okay, Jews have the Mikveh, Japanese have their bath-houses, Americans have the jacuzzi and Singaporeans have the vibrating shower head. Take a long shower once a week. Buy a nice plastic chair to sit on, carry a small dainty umbrella over your shoulder and pretend you are walking in the rain.Originally posted by Honeybunz:hehehe
Thanks for the invitation. I'm afraid of the sea. Very bad phobia from the past. -
The first part sounds ok... but the last part of it was like..... "HUH"?Originally posted by Miamidot:Okay, Jews have the Mikveh, Japanese have their bath-houses, Americans have the jacuzzi and Singaporeans have the vibrating shower head. Take a long shower once a week. Buy a nice plastic chair to sit on, carry a small dainty umbrella over your shoulder and pretend you are walking in the rain.
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Don't sleep too much ar... Can make you very lethargic...Originally posted by Honeybunz:I normally recharge at home, sleep and sleep and sleep... except today cuz I need to go office (only do that once a month according to my Sat roster).
Cannot do freelance or bum around leh. Freelance ... I have no special skill to do any freelance. Temp/PT jobs... cannot find and also dun think will improve anything. These days, employers like to slavedrive temp staff. heheheh -
Simply go out to beach every afternoon. I know you dont like, but just go.
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The first part sounds ok... but the last part of it was like..... "HUH"?Originally posted by Miamidot:Okay, Jews have the Mikveh, Japanese have their bath-houses, Americans have the jacuzzi and Singaporeans have the vibrating shower head. Take a long shower once a week. Buy a nice plastic chair to sit on, carry a small dainty umbrella over your shoulder and pretend you are walking in the rain.
I meant to say ~ sit on the chair and let the shower fall on your face or your back. Very therapeutic. Hold the umbrella and twirl it around and mess up your whole bath room with water. That helps to open you up to the possibility of messing up a lil' bit of your thus far perfectly organised life. -
my bathroom very small oneOriginally posted by Miamidot:[
The first part sounds ok... but the last part of it was like..... "HUH"?
I meant to say ~ sit on the chair and let the shower fall on your face or your back. Very therapeutic. Hold the umbrella and twirl it around and mess up your whole bath room with water. That helps to open you up to the possibility of messing up a lil' bit of your thus far perfectly organised life.
dun think the umbrella can be open fully. -
Sorry, I had the impression you had a 5Room or HUDC.
You need to find ways to mess up your life a little.
Do some things that do not require much motivation.
Dispose (sorry for intruding your privacy) all your undies and buy a new set. If you are unwilling to do that ~ perhaps, you are hopelessly emotionally tied down to an unknown entity. It's a huge waste, but that's the point.
Donate blood. Also consider visiting the Singapore Biopolis and volunteer donating ~ what they might need but lack donors ~ because medical ethics prevent them from paying donors, but what would otherwise monthly go to waste. That is, if Singapre does conduct non-embryo stem cell research. http://www.time.com/time/archive/preview/0,10987,1218061,00.html
Drive a car (rent if you don't have a car) into JB. Bring a friend along. Drive into Malaysia with no destination in mind. But that might not work because you would need to find out and plan what places to avoid. Too much planning spoils the broth.
Come to Maine or New Hampshire for two week vacation. It's rather safe, but don't take that for granted. People don't normally lock their car doors or their houses. But please, don't commit the embarrassing activity of obsessive shopping. Cross shopping out of your list. Drive and walk around town aimlessly. But safely, so that there are people to ask if you need help. Loosen up and greet strangers like you've never greeted anyone before. Singaporeans do not need visa to visit the USA.
On the other hand, something as simple as renovating your apt would bring your spirits up.