i don know i need how long time to heal my wounds..
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ai yah ....wounds need medications n antiseptics to recover....n the most impt is u need to realise wat r ur own medications n antiseptics. juz like a plain cold; 2u u might need panadol while some others might need panadol + lozenges.[opps did i spell it correctly?Originally posted by sinicker:relax.
10 months on. i have yet to fully recover.
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just my opi.hw i feel towards r/s wounds.They arent fatal.bt can cause desirable damages.......... -
desirable damages? in what sense? do u mean undesirable?Originally posted by acegem84:ai yah ....wounds need medications n antiseptics to recover....n the most impt is u need to realise wat r ur own medications n antiseptics. juz like a plain cold; 2u u might need panadol while some others might need panadol + lozenges.[opps did i spell it correctly?]
just my opi.hw i feel towards r/s wounds.They arent fatal.bt can cause desirable damages.......... -
how to define rational? Becoz a couple is togather for 5 years, so rationally theyOriginally posted by compadre:woah i think shot gun marriages are in a totally different league! i was refering to cases where couples decide rationally to get married and yet divorce so soon....
should get married?!?
Xiang1 Jian4 Hao3 Tong2 Zu4 Nan2....... they could be many seem to be ridiculous reasons for couples wanting out of the marriage. -
perhaps there is no clear guidelines in terms on making a rational decision to get married. however, before a couple decides to get married, there should have at least the following things in mind.Originally posted by pinkygal76:how to define rational? Becoz a couple is togather for 5 years, so rationally they
should get married?!?
Xiang1 Jian4 Hao3 Tong2 Zu4 Nan2....... they could be many seem to be ridiculous reasons for couples wanting out of the marriage.
1. can i acknowledge and accept my partners faults/undesirable habits?
2. can we cope with the marriage in financial terms?
3. what can i expect from a marriage? (go for marriage counseling)
time is hardly a factor in my opinion... being together for 5 years dosent mean a couple should get married... -
Personal view; circumstances does change a person....what a person deem as acceptable, managable and what constitutes a good marriage will change over time......Originally posted by compadre:perhaps there is no clear guidelines in terms on making a rational decision to get married. however, before a couple decides to get married, there should have at least the following things in mind.
1. can i acknowledge and accept my partners faults/undesirable habits?
2. can we cope with the marriage in financial terms?
3. what can i expect from a marriage? (go for marriage counseling)
time is hardly a factor in my opinion... being together for 5 years dosent mean a couple should get married...
A couple will need to be "growing togather " as a couple; family and ensure that there is a good channel of communication to make it a good lasting solid relationship -
completely agreed, people do change over time. however, when a couple makes that commitment to stay with each other for the rest of their lives, love for each other should be unchanging. is that too optimistic?Originally posted by pinkygal76:Personal view; circumstances does change a person....what a person deem as acceptable, managable and what constitutes a good marriage will change over time......
A couple will need to be "growing togather " as a couple; family and ensure that there is a good channel of communication to make it a good lasting solid relationship
i guess people do get bored of each other over time. im getting a bit skeptical about the concept of marriage now seeing the things that are happening around me. even in a relationship people lose that sense of "hotness" for each other within 1-2 years, let alone a marriage?
heh but then again maybe im too young to understand...im just over 20 -
Well, its good to be optimistic, just not OVER optimistic.Originally posted by compadre:completely agreed, people do change over time. however, when a couple makes that commitment to stay with each other for the rest of their lives, love for each other should be unchanging. is that too optimistic?
i guess people do get bored of each other over time. im getting a bit skeptical about the concept of marriage now seeing the things that are happening around me. even in a relationship people lose that sense of "hotness" for each other within 1-2 years, let alone a marriage?
heh but then again maybe im too young to understand...im just over 20
*pat pat*
a relationship should be a good balance of giving and taking... and bear in mind marriage is just like ANY relationship needs to be constantly nutured and cared for..... just never take for granted even thou the vow for committment has been made......
ai yo....over 20 is ok la; not too young...... youngsters these days are more street wise than my era -
i can stop myself not to sms him, c him.. or miss him.. but i still cant stop my tears to roll down, cant myself not to be sad, cant stop myself stop loving him... Very xin Gu.. he say i don care 4 him... i did.. but i never told him.. when that time i get scalded by his mother... I was in e deep pain.. but did he knew that although it is in a deep pain... but i was glad that.. it is scalded on me and not him.. If it was on him, think my heart will be much pain.. than my scalded skin...I know he cant run much.. from e day i will be with him.. i always very worry if he went in ns, will he very xingu..
i keep asking ppl will he be in xiong camp or not.. i really very worried.. i rather i help him go ns... Did him know i care 4 him?
Caring ppl got alot of ways... maybe my way is wrong ba.. -
*pat pat gal*Originally posted by Sockhwa:i can stop myself not to sms him, c him.. or miss him.. but i still cant stop my tears to roll down, cant myself not to be sad, cant stop myself stop loving him... Very xin Gu.. he say i don care 4 him... i did.. but i never told him.. when that time i get scalded by his mother... I was in e deep pain.. but did he knew that although it is in a deep pain... but i was glad that.. it is scalded on me and not him.. If it was on him, think my heart will be much pain.. than my scalded skin...I know he cant run much.. from e day i will be with him.. i always very worry if he went in ns, will he very xingu..
i keep asking ppl will he be in xiong camp or not.. i really very worried.. i rather i help him go ns... Did him know i care 4 him?
Caring ppl got alot of ways... maybe my way is wrong ba..
when you r pinning for his affection now, he is out joining himself wif another gal....so who are you crying for.....for him or yourself????.... no point crying over spilt milk
Nobody will love you if you dun love yourself......try to stop crying and hurting.... it will not change a fact that you guys have broke off..... he will not be guilty and come back to you.....
thats no correct or wrong way to care for someone.... but do learn from the mistake of his relationship and treat the next one better -
i believe this r/s will take you quite a long time to heal before u start to get into another r/s but as for e time being try to find some of your good gals frenz to go out or maybe take up some sport as a form of cooling and relaxing.. hmm, r u gd in any sports? maybe i can recommed u some clubs where you can train wif them... at least this help u be stronger in mind and decisions u make in future....Originally posted by Sockhwa:i can stop myself not to sms him, c him.. or miss him.. but i still cant stop my tears to roll down, cant myself not to be sad, cant stop myself stop loving him... Very xin Gu.. he say i don care 4 him... i did.. but i never told him.. when that time i get scalded by his mother... I was in e deep pain.. but did he knew that although it is in a deep pain... but i was glad that.. it is scalded on me and not him.. If it was on him, think my heart will be much pain.. than my scalded skin...I know he cant run much.. from e day i will be with him.. i always very worry if he went in ns, will he very xingu..
i keep asking ppl will he be in xiong camp or not.. i really very worried.. i rather i help him go ns... Did him know i care 4 him?
Caring ppl got alot of ways... maybe my way is wrong ba.. -
aLthOugh tiMes hAd pAsseD.. 3 mOnths aLreaDy. I aM fEEliNg bEttER. nO lOnGER be sO SaD bUt i KnoW e FeeliNg is sTilL tHeRe.. I stIll lOvE hiM.. Am I uSeLess? WeLL, i gUeSS so ba.. I tHougHT i haD got oVer it lIao.. bUt aCtuallY I had Not.. mAyBe iT is fEEling ThaT i dON wAN to adMit Or Is jusT thAt i dOn kNow It.. I aM juSt rEcoVERed it aBiT.iT JusT i aM nOT so Sad aNYmoRe.. No mOre CryinG eVerYday and niGht.. aCtuaLLy uNtil noW i STill missing in dirECTions In My liFE.. I doN KnoW wHat I wAn and Wat I sHoUld do.. WhO k TeLL mE how...
wHY dOes E fEeling jUST dOn faDE aWay -
Just yourself a life WORTH LIVING for lah.... A LIFE without him....Originally posted by Sockhwa:aLthOugh tiMes hAd pAsseD.. 3 mOnths aLreaDy. I aM fEEliNg bEttER. nO lOnGER be sO SaD bUt i KnoW e FeeliNg is sTilL tHeRe.. I stIll lOvE hiM.. Am I uSeLess? WeLL, i gUeSS so ba.. I tHougHT i haD got oVer it lIao.. bUt aCtuallY I had Not.. mAyBe iT is fEEling ThaT i dON wAN to adMit Or Is jusT thAt i dOn kNow It.. I aM juSt rEcoVERed it aBiT.iT JusT i aM nOT so Sad aNYmoRe.. No mOre CryinG eVerYday and niGht.. aCtuaLLy uNtil noW i STill missing in dirECTions In My liFE.. I doN KnoW wHat I wAn and Wat I sHoUld do.. WhO k TeLL mE how...
wHY dOes E fEeling jUST dOn faDE aWay -
actually life is still e same whether is with or without him..
is just that i still tend to miss him... -
Sometimes we just do, to a different extent....?Originally posted by Sockhwa:actually life is still e same whether is with or without him..
is just that i still tend to miss him... -
don't dwell in it girl
no matter how sad you
no matter how miserable you feel
no matter how heart-broken you feel
no matter how you live
NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL
HE AIN'T GONNA CARE!
so why make life so miserable for yourself over a guy who don't love you anymore?
move on and a better one will come along
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I sympathize with you...
Haiz...what is love?
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