Cant let it all out and anxiety
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Haii..
i used to have anxiety disorder. right now i am quite cured, i can say that.
i may be happy, seem happy, and i have quite a lot of friends. i have anixiety that is left beneath me. i feel quite sad at times as people all think i am a hapy go lucky boy albeit serious at times.
due to anxiety, people see me as blur, unable to concentrate and so on..
i feel like telling all my woes to my fellow friends, but what do they know?
i think i dont even have any close friends that are able to share my woes. they are all happy go lucky bunches.
i feel pissed off and sad when they say i am blur, and so on, as i was not able to do something, but fact is its all due to anxiety and too much thinking.
i know i will eliminate anxiety, but as human beings, we also have problems, and we need to talk to other people about this.
i just cannot let it out. i have no one that will listen and understand this anxiety thing.
its hard man..
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You can vent it out here if you are comfortable with it.Originally posted by somepersonlah:Haii..
i used to have anxiety disorder. right now i am quite cured, i can say that.
i may be happy, seem happy, and i have quite a lot of friends. i have anixiety that is left beneath me. i feel quite sad at times as people all think i am a hapy go lucky boy albeit serious at times.
due to anxiety, people see me as blur, unable to concentrate and so on..
i feel like telling all my woes to my fellow friends, but what do they know?
i think i dont even have any close friends that are able to share my woes. they are all happy go lucky bunches.
i feel pissed off and sad when they say i am blur, and so on, as i was not able to do something, but fact is its all due to anxiety and too much thinking.
i know i will eliminate anxiety, but as human beings, we also have problems, and we need to talk to other people about this.
i just cannot let it out. i have no one that will listen and understand this anxiety thing.
its hard man.. -
take it easy and tell us your problems here... we are here to help...
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haiyah, thxz man..
i want to prove to my superior i am good, but this little bit of anxiety is preventing me.
when he speaks to me, i will be like seem a bit blur. then he wil be like pissed off. it really pulls my confidence down, cos i know i can do it, but this anxiety is pulling me down
i know he does not have confidence in me. i see my fellow guys so confident, can handle the men, i am soo feeling inferior.
i know i can do it, but this anxiety is backing me off. it really saddens me at times.. -
whenever i am with many friends, i will be queit as hell. i dont like it. my worries and anxieties are preventing me.
maybe i care too much, about their feelings and stuff...
my lack of flexibility has caused people to stay away from me..arg.. -
Dude, relax yah. I can see a bit of u in me and I'm sure, everyone else. Perhaps ur dosage of anxiety is higher.
I think u are very very self-conscious? This could be the root of ur problems. What do u think? -
too self consious oredi la..
last time worst man...i search some forums..and i realise i had anxiety disorder..sux man..zzz
now that i am recovering, i still have tt bit of anxiety..a bit only..but this bit isnt making my life complete..arg.. -
May we know how old are you ?
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A bit left? Certainly if u keep quiet when in social gatherings doesn't sound anything like that.....Or when u get anxious and present urself in a bad light in front of ur boss...
I feel that u may have to fully accept that u still got quite a bit of it.
As for how to stop being so self-conscious, may I suggest:
1) Speak louder (at a normal level though) everytime u r at work or social gatherings
2) Try to force urself to socialise more often with people ur not comfy with
3) Keep an open mind and be receptive to criticism. If pple say u r "blur", just smile it off even though u feel u r not
4) Just remember that it's not the end of the world if even if u screw up and expose ur anxiety
Hope that was helpful
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yeah, sometimes when i speak i speak lound but in muffled voice, so that kinda sucked.
yeah, i admit that i have anxiety still. i dont deny that. i force myself in social gatherings..but there is this thing that make me like freeze..when i wanna say something..it just freezes me, and it just pulls my confidence..
if anyone with anxiety disorder shold be able to know the feeling -
Dear brudder, the only way out is....to force urself all the time, even if it risks making u look silly.
Because, if u dun force urself constantly, u will always be frozen in your comfort zone and there will be no improvements.
Remember, anxiety can never be totally overcome, that's because everyone has it. It's a matter of how much. -
im 20 btw..
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i am forcing myself..i know i will improve..but rite now, things are bottling up, i just need someone..anyone that could relate..to let all things that are in me to get out..
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You need to open up, take the first step to try, no matter what the results will be. If you never fallm you never learn. So, don't be afraid of failures.
You are self conscious and inconfident because you mind how people look at you. If your superior cannot motivate you, you motivate yourself!
what's bothering you? -
I also have the same problem... but i think the main cure of it is to be yourself and dont care what others think of you ?
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yeah, i know i have to get out of this comfort zone..
sometimes when i talk, i get tensed. then i will be self consious. then i will stop talking cos it aint comfortable.
i envy those people that can talk, talk cock and stuff, they seem to have soo much fun.
the things that people take for granted, like talking communicating etc, i am not able to do it smoothly for now..
yah, it will improve, but i just need something to vent my so called frustration out..
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I don't know if i have this anxiety disorder thing or not, but i AM very envious or would you say, always wanted to be one of those people who seems to shrug everything off and someone who radiates the mood around..
Hmm, more like when he talks you'll listen, and he's always telling jokes etc. Even when he makes mistakes HE can just laugh it off, and everyone will forget.
Instead of me, i make mistake the mood will tense up, and other things will follow. Its weird. Sometimes i ask myself, how come others can make mistakes and not be scolded, but when i do something for this 1 time i get scolded?
I think its my personality... or maybe when i do something wrong i get anxious and react before thinking...
Hmm. i guess i strayed again. haha. i don't even know what i'm trying to say.~ -
So who is the "HE" you Refering to ? And How do you know what the "person" is thinking... Have these possibilities come across your mind ? Like
1. The Person although smiles off but after that he does go back and reflect on what he said and changes.
2. Maybe the Person didnt meant what he was saying OR he said things Without knowing he Offended someone... These Cases happens... OR even there might be interpretion Between Individuals...
Dont ASSUME ! Sometimes its just makes an ASS out of U and ME -
Have you even Realised At all the individual Maybe hes trying to Potray a Message...But does it Wrongly in a Wrong way ? Somehow he offended someone ? Or even if you found it Offensive...Do you Bother to Confront the Person and ask what does he Mean by that ?!
Your Cause of the Problem is "Miscommunication". It Happens everywhere !
For example : A Person stare at a Group of individuals... And these people thinks he is Not happy with them...But maybe the person dont think that way !
If the group of people were to bother to ask why is the guy staring...I think the Matter wouldnt even resolved to fighting...
And about smiling...Isnt it right to smile...its a sign of a friendly gesture...U wouldnt want a person when talking to you pulls a long face all day and when he talks to you in a bad way i think you would be pissed off right ?
Summary : CLARIFY BEFORE YOU ACTION OR ASSUME ! Cheers
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Take it easy on yourself... Sometimes you get to become who you wish to be.. Sometimes you don't...Originally posted by _Aaron_:I don't know if i have this anxiety disorder thing or not, but i AM very envious or would you say, always wanted to be one of those people who seems to shrug everything off and someone who radiates the mood around..
Hmm, more like when he talks you'll listen, and he's always telling jokes etc. Even when he makes mistakes HE can just laugh it off, and everyone will forget.
Instead of me, i make mistake the mood will tense up, and other things will follow. Its weird. Sometimes i ask myself, how come others can make mistakes and not be scolded, but when i do something for this 1 time i get scolded?
I think its my personality... or maybe when i do something wrong i get anxious and react before thinking...
Hmm. i guess i strayed again. haha. i don't even know what i'm trying to say.~
Even if things like this happen, probably won't be overnight... -
Try to familarise yourself with each within individually for a starter... Then realise that it's ok to let yourself go once in a while when you're within a group.. Others probably won't be caring as much as you do...Originally posted by somepersonlah:Haii..
i used to have anxiety disorder. right now i am quite cured, i can say that.
i may be happy, seem happy, and i have quite a lot of friends. i have anixiety that is left beneath me. i feel quite sad at times as people all think i am a hapy go lucky boy albeit serious at times.
due to anxiety, people see me as blur, unable to concentrate and so on..
i feel like telling all my woes to my fellow friends, but what do they know?
i think i dont even have any close friends that are able to share my woes. they are all happy go lucky bunches.
i feel pissed off and sad when they say i am blur, and so on, as i was not able to do something, but fact is its all due to anxiety and too much thinking.
i know i will eliminate anxiety, but as human beings, we also have problems, and we need to talk to other people about this.
i just cannot let it out. i have no one that will listen and understand this anxiety thing.
its hard man..
You can even try organising some gathering or event for your friends if you like...? Never mind about the outcome, but just at least have a shot at things to see how it feels like...? -
I can TOTALLY relate to that. It's social anxiety disorder right???Originally posted by somepersonlah:yeah, sometimes when i speak i speak lound but in muffled voice, so that kinda sucked.
yeah, i admit that i have anxiety still. i dont deny that. i force myself in social gatherings..but there is this thing that make me like freeze..when i wanna say something..it just freezes me, and it just pulls my confidence..
if anyone with anxiety disorder shold be able to know the feeling
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I have some things to share with you that might open your eyes.
But first,think of this - For ALL your life....What has this disorder done for you? Has it lead you to any positive things? i mean,there IS a positive in this. There is a very good reason for you to have this so called "disorder".
Finally,I found someone that writes word for word(what you wrote above)what I wrote before somewhere.
Hear from you soon! -
yeah la, i have improved tons lar, anyway thanks a lot for the feedback, it's been helpful..
its just like sometimes i dont want to hurt other peoples' feelings that i dont retort to them or something. its making me feel lousy.
i dont like to be quiet, cos deep inside i am an outgoing chirpy person, but there is this hindrance thats a pain.
so far everything has been going on well. there are many people who like me, i cant deny that, but at times we just cannot communicate properly, cos there is this discomforting aura flowing..
i will stuck in between my words and stuff..and its pissing me off. i hate to be like this. probably i am jsut a perfectionist thinking that some errors in me will doom my future or something like that..
arr, yeah, its social anxiety..it sucks, i know how it feels like, i am not going it through again man..