old or new bf?
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Broke up only a few months?
Both of u got a new parnter within this short time?
Infidelity thoughts?
Grow up girl. This is not what we call a stable relationship. This is called fooling around.
u say both of u still have feelings for each other?
of cos la, broke up only a few months nia. Give urself more time to forget about the 1 who ill treats u. Don't let ur EQ overtake ur IQ.
Hard to break off with current bf?
My advice to u is, think of ways to forget the old 1 instead of thinking how to break with the new 1.
Put urself in ur new bf's position. if after u go back with ur old bf, and found out that whenever he's with u he thinks of other girls, when he's not with u he's with the other girl. and eventually he breaks off with u yet again becos of the other girl. how would u feel???
Cherish what u have now and not go back to the old 1. things will have to move forward and not stay stagnant. Next time think twice b4 acting, ur rash decision may cause ur guilt forever. -
u 2 fast in changing partners huh... confirm got backup plan before breakup one...
Its up to u to choose either old or new bf... we really cant help u as u are the one that is experiencing both the old n the new. its like Vodkha Blueberry or Vodkha Vanilla.~ -
thanx pple.. think some of u sort of waked me up.. haha..
i should have juz moved on.. wat more i have a better one now..
i should be grateful and should treasure him.. y wanna think abt the past right.. wat matters is the future..
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Choose the one that treat you better.. Forget about the old bf, he got his current gf, maybe if you ditch yr current and go back to yr ex, maybe he wont want you and then you in the end cant have both cakes after all.. Think about it..
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Forget it.. about ur ex... U should cherish wat u have now...
I used to face the similar problem with u... my ex used to take me for granted as well.. after broke up with him, i got myself a new bf within months, but not to make him jealous.. just my new bf treat very well upon that moment.. But few months later i broke up with my new bf, cause i found him is not right person for me..
That time, I still seeing my ex as a friend as n when, whether i'm attached or not... He did ask me few times whether we can patch up or not.. but i rejected.. However, my ex able to get me back to his side finally as he promise he will treat me nicely and cherish me.. plus i still have the same feeling for him.. I thought this time we really can make it, I even fantasized about our future...
But a month later, he broke up with me.. I was so shocked at that time.. caused everything seem fine for the past one month.. He just told me that he cant get himself to treat me well.. I was very sad and really angry.. i was thinking that he just play a fool with me.. From that day onwards, i din keep a contact with him anymore..
So my conclusion is never get back to your ex, even though they told you that they are not the same old him anymore, promise will treat u nicely and cherish you... All these are just bullshit.. DUN BELIEVE!!!! -
hai....
i think u shld cherish ur current bf and let the past be the past....
since ur ex already got gf...then why think so much????
think here ..worry here...think there...worry there....... does it help the situation ? No...
Let go of hte past...
theres no turning back.
from the day u agreed ot be with ur current bf....u shld have already given up on ur ex....
are u being fair to ur current bf?
Do u wanna live in guilt for ur life?
If u somehow have feelings for this current bf, pls pls....forget ur ex........
thinking of ur ex now brings more harm than joy.
u already have a loving bf with you...wat else do u want?
ur ex already has his gf...wat more can he give to you?
It seems that back then..u cant give him happiness...neither can he give u happiness....the decision to break up was probably the best solution for both u n ur ex....
if ur ex truly happy......wat else can u ask for?
its time to move on girl...
u said ur ex cldnt and didnt cherish you....... u know hte feeling of being taken for granted.......do u wanna impose this feeling of being taken for granted to ur current bf???
its time to let go girl....
release the past........cherish the present..look forward ot ur future.... -
there's a land of true happiness
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Mi too have a similar past..
Was with my ex bf 4 abt 4yrs.. We realised we weren suited for each other after ard 2yr ++.. But then.. We both hang onto the r/s coz we couldn bear 2 part with each other jus yet..
Drag on 1yr+ b4 we finally broke off..
He initated the breakoff.. Coz i was treating him fairly coldly.. & He couldn take it anymore..
Awhile ltr.. We still maintained contact.. Went out with each other sometimes.. Then i realised tat i got a crush back on him again.. The feelin was like.. The kinda of feelins sparked off when we 1st started datin..
I kinda hint my interest to him.. He seems interested enough to mi.. But guess i duno him too well bah..
There is this gal whom he likes.. I noe he's interested in her.. But he still calls mi out, nevertheless.. I was thinkin.. Whom will he choose??
One dae.. He told mi he like her.. The 2nd dae.. He said he treat her onLi as a sister. The 3rd dae.. He told mi they were tog..
I was heartbroken.. FrOm then... I decided to let go totally & start afresh..
Haha.. It took mi 1 whole yr b4 i could give up on him.. & Decide tat.. Yeah.. I'm finally ready to tak on a new r/s..
MoraL of the story is.. After u r in a long r/s.. U feel very wasted to give it up.. After all.. You have been with each other for so long.. Or sometimes we feel.. We haven given our all in the r/s & it ended.. Tat's why u wish to go back to it.. To make some admendments 2 the wrong u feel u've done..
The err of human is our heart.. The yearnin & pinin 4 someone wHom after v long leaves a deep impression in our mind tat doesn seems to fade..
Treasure ur bf.. Think urself in his shoes.. Guess no one would like bein 2nd fiddle esp when u love the person so..
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correct correct.. hehe.. i thought over it and thinks that what you say is right. maybe it's more of a habit to see my ex..
since my bf treats me well i should treat him well too and not hurt him.. -
Foundations of a relationship : Weak and thoughtless
Well. Then again, if it makes you happy.
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I have been in a similar situation b4, but my role is that of the new bf.
I met my girlfriend 1-2 months after she broke up with her bf of 6 years. Less than 1 month later, we got togeher. After 3 months together, she started 2 behave strangely. She told me her ex-bf has been keeping in touch with her, and that once or twice they meet up. Although hurt, I kept quiet because i trusted my gf not to do anything behind my back. Furthermore, the guy already had another gf.
Then 1 or 2 weeks before Xmas, she told me that her ex- bf had asked for a patch. I ask her who she loves more. She said me, but on the other hand, her bf needs her more than I do. So I gave her 1 month time to think about our relationship, and who she loved more.
1 month came and gone, but she still didn't give me a reply, so i just told her that I will let go of this relationship. A few weeks later, i heard she and her ex-bf got back together. That was in 2004. Last year, they got married.
Now, back to the tread-starter. Its all up to u. Who do u love more? Who do u think will hurt u lesser? Ask urself why in the 1st place u broke up with ur ex-bf? Will the problems that happened the 1st time round happen again? Just ask urself these few qns, and u will most probably get ur answer. Wish u well. -
Wa.. you're very noble.. hope u have recovered from it and move on.. i will be fine.. cause i think i will stick to my current one as he treats me better and education level are similar.. got same interest too..Originally posted by nanren4ever:I have been in a similar situation b4, but my role is that of the new bf.
I met my girlfriend 1-2 months after she broke up with her bf of 6 years. Less than 1 month later, we got togeher. After 3 months together, she started 2 behave strangely. She told me her ex-bf has been keeping in touch with her, and that once or twice they meet up. Although hurt, I kept quiet because i trusted my gf not to do anything behind my back. Furthermore, the guy already had another gf.
Then 1 or 2 weeks before Xmas, she told me that her ex- bf had asked for a patch. I ask her who she loves more. She said me, but on the other hand, her bf needs her more than I do. So I gave her 1 month time to think about our relationship, and who she loved more.
1 month came and gone, but she still didn't give me a reply, so i just told her that I will let go of this relationship. A few weeks later, i heard she and her ex-bf got back together. That was in 2004. Last year, they got married.
Now, back to the tread-starter. Its all up to u. Who do u love more? Who do u think will hurt u lesser? Ask urself why in the 1st place u broke up with ur ex-bf? Will the problems that happened the 1st time round happen again? Just ask urself these few qns, and u will most probably get ur answer. Wish u well.