u sure u nt interested in her? since she feels bad, u hv to take away the picture n bring her somewhere new n let her noe u sincere fren... dun ask her to drive when u jio her...Originally posted by lonestar86:she's my colleague..
comes from a wealthy family..
but problems r friends always make used of her cus she owns a car..
go out late at night always jio her cus they can get free ride home..
bf leaves her cus he cannot afford to marry her..
and he feels that he's not fit to be with her..
she smokes cus she wanna shorten her life..
she cut her wrist many times before..
everyday she's pretending that she's happy but deep inside her she's not..
i've always try to console her..
but to no avail..
now i've tried to cheer her up everyday..
jus wanna make sure she stays happy..
Ya, try to get her to public transport like buses or MRT. Let her see da enviornment there. Bring her to nice places and listen to her talk, BUT you oso have to talk abt yourself. Its how you build trust. Open up to her and she will feel comfortable to tell you too. Coz itf you oredi done dat (I tink you done dat...) You perhaps can tell her more abt scenarios dat happened to your frens dats "similar" to hers and share with her.Originally posted by BrUtUs:u sure u nt interested in her? since she feels bad, u hv to take away the picture n bring her somewhere new n let her noe u sincere fren... dun ask her to drive when u jio her...
ya, and u'll lose ur real frens once they know u're testing them out all the while.Originally posted by KenPlus:wah kao rich also miserable
But if i am in her shoes,if i want to find real friends,i will not let them know i am rich.
oh isit?Originally posted by Magnus:Quote from the movie "Flight of the Phoenix" :
"I think men only need one thing in lifeÂ… someone to love. If you canÂ’t give them that, then give them something to hope for. And if you canÂ’t give them that, just give them something to do.."
Ask her what she wants to do with her life. From there, comes hope and probably come to love herself & others.
It's just a quote from the movie word for word. I did not alter it in any way. Dun take the gender part literally. The cast is predominantly guys with only 1 girl stranded on a desert, something like the show 'LOST'.Originally posted by browniebaobao:oh isit?
I always tot love is not the priority to most men.
What a woman want out of love, and what a man want out of love is different.
more or less....she is partly to blame.....Originally posted by lonestar86:she's my colleague..
comes from a wealthy family..
but problems r friends always make used of her cus she owns a car..
go out late at night always jio her cus they can get free ride home..
bf leaves her cus he cannot afford to marry her..
and he feels that he's not fit to be with her..
she smokes cus she wanna shorten her life..
she cut her wrist many times before..
everyday she's pretending that she's happy but deep inside her she's not..
i've always try to console her..
but to no avail..
now i've tried to cheer her up everyday..
jus wanna make sure she stays happy..
Originally posted by browniebaobao:oh isit?
I always tot love is not the priority to most men.
What a woman want out of love, and what a man want out of love is different.
Yes, this is exactly what sheÂ’s doing..Originally posted by KenPlus:wah kao rich also miserable
But if i am in her shoes,if i want to find real friends,i will not let them know i am rich.
Fyi, sheÂ’s taking public transport to work everyday..Originally posted by Bontakun:Ya, try to get her to public transport like buses or MRT. Let her see da enviornment there. Bring her to nice places and listen to her talk, BUT you oso have to talk abt yourself. Its how you build trust. Open up to her and she will feel comfortable to tell you too. Coz itf you oredi done dat (I tink you done dat...) You perhaps can tell her more abt scenarios dat happened to your frens dats "similar" to hers and share with her.
Nice places not as in couple places, but those with good views dat make ppl soothing in da heart. MacRitchie reservoir is one, Esplanade, Marina Sq da food court non air con section also good choice. Even simple parks or nature reserve can do wonders.
You can also introduce friends who are "not bothered by $$$ or status" when she is ready and comfortable. You will need all the help you can get.![]()
TheyÂ’ve been together for 6 yrs and have reached the stage of getting married..Originally posted by browniebaobao:poor ple miserable, rich ple also miserable?
maybe she's too easy to be taken advantage of.
about the guy cannot afford to marry her, is that just an excuse?
unless she spends a lot, leading a luxurious life.
if not, i think she can do something about it.
anyway nowadays when 2 persons get married, they still work and support themselves mah. so i think it's not a big deal if she comes from a rich family, unless her parents disapprove or the guy has his pride and ego.
Yup, she has depression..Originally posted by babyreyes:she sounds very depressed to me.
actually..i dont know if this might work for her..... but being a girl...and girls usually soft spot for animals n children...
bring her to pet shops.....show her cute lil animals.... bring her to hte zoo..looka t those baby animals...... ask her if she wanna take gd care of one cutie rabbit or something...at least having a cute pet arnd...she will care n put into consideration about the pet if she wanna do stupid things.
let her be arnd children.
animals and children innocence can touch one's heart.
Animals n children look at this world with full of anticipation and positive mindset. Even when they fell ill or feel down, they step outta their down mood quicker and strive to survive. U shld watch how lil babies learn to walk. even though they fell many times..they dont give up ones.
right now she have to learn to appreciate wat tat is around her and her life..including you.
if tat doesnt work..bring her to those cancer wards....especially those children cancer ward..let her see those dying kids who struggle to live....tell her tat they suffer alot more than her..yet htey are tryign to survive...U can also try the coma ward or ICU .....thye are suffering pains and pains..yet they are ifghting to live....the more she shld cherish her life right now.
Just the pain of a heartbreak and many times being taken advantage of is much better than being a young kid who has never seen the world n suffering day in day out with physical pain or someone brain damaged yet struggling nto stay alive.
tell her that it hurts to see a loved one being hurt...it hurts to see her like that...
motivate her...encourage her..... u can start off by buying motivation books or happiness books.
if all things fail...time to see a shrink.
yes, i'm very closed to her..Originally posted by Gwangetto:but hey, maybe u can start being her friend? and see that she's doing okay.![]()