How many Mr/Miss "wrong" before u meet ur Mr/Miss RIGHT?
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Originally posted by Kenashi:how can u say that bbb
even though it is true, must oso be discreet mah
it's ok, he can settle it with me privately.
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u mean by pmOriginally posted by browniebaobao:
it's ok, he can settle it with me privately. -
watever..Originally posted by Kenashi:u mean by pm
we know each other in real life also..
juz spoken to him on the phone the day before. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:watever..
we know each other in real life also..
juz spoken to him on the phone the day before.
time to get some snooze
gdnite -
nitez kenashi~Originally posted by Kenashi:
time to get some snooze
gdnite -
i shld pose that question to uOriginally posted by missqi:tt is the crappiest thing i have heard from you so far. -
naw... u r wrong....Originally posted by olala:i shld pose that question to u -
haha...Originally posted by missqi:naw... u r wrong....
we'll see who have the last laugh -
why?Originally posted by olala:haha...
we'll see who have the last laugh
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Originally posted by browniebaobao:The 'RIGHT' person may not really be the right person..
why do I say that?
Perhaps bcos of the few wrong persons that we have met.. age and other pressure make us lower our expectations or willing to settle down with someone who is not that 'perfect'.. and we call that person Mr/Ms Right.
If I dun think he is the right one at that moment, I wun even want to go on a r/s with him.. sometimes there's really a wide gap between your perception of him/her and reality.
I think firstly, we need to define what's 'wrong' or what's 'right', when in fact, to me, it's all the same. I think for a start, we should learn to love our significant other/s like our last because it's pretty sad to know that here you are loving someone and there you are wondering at the back of your head if he/she is the 'wrong' one.
You made your choice; accepted every variable presented and was given a choice to consider them.
Whether he/she is 'wrong' - that is the crucial time to consider carefully. If that consideration only comes after acceptance, you are putting the cart before the horse, and obviously it is a question of 'wrong choices' and not 'wrong person'.
I wouldn't call it lowering of expectation - I call it gradual self discovery and understanding through others, which will in turn fine tune our expectation and ideology towards Love. If you have a possessive freak that began to see possessiveness as a flaw and take steps to amend it, by your definition, that would constitute 'lowering of expectation' when in fact, it is for the better of him, don't you think?
Ultimately, it's still freewill.
If people are accepting each other merely because of external pressure and calling them 'right' - then they shall learn the truth of it... either to live with the truth or die by its blade.
Some may argue that it's impossible for know if someone is suitable unless you are in a relationship with him/her. It's true - I wouldn't be able to tell 100% as well. But like EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE, nothing is absolute. It doesn't mean we eliminate consideration and avoid taking calculated risk just because we won't know.
P.S: Our love life doesn't have a destination. In fact, the destination depends on the route we opt to take. If we could turn back time and pick another choice, everything else will change and we see ourselves in new 'destination/s'.
If we have to meet a few 'Mr/Ms Wrong' before a 'Mr/Ms Right' - being part of the equation, shouldn't the 'wrong' be 'right' because eventually, we still believe that it does lead us to our 'Mr/Ms Right', isn't it? (Like mathematics, the solution lies not just merely in the answer, but also the component/s of our working steps before we derive the eventual answer).
Cheers -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I agree with u. I think firstly, we need to define what's 'wrong' or what's 'right', when in fact, to me, it's all the same. I think for a start, we should learn to love our significant other/s like our last because it's pretty sad to know that here you are loving someone and there you are wondering at the back of your head if he/she is the 'wrong' one.
You made your choice; accepted every variable presented and was given a choice to consider them.
Whether he/she is 'wrong' - that is the crucial time to consider carefully. If that consideration only comes after acceptance, you are putting the cart before the horse, and obviously it is a question of 'wrong choices' and not 'wrong person'.
I wouldn't call it lowering of expectation - I call it gradual self discovery and understanding through others, which will in turn fine tune our expectation and ideology towards Love. If you have a possessive freak that began to see possessiveness as a flaw and take steps to amend it, by your definition, that would constitute 'lowering of expectation' when in fact, it is for the better of him, don't you think?
Ultimately, it's still freewill.
If people are accepting each other merely because of external pressure and calling them 'right' - then they shall learn the truth of it... either to live with the truth or die by its blade.
Some may argue that it's impossible for know if someone is suitable unless you are in a relationship with him/her. It's true - I wouldn't be able to tell 100% as well. [b]But like EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE, nothing is absolute. It doesn't mean we eliminate consideration and avoid taking calculated risk just because we won't know.
P.S: Our love life doesn't have a destination. In fact, the destination depends on the route we opt to take. If we could turn back time and pick another choice, everything else will change and we see ourselves in new 'destination/s'.
If we have to meet a few 'Mr/Ms Wrong' before a 'Mr/Ms Right' - being part of the equation, shouldn't the 'wrong' be 'right' because eventually, we still believe that it does lead us to our 'Mr/Ms Right', isn't it? (Like mathematics, the solution lies not just merely in the answer, but also the component/s of our working steps before we derive the eventual answer).
Cheers [/b]
I duno why I typed all that also..
I have met the Mr Right at the wrong timing..
something is wrong with me these few days.
Dun bother about me.
But I have a question.. what is the destination of love?
I know it's not a break up.
Is it acceptance and staying by each other through all obstacles? -
There is no "Right" or "Wrong" because no one is perfect.
I've gone through many relationships and they all seemed to be Ms. Right at first. But it takes some time for us to realize that we may not be meant for each other, hence we went our seperate ways.
But, currently, I thank God that I'm still in a relationship that's growing strong and I pray it'll remain like this for a long time. I love her with all my heart despite some of her flaws. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:I agree with u.
I duno why I typed all that also..
I have met the Mr Right at the wrong timing..
something is wrong with me these few days.
Dun bother about me.
But I have a question.. what is the destination of love?
I know it's not a break up.
Is it acceptance and staying by each other through all obstacles? I didn't taught to think the way I did until I met the relevant people who 'imparted' those cosmic gifts.
I thanked them for their appearence... for being part of this 'equation' to get me to where I am now.
Destination is only an imaginary phenomenon we picture ourselves of where Love will bring us ultimately. It is like the equator.... it doesn't actually exist. Staying together through all obstacles will bring you to one destination... leaving as the obstacles gets worst will bring you to another.... avoiding being together as you reckon complication and obstacles brings you, yet another new place.
Every stage we progress, we are given a choice. And each choices bring us to different dimension of growth, experience and result.
As you could see, all our choices do not land us in the same place eventually. It is the choice we make that land us in different 'destination/s'. If I alter my choices in the past, my life would be so much different now.
This is CloUdiSm first law of Love; Law of Freewill.... the power over our destiny in love and relationship.
Cheers -
Failure is nt an option!
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
cannot deny more I think firstly, we need to define what's 'wrong' or what's 'right', when in fact, to me, it's all the same. I think for a start, we should learn to love our significant other/s like our last because it's pretty sad to know that here you are loving someone and there you are wondering at the back of your head if he/she is the 'wrong' one.
You made your choice; accepted every variable presented and was given a choice to consider them.
Whether he/she is 'wrong' - that is the crucial time to consider carefully. If that consideration only comes after acceptance, you are putting the cart before the horse, and obviously it is a question of 'wrong choices' and not 'wrong person'.
I wouldn't call it lowering of expectation - I call it gradual self discovery and understanding through others, which will in turn fine tune our expectation and ideology towards Love. If you have a possessive freak that began to see possessiveness as a flaw and take steps to amend it, by your definition, that would constitute 'lowering of expectation' when in fact, it is for the better of him, don't you think?
Ultimately, it's still freewill.
If people are accepting each other merely because of external pressure and calling them 'right' - then they shall learn the truth of it... either to live with the truth or die by its blade.
Some may argue that it's impossible for know if someone is suitable unless you are in a relationship with him/her. It's true - I wouldn't be able to tell 100% as well. [b]But like EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE, nothing is absolute. It doesn't mean we eliminate consideration and avoid taking calculated risk just because we won't know.
P.S: Our love life doesn't have a destination. In fact, the destination depends on the route we opt to take. If we could turn back time and pick another choice, everything else will change and we see ourselves in new 'destination/s'.
If we have to meet a few 'Mr/Ms Wrong' before a 'Mr/Ms Right' - being part of the equation, shouldn't the 'wrong' be 'right' because eventually, we still believe that it does lead us to our 'Mr/Ms Right', isn't it? (Like mathematics, the solution lies not just merely in the answer, but also the component/s of our working steps before we derive the eventual answer).
Cheers [/b]
there always no wrong in any relationships : only till u step into it ,even though can be in the case of Romeo n Juliet scenario where u just met >> it doesnt mean there is RIGHT relationship when both know each other well n even close friends ( have seen cases gd friends breakup )
Share some personal anedotes >> u like someone becos there's something special >> that ur attracted to him/her which is different from being friends >> then u want to take to next level of relationship when u can share with ur love all things but please do not take relationships as a game ...
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so desu ne~Originally posted by Yunhaier: I didn't taught to think the way I did until I met the relevant people who 'imparted' those cosmic gifts.
I thanked them for their appearence... for being part of this 'equation' to get me to where I am now.
Destination is only an imaginary phenomenon we picture ourselves of where Love will bring us ultimately. It is like the equator.... it doesn't actually exist. Staying together through all obstacles will bring you to one destination... leaving as the obstacles gets worst will bring you to another.... avoiding being together as you reckon complication and obstacles brings you, yet another new place.
Every stage we progress, we are given a choice. And each choices bring us to different dimension of growth, experience and result.
As you could see, all our choices do not land us in the same place eventually. It is the choice we make that land us in different 'destination/s'. If I alter my choices in the past, my life would be so much different now.
This is CloUdiSm first law of Love; Law of Freewill.... the power over our destiny in love and relationship.
Cheers
arigato gozaimasu~ -
I know all about,
Yea about your reputation
And now it's bound to be a heartbreak situation
But I can't help it if I'm helpless
Every time that I'm where you are
You walk in and my strength walks out the door
Say my name and I can't fight it any more
Oh I know, I should go
But I need your touch just too damn much
Lovin you, That isn't really something I should do
I shouldn't wanna spend my time with you ya
Well I should try to be strong
But baby you're the right kind of wrong
Ya, baby you're the right kind of wrong
It might be a mistake
A mistake I'm makin'
But what your givin I am happy to be takin
Cause no one's ever made me feel
The way when I'm in your arms
They say your somethin I should do without
They don't know what goes on
When the lights go out
There's no way to explain
All the pleasure is worth all the pain
Lovin you, That isn't really something I should do ya-hey
I shouldn't wanna spend my time with you ya
Well I should try to be strong
But baby you're the right kind of wrong
Ya, baby you're the right kind of wrong
I should try to run but I just can't seem to
'Cause every time I run your the one I run to
Can't do without what you do to me,
I don't care if I'm in to deep yeah
I know all about,
Yea about your reputation
And now it's bound to be a heartbreak situation
But I can't help it if I'm helpless
Every time that I'm where you are
You walk in and my strength walks out the door
Say my name and I can't fight it any more
Oh I know, I should go
But I need your touch just too damn much
Hey-yeah
Lovin you, yeah, isn't really something I should do
I shouldn't wanna spend my time with you ya
Well I should try to be strong, I should try to be strong
But baby you're the right kind of wrong (right kind of wrong)
Baby you're the right kind of wrong
Baby you're the right kind of wrong
Yeah baby you're the the right kind of wrong -
What is right and what is wrong?Originally posted by soulness:How many "wrong" partner u meet before u can find ur Mr or Miss RIGHT?
How can you tell that the right one is really 'right' and not actually 'wrong'? -
then at which point of the equation r u in now???Originally posted by Yunhaier: I didn't taught to think the way I did until I met the relevant people who 'imparted' those cosmic gifts.
I thanked them for their appearence... for being part of this 'equation' to get me to where I am now.
Destination is only an imaginary phenomenon we picture ourselves of where Love will bring us ultimately. It is like the equator.... it doesn't actually exist. Staying together through all obstacles will bring you to one destination... leaving as the obstacles gets worst will bring you to another.... avoiding being together as you reckon complication and obstacles brings you, yet another new place.
Every stage we progress, we are given a choice. And each choices bring us to different dimension of growth, experience and result.
As you could see, all our choices do not land us in the same place eventually. It is the choice we make that land us in different 'destination/s'. If I alter my choices in the past, my life would be so much different now.
This is CloUdiSm first law of Love; Law of Freewill.... the power over our destiny in love and relationship.
Cheers
result end, part of the equation or don't don't whether it is the right answer??
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i have yet to meet miss right.
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Silly, you don't have to thank me.Originally posted by browniebaobao:so desu ne~
arigato gozaimasu~
Cheers -
Originally posted by Kenashi:then at which point of the equation r u in now???
result end, part of the equation or don't don't whether it is the right answer?? Does it matter?
Why are we so overly concern about the result when we should be enjoying the progression and growth in life?
I don't have to search for the 'equation' more than the 'equation' will reveal itself in time to come.
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Most people have to go through at about 12 people in their life before they can find the right one to marry. Most of the time, after 3-6 tries, they should be able to have a rough idea of who they want.
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Don't she knows about the 'standard procedure'....??Originally posted by Yunhaier:Silly, you don't have to thank me.
Cheers
Just CASH into the BANK ACCOUNT!! -
i thought the profit from book sales can liaoOriginally posted by Devil1976:Don't she knows about the 'standard procedure'....??
Just CASH into the BANK ACCOUNT!!