i don know i need how long time to heal my wounds..
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but e onli thing i k promise him is i won't ask him any stupid questions and oso i won't go disturb him much.. Coz i don wan to end up we are enemy.. I k put my down saddness and my hurt to be frenz with him.. Hope he k put down his guilty and his ashame to be frenz with me too.. Wish me and him k be good frenz like last time.. i k onli say I DON"T HATE HIM AND THAT GAL..i hate oso like that, don hate oso like that.. Either one wont change e fact.. Hate will only make myself more miserable.. So i choose not to hate them.. Maybe i am just too soft-hearted liao ba.. Sobz.. Sobz..
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Hmm.Originally posted by shannie27:I think U might be abit harsh on her.
Yes. She may have caused the drift btw her and her beau.
But i think the guy has a part to play as well.
Sockhwa U must have your good points too. otherwise ur ex- bf wouldn't make U his gf in the first place.
Relationships are like that. Rosy at first. Very accomodating towards each other. Making promises like staying with each other forever no matter what.. Blah blah...
When reality hit U hard at the back, people could hardly remember what they promised during their honeymoon period, there isn't any "bao rong" nor empathy for their partners. There isn't any "Jian Chi Dao Di" spirit to be seen.
If ur ex- bf really love U, why didn't he give U a second chance? Why didn't he tell U about how he feels about U upfront earlier to solve the obstacle btw U and him? Why did he let it slip liddat and not communicate about it with U?
My point is the guy also didn't do his best to save the relationship. He also contributed to the fall of the relationship.
I think if he truly loves U as what he made U think he did.
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Hmm...Originally posted by Sockhwa:but e onli thing i k promise him is i won't ask him any stupid questions and oso i won't go disturb him much.. Coz i don wan to end up we are enemy.. I k put my down saddness and my hurt to be frenz with him.. Hope he k put down his guilty and his ashame to be frenz with me too.. Wish me and him k be good frenz like last time.. i k onli say I DON"T HATE HIM AND THAT GAL..i hate oso like that, don hate oso like that.. Either one wont change e fact.. Hate will only make myself more miserable.. So i choose not to hate them.. Maybe i am just too soft-hearted liao ba.. Sobz.. Sobz.. -
Bless all of you to find peace and joy in your heart always.
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how long ......emotional pain unlike physical wounds are more difficult to treat......long long time i guess..............but then relations are like that..........men look at woman like clothes..........they wear it for a year or two............some men might want to wear their clothes for centuries.....for eons.......some men might want to wear it only like for weeks or months.........it all depends.............Originally posted by Sockhwa:I used to have sweet and good boyfriend.. i always think he will be my onli one.. But unfortunately, an unexpected nightmare had came.. He broke up with me.. Many reasons he gave, but i don know e real reason.. to wat i feel, he is sick of our relationship and me ba.. I really don know all e while he is thinking of this.. Bearing with my temper and unreasonable.. He look very happy when he is with me.. If he had to told me, i will surely changed.. I really don know... It Is my fault.. I should be more understanding towards his feeling.. But now he is together another girl after we broke up less than one week.. is because he changed heart that y he broke with me? i really don know.. I love him alot, and we been together 4 one and half years already and all e memories we shared, he k give up so easily.. i always hope i am e heartless one and not him.. at least i wont be so sad.. I know this is not totally his fault.. I got my fault too .. If i got e chance to get back with him, i will treat him very good.. let him be most fortunate guy in e world.. BUt is this possible? Nope.. What is gone is already gone.. Maybe if he and me still have fate or maybe he still love me, we will get back ba.. I really don know wat my life will be.. I hate to feel sad and miserable.. I hate myself too but i don hate him at all. I am e main cause..
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He might think that i don care for him and e gal did..
Not i don care for him, i did but i don know how to show it out..
I always hope he will be same class as me coz if my dismiss time is longer than him, he had to wait for me.. Wandering around.. See he alone waiting, did he know how pain is my heart? seeing him wandering around? Nope.. He don't.. He love to sleep.. maybe i k wake him up if i am in e same class as him..
I really care 4 him..if he dismiss late, I really don mind 2waiting for him.. i might be impatient.. but i really willing to wait.. now i really know i really fell very deep in love with him.. And this feelings i need a longer time to take it off..
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Originally posted by Sockhwa:
Stop making excuses for him le.
[b]He might think that i don care for him and e gal did..
Not i don care for him, i did but i don know how to show it out..
I always hope he will be same class as me coz if my dismiss time is longer than him, he had to wait for me.. Wandering around.. See he alone waiting, did he know how pain is my heart? seeing him wandering around? Nope.. He don't.. He love to sleep.. maybe i k wake him up if i am in e same class as him..
I really care 4 him..if he dismiss late, I really don mind 2waiting for him.. i might be impatient.. but i really willing to wait.. now i really know i really fell very deep in love with him.. And this feelings i need a longer time to take it off.. [/b]
He went away not because he can't feel your concern for him.
Your love for him would have seep through in more ways than U know.
It is seen in all little ways and little things U do for him.
Showing concern for someone doesn't always have to be in a big, elaborated way and announce to the whole world to know.
Sometimes it is the details that counts.
Now U are way too clouded with thoughts of how U are letting him down.
If U think through carefully, U can surely recall how nice U are to him too.
His departure isn't just based on ONE reason of negligence.
If it really is, then isn't his love for U abit .. erm... too little, too shallow ya....
Take good care ger
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Originally posted by shannie27:Stop making excuses for him le.
He went away not because he can't feel your concern for him.
Your love for him would have seep through in more ways than U know.
It is seen in all little ways and little things U do for him.
Showing concern for someone doesn't always have to be in a big, elaborated way and announce to the whole world to know.
Sometimes it is the details that counts.
Now U are way too clouded with thoughts of how U are letting him down.
If U think through carefully, U can surely recall how nice U are to him too.
His departure isn't just based on ONE reason of negligence.
If it really is, then isn't his love for U abit .. erm... too little, too shallow ya....
Take good care ger
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the way you post, sure looks quite young to me.
Sld be glad that he broke off now, instead of later.
If a guy is meant to change heart, he will be, no matter wad.
Since you keep saying it's your fault, i guess your temper must be really really bad in the first place to begin with.
he may have changed his heart, but i think it's also time you change your temper..
and you don't hate him?....hmm...
i dunno, but i feel you sld, unless you are really very good-natured or either you are lying to yourself.. no point ba, you are entitled to hate him for now, i think it makes you feel better this way.
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Love person no need to have him.. as long as he is happy, and i will feel happy 4 him too.. Although it is very cruel.. But i will try my very best to give my blessing to him.. Coz i really love him tat deep... i hope i be his gradian angel... love is stupid.. and i m very e stupid...
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like donald kaufman (fictional) said in Adaptation: I am who i love, not who loves me.
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although my circumstances may be very different from yours.... i believe i am feeling the same kind of pain as you....Originally posted by Sockhwa:Love person no need to have him.. as long as he is happy, and i will feel happy 4 him too.. Although it is very cruel.. But i will try my very best to give my blessing to him.. Coz i really love him tat deep... i hope i be his gradian angel... love is stupid.. and i m very e stupid...
forgetting and letting go is just so difficult and heart wrenching, too painful to bear ... however i hope you can take comfort in the fact that this is part and parcel of life and time really heals all wounds....
i'm so glad i found this forum... it really a good way to let go of one's sorrows.
im also trying to let go and forget... i used to believe that one creates his own fate. however when it comes to these matters, its really so unpredictable.
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Love is not stupid and neither are you. Read my siggy below. its 1/2 completed though.............Originally posted by Sockhwa:Love person no need to have him.. as long as he is happy, and i will feel happy 4 him too.. Although it is very cruel.. But i will try my very best to give my blessing to him.. Coz i really love him tat deep... i hope i be his gradian angel... love is stupid.. and i m very e stupid...
You shld also read OTHER threads in AA and know more about issues other forumites here faced. They shared it here and we can all learn something from it. -
hi bontakun,Originally posted by Bontakun:Love is not stupid and neither are you. Read my siggy below. its 1/2 completed though.............
You shld also read OTHER threads in AA and know more about issues other forumites here faced. They shared it here and we can all learn something from it.
it seems that you perceive true love as flawless (pls correct me if im wrong). just wondering whether you have seen examples of this kind of love in relationships (ie BGR) -
True love is never possible btwn humans as human emotions are always fleeting and very hardly stay constant as much as we would want it, but we try to imitate it as close as possible.Originally posted by compadre:hi bontakun,
it seems that you perceive true love as flawless (pls correct me if im wrong). just wondering whether you have seen examples of this kind of love in relationships (ie BGR)
I quote this from the Bible. Hope you understand it.
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yes... you have clearly given me new perspective on love.... thank you very muchOriginally posted by Bontakun:True love is never possible btwn humans as human emotions are always fleeting and very hardly stay constant as much as we would want it, but we try to imitate it as close as possible.
I quote this from the Bible. Hope you understand it. 
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hi SockHwa,Originally posted by Sockhwa:Love person no need to have him.. as long as he is happy, and i will feel happy 4 him too.. Although it is very cruel.. But i will try my very best to give my blessing to him.. Coz i really love him tat deep... i hope i be his gradian angel... love is stupid.. and i m very e stupid...
as ejb mentioned, think you are probably quite young. i understand the pain you feel as im going through that too.
what im trying to do now is just go out and meet new people... makes life more interesting and i feel it is helping me recovering from this ordeal quite well. there are no strangers in this world, only friends you have yet to make. hope most people would agree with me! -
agreed.Originally posted by compadre:hi SockHwa,
as ejb mentioned, think you are probably quite young. i understand the pain you feel as im going through that too.
what im trying to do now is just go out and meet new people... makes life more interesting and i feel it is helping me recovering from this ordeal quite well. there are no strangers in this world, only friends you have yet to make. hope most people would agree with me!
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i also been thru this before too.. someone who really treats me very well in the past..i like him but i feel that i don deserve him, he deserves a better one.. then i began to avoid him... now we lost contact with each other.. at times, i feel regret.. he is really a nice guy.. but now it too late.. he met someone else.. i cuun blame anyone.. i can only blame myself.. it takes me a while before i actually pull myself up.. in fact, slowly as time pass, i feel that in life, there are really much more things for us to handle, to pursue.. relationship is jus a minor thing.. if u have it, u have it, if not, let it be...Originally posted by Sockhwa:I used to have sweet and good boyfriend.. i always think he will be my onli one.. But unfortunately, an unexpected nightmare had came.. He broke up with me.. Many reasons he gave, but i don know e real reason.. to wat i feel, he is sick of our relationship and me ba.. I really don know all e while he is thinking of this.. Bearing with my temper and unreasonable.. He look very happy when he is with me.. If he had to told me, i will surely changed.. I really don know... It Is my fault.. I should be more understanding towards his feeling.. But now he is together another girl after we broke up less than one week.. is because he changed heart that y he broke with me? i really don know.. I love him alot, and we been together 4 one and half years already and all e memories we shared, he k give up so easily.. i always hope i am e heartless one and not him.. at least i wont be so sad.. I know this is not totally his fault.. I got my fault too .. If i got e chance to get back with him, i will treat him very good.. let him be most fortunate guy in e world.. BUt is this possible? Nope.. What is gone is already gone.. Maybe if he and me still have fate or maybe he still love me, we will get back ba.. I really don know wat my life will be.. I hate to feel sad and miserable.. I hate myself too but i don hate him at all. I am e main cause..
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so glad i found this forum... it really a good way to let go of one's sorrows.
im also trying to let go and forget... i used to believe that one creates his own fate. however when it comes to these matters, its really so unpredictable.
i sincerely wish you all the best...
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compadre l agree with what u say....from this forum we did see other ppl problems as well as ours..
By reading and understanding the problems, we will make sure tat we wont make the same mistake again and learn more to be become better =)
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yes when you are trying to get over someone, its good to focus on other more pressing issues such as health and family...Originally posted by huy:i also been thru this before too.. someone who really treats me very well in the past..i like him but i feel that i don deserve him, he deserves a better one.. then i began to avoid him... now we lost contact with each other.. at times, i feel regret.. he is really a nice guy.. but now it too late.. he met someone else.. i cuun blame anyone.. i can only blame myself.. it takes me a while before i actually pull myself up.. in fact, slowly as time pass, i feel that in life, there are really much more things for us to handle, to pursue.. relationship is jus a minor thing.. if u have it, u have it, if not, let it be...
now i don tik of relationships anymore.. i am packed with my own problems.. no time to tok bout love.. what most important now is health, family, career and fres....
however one piece of advice... dun shut yourself out forever... dont give up the forest because of one tree...
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lazy to type mine...
but mines a different story...
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Maybe l guess that we arent suitable for r/s at our age now...
cuz inmature and we dun tend to noe alot of things..
tat is y nowadays alot of r/s owazs end up failing -
As we move into the Digital Age... What is Real true Love to everyone ??
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does true love exist in the first place?Originally posted by Seth35:As we move into the Digital Age... What is Real true Love to everyone ??