ex-gf troubles...
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You thought, i think, who comfirm?Originally posted by Disappointment:I give up... thought can use reverse psychology. Anyway, good luck in watever you do...
Don't shoot blindly lah.
Cheers -
Originally posted by M©+square:You thought, i think, who comfirm?
Don't shoot blindly lah.
Cheers -
nowhere close to her now... both physically and mentally.
not particularly worried about work...
it's not that i purposely want to think about it, but i cant help it... even when doing other stuff... even when it is nearing 2yrs to our breakup.
sometimes in life, it may be better not to see/hear/know certain things? like the msn nick i mentioned. Or thinking too much into it
maybe, duno.
in the past, i was strong emotionally. but that has sinced changed. sure im a mid20s guy with a future to look forward to and all...blah... still human afterall.
regarding her temper... probably, probably not... but with her currently ignoring me, im just passing day by day not knowing anything and being perplexed about it, as much as i try not to.
tbh my mental state is no different than when i started this thread. Not that my life is now preoccupied with 'her,' but rather the lack of 'her.'Originally posted by Devil1976:Your problem is you shouldn't have stay too close with her if you can't handle it.... Work is work... If you find that you could be burden by work, go seek entertainment or relaxation elsewhere...
I think you're should be better focusing on your own life at this point... Don't breed and seek answer for 'console' at the wrong place... 'Horizon' might not submerge too soon, worse if you're sitting and facing the wrong direction already...
What's the point of thinking about her? Personally, based on surface analysis... I see that there's pretty much a chance that she's still one who would throw her temper at you over trivial matters.... -
Really... watever advice that its given here won't help you. Its up to you to decide wat you want to do about it. Man, i mean its already 2 years. Shouldn't you try to let go? Or maybe see things from a different angle.... that all could be a blessing in disguise.Originally posted by risou:nowhere close to her now... both physically and mentally.
not particularly worried about work...
it's not that i purposely want to think about it, but i cant help it... even when doing other stuff... even when it is nearing 2yrs to our breakup.
sometimes in life, it may be better not to see/hear/know certain things? like the msn nick i mentioned. Or thinking too much into it maybe, duno.
in the past, i was strong emotionally. but that has sinced changed. sure im a mid20s guy with a future to look forward to and all...blah... still human afterall.
regarding her temper... probably, probably not... but with her currently ignoring me, im just passing day by day not knowing anything and being perplexed about it, as much as i try not to.
tbh my mental state is no different than when i started this thread. Not that my life is now preoccupied with 'her,' but rather the lack of 'her.'
My ex gf was wif me for 5 years before she said that we are not compatible. She caught me off guard and i was actually depressed about it. It was not until i did some checks on her and found out that she's wif another man. Then 6 months later, she called and asked me if i still love her? I turn her down and her exact words are "I dun need a boyfriend, I need a husband" ....
Now that i'm happily married and have a 3yr old daughter, there's nothing more i could ask for. I look back in memories ........ those were the days. -
Doesn't this alone already answer my question?Originally posted by risou:yes i am jealous, i am unhappy, i dont have a clue as to what i should do now, so no matter comments good or bad, at least i found a place to vent my frustration, because i have no close friend to confide in. And i dont feel any better even after posting all this...
No disrespect, but if your actions were motivated by love alone, why should you be 'jealous and unhappy'? I think you get the drift.
I don't suppose there's a lot more to add on which hasn't already been suggested - in essence, go figure out if she's the one for you(you could have been quarelling frequently - and might continue to do so in all probability if you ever got reacquainted on an intimate level again - but for some couples, that's just part and parcel of what makes that relationship unique) and I think you would know better what is perhaps the most appropriate next course of action for you after straightening your thoughts... -
There could be some misunderstanding. I didn't married my ex gf. It was after broke up with her about 1 year later, i got to know my wife.
Sometimes you try too hard and fail. Sit back and relax. Everything will just work out fine. -
well i was the one who initiated the breakup 2yrs ago, i do not regret making that decision based on the circumstances then. But i'm clearer about my feelings now, even though it took the presence of that guy to do so. Late? better than never.
yes, there are many better girls out there. and yes, despite all the advice, it's still up to me to make a decision and take action. i wish to reignite the flame... now, i'm trying to find out if she's with him or not. could be a slap on my face if yes though.
weird that i sent a 'normal' sms 2 nights ago and she chose not to reply, but another sms hinting at something indirectly related to him... she replied. don't want to read too much into the reply, so we'll see how the smsing goes from here.
edit1: got ignored again, both sms and calls, maybe shes working or whatever, well what the heck, cant be bothered for now
edit2: i cant even get a chance now to try (hard)... zzz if shes with him now just tell me direct and not play this freaking ignore-whenever-i-like-it game
edit3: feel that my state of mind is somewhat unstable atm... maybe with more sleep i can spend less time thinking about this... so... good night. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
You are the old, battered shoes kept in some forgotten corner of her cupboard.
Whenever she wore her new shoes and when it gave her foot sores, she will remember how comfortable the old shoes were, despite being old.
For a period, she may wear you.
But you know that your position has been displaced by the new shoes.
*** You hasten your chase just because you felt threatened over the appearance of this new guy - I believe it is a case of 'reserving' her and deciding your 'feelings' later. More likely, you are seeing it as a 'lost' in something than a mystical call from love which urged the chase.
You are looking back and she is moving forward.
If you wish to dwell in this any longer, you will probably become stagnant, while she enjoyed her new path in life. It may not necessary be a fulfilling relationship, but certainly, it will bring her new destination in love and life.
P.S: Remember, you both are once an item - love and relationship did blossom before. There isn't any regret to begin with; it's an ending to accept gracefully.
Cheers
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ok... the latest is...
she just wants to be friends with both me and him for now.
that is probably a relief as compared to what i expected...
a huge sigh of relief -
You should REALLY LEARN from this EXPERIENCE of yours..Originally posted by risou:ok... the latest is...
she just wants to be friends with both me and him for now.
that is probably a relief as compared to what i expected...
a huge sigh of relief -
his car attracted her is it?Originally posted by risou:im 25, shes 21.
initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...
since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.
recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.
this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.
as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).
we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.
i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...
due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.
just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...
p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/ -
Like how moths are attracted to the light, just be a brighter light than that guy to attract her.