Is me changing of heart or not???
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Feeling confuse and not sure my feeling now!
Just few months ago! I have uncondition love for my darling! Love her very deep. But recently know a gal. A dream gal which i always think will exist only in my dream. At the first of exquistence,i find her very quiet ,unappealing and moody lady which virtually i have no positive feeling towards her. After a few more days of communication,we start to have more than just work talk and I saw her smile which is very sweet( a contrasting viewof her cold look I encounter on the first day).
She is not as quiet as she appears to be,she can joke with you when u know her more and not as bore as I think! In fact,she is a very caring and gentle lady. Once I accidently injured my hands and bleeds,she use her hand and quickly wipe my dirty blood off without hestitation and ask me for my well-being. Then there is once i was sick and inform her of her situation and i happen to tell her casually that i have a review check up for my illness. She can remember exactly the day before i need to go for review and remind me of it! After a few weeks I will say i was a little touch by her action! A really thoughtful and gentle lady..
A very well-manner ,sensible lady who will wait for all her know colleage to come before eating as they are all still queuing up! I was a bit surprise and embarrass by her act! I was digging in on my lunch while she sat there quietly and patiently waiting for other colleage(my colleage too) to all gather and sit down for their lunch before starting for her meal! Just like little well-manner children waiting for all the elders to sit first before touching the untensils for food. I was a little uneasy by her act and i too slowly put down my utensil and waits for other to arrive before handling the food. She also eat plainly and never wear branded clothes like her peer. She basically lives simplely. Never club,smoke and no bad habits.
While her working attitude is all employer likes to employ. She works non-stop from the moment she steps in office to the working time it ends. She is not those who really finds nothing to do,will see down surf the net a while or taking a small coffee break. She just continue to search and asking for work to do,no matter how difficult or tough the task is. She works sensibily by asking questions for every new task given to her. Showing she don works blindly.. She will volunteer to do the works herself and even do works quietly so as not to her so called ' trouble others' . She is those type who will try her best to do everythings herself and only seek help when impossible to handle that task like carry a 30 kg load. Then she will seek help. She is very courteous and will say thank you all the times after a task is complete and every single help without fail.
To me,she is just like an angel... She still got which too many virtues to mentions in her! I was like ' Can such gal still possible to exist in this world?'
Today,I have a fight with my ger over a small issue and have some different views on a matter and she throws tantrum and act like a child. I was quite pissed off and suddenly think whether will we have this kind of incident often after we married. I told myself I don want to get into this kind of misery! Now,I start to consider our r/s liao.But my ger is also a very sweet ger who do many good things for me too which i will never forget!. She is also a very good gal who never club and a homely gal.
Now i am confused why my consideration of my r/s with my ger is becos my encounter of this super good gal which shaken my unqestionable love for my ger or really becos of the small incident over her tantrum that shaken that my future,like with my ger will be a mistakes! Btw, i still love my ger a lot but I scare future such incident will ruin my life in future?
Is it me changing of heart or not??? -
i don't mean to sound like i'm more experienced, in fact i'm younger than you.
but i once had a problem like yours, and what i can say is that deep in your heart, a gf of years will not be easily replaced by a new girl you know recently. yes, in your current stupor, the tides may have changed. you used 2 statements to describe your current gf as compared to the 2 long paragraphs you wrote to praise this new girl. you're infatuated with this new girl, so every bickering with your current gf will be subconsciously blown up as you're unknowingly biased already.
think about this, i'm sure you've quarrelled with your gf before. think about how you have successfully patched up. but why now, it just seems as if it's the end of the road for the both of you? it's crucial now that you remain objective and be fairer to your gf.
at the end of the day, you'll realise who you really love. all the best bro. -
That girl attached or not? Would she be interested in you or not?Originally posted by Simpleheat:Feeling confuse and not sure my feeling now!
Just few months ago! I have uncondition love for my darling! Love her very deep. But recently know a gal. A dream gal which i always think will exist only in my dream. At the first of exquistence,i find her very quiet ,unappealing and moody lady which virtually i have no positive feeling towards her. After a few more days of communication,we start to have more than just work talk and I saw her smile which is very sweet( a contrasting viewof her cold look I encounter on the first day).
She is not as quiet as she appears to be,she can joke with you when u know her more and not as bore as I think! In fact,she is a very caring and gentle lady. Once I accidently injured my hands and bleeds,she use her hand and quickly wipe my dirty blood off without hestitation and ask me for my well-being. Then there is once i was sick and inform her of her situation and i happen to tell her casually that i have a review check up for my illness. She can remember exactly the day before i need to go for review and remind me of it! After a few weeks I will say i was a little touch by her action! A really thoughtful and gentle lady..
A very well-manner ,sensible lady who will wait for all her know colleage to come before eating as they are all still queuing up! I was a bit surprise and embarrass by her act! I was digging in on my lunch while she sat there quietly and patiently waiting for other colleage(my colleage too) to all gather and sit down for their lunch before starting for her meal! Just like little well-manner children waiting for all the elders to sit first before touching the untensils for food. I was a little uneasy by her act and i too slowly put down my utensil and waits for other to arrive before handling the food. She also eat plainly and never wear branded clothes like her peer. She basically lives simplely. Never club,smoke and no bad habits.
While her working attitude is all employer likes to employ. She works non-stop from the moment she steps in office to the working time it ends. She is not those who really finds nothing to do,will see down surf the net a while or taking a small coffee break. She just continue to search and asking for work to do,no matter how difficult or tough the task is. She works sensibily by asking questions for every new task given to her. Showing she don works blindly.. She will volunteer to do the works herself and even do works quietly so as not to her so called ' trouble others' . She is those type who will try her best to do everythings herself and only seek help when impossible to handle that task like carry a 30 kg load. Then she will seek help. She is very courteous and will say thank you all the times after a task is complete and every single help without fail.
To me,she is just like an angel... She still got which too many virtues to mentions in her! I was like ' Can such gal still possible to exist in this world?'
Today,I have a fight with my ger over a small issue and have some different views on a matter and she throws tantrum and act like a child. I was quite pissed off and suddenly think whether will we have this kind of incident often after we married. I told myself I don want to get into this kind of misery! Now,I start to consider our r/s liao.But my ger is also a very sweet ger who do many good things for me too which i will never forget!. She is also a very good gal who never club and a homely gal.
Now i am confused why my consideration of my r/s with my ger is becos my encounter of this super good gal which shaken my unqestionable love for my ger or really becos of the small incident over her tantrum that shaken that my future,like with my ger will be a mistakes! Btw, i still love my ger a lot but I scare future such incident will ruin my life in future?
Is it me changing of heart or not???
Why let yourself in all the complications..?
Problems between you and your gf should solve among the 2 of you... I don't really see why this new colleague of yours should be in the picture...? -
Today,I have a fight with my ger over a small issue and have some different views on a matter and she throws tantrum and act like a child. I was quite pissed off and suddenly think whether will we have this kind of incident often after we married. I told myself I don want to get into this kind of misery! Now,I start to consider our r/s liao.But my ger is also a very sweet ger who do many good things for me too which i will never forget!. She is also a very good gal who never club and a homely gal.
i feel you man..
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i broke up wif my GF 2 weeks ago becuz of her bad temper..
Always like to use anger to get her way.
If she's oredi like this within 9 months of us gettin' together, what would happen after we get married?
i dun flinch at the thought of coming home to be berated/ shouted at when i want to rest/ have some peace & quiet..
There wasn't other 'external' factors for my case though..
i think you worry that if u dun act fast, the nice work at ur workplace might be snatched away rite?
This bring another point. Is it really wise to have a relationship at ur workplace? What if breakup etc? Even relationship is gettin along work, there'll still be gossips..
Take it easy bro
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No one is perfect.Originally posted by Simpleheat:Feeling confuse and not sure my feeling now!
Just few months ago! I have uncondition love for my darling! Love her very deep. But recently know a gal. A dream gal which i always think will exist only in my dream. At the first of exquistence,i find her very quiet ,unappealing and moody lady which virtually i have no positive feeling towards her. After a few more days of communication,we start to have more than just work talk and I saw her smile which is very sweet( a contrasting viewof her cold look I encounter on the first day).
She is not as quiet as she appears to be,she can joke with you when u know her more and not as bore as I think! In fact,she is a very caring and gentle lady. Once I accidently injured my hands and bleeds,she use her hand and quickly wipe my dirty blood off without hestitation and ask me for my well-being. Then there is once i was sick and inform her of her situation and i happen to tell her casually that i have a review check up for my illness. She can remember exactly the day before i need to go for review and remind me of it! After a few weeks I will say i was a little touch by her action! A really thoughtful and gentle lady..
A very well-manner ,sensible lady who will wait for all her know colleage to come before eating as they are all still queuing up! I was a bit surprise and embarrass by her act! I was digging in on my lunch while she sat there quietly and patiently waiting for other colleage(my colleage too) to all gather and sit down for their lunch before starting for her meal! Just like little well-manner children waiting for all the elders to sit first before touching the untensils for food. I was a little uneasy by her act and i too slowly put down my utensil and waits for other to arrive before handling the food. She also eat plainly and never wear branded clothes like her peer. She basically lives simplely. Never club,smoke and no bad habits.
While her working attitude is all employer likes to employ. She works non-stop from the moment she steps in office to the working time it ends. She is not those who really finds nothing to do,will see down surf the net a while or taking a small coffee break. She just continue to search and asking for work to do,no matter how difficult or tough the task is. She works sensibily by asking questions for every new task given to her. Showing she don works blindly.. She will volunteer to do the works herself and even do works quietly so as not to her so called ' trouble others' . She is those type who will try her best to do everythings herself and only seek help when impossible to handle that task like carry a 30 kg load. Then she will seek help. She is very courteous and will say thank you all the times after a task is complete and every single help without fail.
To me,she is just like an angel... She still got which too many virtues to mentions in her! I was like ' Can such gal still possible to exist in this world?'
Today,I have a fight with my ger over a small issue and have some different views on a matter and she throws tantrum and act like a child. I was quite pissed off and suddenly think whether will we have this kind of incident often after we married. I told myself I don want to get into this kind of misery! Now,I start to consider our r/s liao.But my ger is also a very sweet ger who do many good things for me too which i will never forget!. She is also a very good gal who never club and a homely gal.
Now i am confused why my consideration of my r/s with my ger is becos my encounter of this super good gal which shaken my unqestionable love for my ger or really becos of the small incident over her tantrum that shaken that my future,like with my ger will be a mistakes! Btw, i still love my ger a lot but I scare future such incident will ruin my life in future?
Is it me changing of heart or not???
You may think that your current gf is nothing more than a tantrum throwing child, but in fact, this problem can be dealt with in a relationship, provided you are willing to make some sacrifices.
1. Give and Take.
2. Learn to listen to her side of her story.
3. Have faith in your relationship.
There's no reason why your colleague is brought into the picture, just because your gf doesn't treat you the way you wished her to do so. Friend, if you love your gf unconditionally, such situation shouldn't exist.
However, you still have a choice to choose the right partner as long as you are still not married. -
Things are always beautiful when you didn't own them...
I guess you must have the wonderful feelings of your gal before you get together with her right... then after you get to know her better then you will start to know her patterns and bad behaviours etc...
Just take things easy and don't think too much... -
grass is always greener on the other side
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is u changing heart.... time to make a choice....
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it's always this situation...not onli u..~everyone ask mi this same question..~
the question u ask urself is..is this juz because of a new girl thta u juz met..?it happens sometimes..~juz think of how u will be treating this dream girl of urs about 2years down the road... -
4 long paragraphs on the other girl, how many on your girlfriend?
Don't let a crush spoil your current relationship. Like you said, your girlfriend's a very sweet and homely person too, definitely not one worth hurting.
Then again, love is selfish. Hmm, just follow your heart. Who do you like, and more importantly, who do you love. -
Taking a phrase out of Click
"When you reach that pot of gold, It's always just cornflakes' -
Dun shit where you eat, if something goes wrong where to hide your faceOriginally posted by Berserk79:i feel you man..
i broke up wif my GF 2 weeks ago becuz of her bad temper..
Always like to use anger to get her way.
If she's oredi like this within 9 months of us gettin' together, what would happen after we get married?
i dun flinch at the thought of coming home to be berated/ shouted at when i want to rest/ have some peace & quiet..
There wasn't other 'external' factors for my case though..
i think you worry that if u dun act fast, the nice work at ur workplace might be snatched away rite?
This bring another point. Is it really wise to have a relationship at ur workplace? What if breakup etc? Even relationship is gettin along work, there'll still be gossips..
Take it easy bro 
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Don't throw away someone who has been with you for a longer time just becos u got a crush on someone else...how much do you know abt this new girl? As for your gf, maybe she just had a bad day, nobody is perfect. But this is sth that you must learn to solve between the both of you, because to break up and go to another girl, is just running away from the problem.
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How much do you "love" your girlfriend? Have you any intentions to get to the next level with her? Like marriage? Settle your situation with her without involving your colleague. It will be simpler and easier for you.
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you must suppress your temptations. i personally dont think you should let your relationship be affected just because you have this dream colleague. every one has their flaws so i think you should learn to accept your gf's flaws if you really love her. im sure your colleague would also have her own flaws except that you havent discover yet so you may think shes like an angel. if your relationship will be shaken by just this colleague i think you and your gf are not strong enough in this relationship. i think youre just impressed by this colleague. let time tell if this actually develops into love, then you dont love your current gf deep enough.
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Another thing is, we always think what we don't have is better...only when we have it, then we will realize all its flaws...
And at that time, would you still love her? Or you will also find that her imperfections hard to take and move on to another girl that you think is perfect at that time cos you dun have her? -
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Its definitely a crush!!! Dont greed on new n still-beautiful thing. Problem is, some ple treat frenz n r/s differently. I can treat my fren super nice but my bf like shit.. Got it????
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Do what ever you like and learn from your new experience.
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dump the gf, hook up with the new girl and if it works, it works, else keep on looking. this is a lifelong relationship, find one who will not irk you day in day out. to the dude who dumped the angry gf after 9 months, well done...you just extended your life by a decade....
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She is so kind hearted. I doubt she wants to be third party. Is she interested in you?
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true really a dream gal
seemingly almost perfect in the eyes of mortal
but plz do rmb that ur in a r/s nw and its nt fair to ur gf
no matter hw good that gal is,its another issue
perhaps nw u shldnt look at her as a potential gf,look to her as a friend whose hardworking,kind and caring -
Originally posted by countdracula:to the dude who dumped the angry gf after 9 months, well done...you just extended your life by a decade....
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To me,she is just like an angel... She still got which too many virtues to mentions in her! I was like ' Can such gal still possible to exist in this world?'
y not?
i think it's pretty common mah.. the things she did.
im also kinda like her.
the only difference is i dun use my hand to wipe off the blood hor.. i use tissue.
u claimed that u love ur gf unconditionally and deep.
somehow i dun feel it that way leh..
u know this ger for a few days only and u are shaken.
how deep is ur love?
and it's unfair of u to compare ur gf with her. -
Yeaps... agree with brownie..Originally posted by browniebaobao:y not?
i think it's pretty common mah.. the things she did.
im also kinda like her.
the only difference is i dun use my hand to wipe off the blood hor.. i use tissue.
u claimed that u love ur gf unconditionally and deep.
somehow i dun feel it that way leh..
u know this ger for a few days only and u are shaken.
how deep is ur love?
and it's unfair of u to compare ur gf with her.
cos im kinda like the girl u describe oso...
u are just crushing on her. and u really think too much liaox.
i doubt u will feel the same if some old fat stinky ugly woman shower hte same concern to you.
U talked so much about her....
then u start comparing her iwth ur gf.
Is this fair to ur gf?
Ur 1st priority shld be ur gf. U are responsible for her.
Dream girl? So how do u prove tat she really dream girl? Do u know her well?
then again..u wanna give up the whole relationship for her?
Since u are now attached, its only wise to clean up the mess in ur relationship. If thres really some problems ongoing in ur relatshionship, pls solve it. Have a talk with her. Everything nds to be compromised. come to a level where both agree mutually. If really cant solve, then give up.
Dont give up just becos u met someone new then current relationship too much problem. This only show ur cowardness. Only show u fear courage to solve problems in relationships. Let me ask u..if u ever iwth this girl...so many problms..cant solve..another so called dream girl pass by you, u will give up oso???
forget about this girl.