Ageing parents are ageing
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I dunno whether you all are bugged by this... but personally I am.
Everyday I see my parents grow old and I am so afraid to see them leave. I know for a fact that the day will come when we say goodbye (who knows, maybe I'm the one who leave first, but it's still a goodbye). After so many years, I still cannot reconcile with this.
I remember when I was a schoolkid, I ever had a dream of my parents leaving me and I woke up crying non stop the next day. And I would feel sad and cry whole day long. This kind of dream still has this kind of effect on me and I always pray that I don't dream of that at night.
Yesterday I went to an elderly home. It's within a block of one-room flat, run by a certain charity. The elderly are friendly and they all smiled at me when I walked past them or their apartments. But somehow it didn't give me a warm feeling. In my mind, I just thought about my own parents. I am so afraid that one day when they are frail and sick, I will not be able to take care of them, due to my work commitment and health. I am so afraid that I have to send them to elderly home.
I am not sure whether anybody is having this kind of fear as well. I really dunno whether I should stop about it and handle things only when it comes. -
A morbid... post from my blog.... some time ago.. when I was helping to test the blood pressure for my mom and my dad... I am very close to them, and.. we've all come a long way together... that I cannot imagine how it would be for me if one day they leave. Until now on weekends, if hubby and I have nothing much to do, strangely my first thought would be to give a call to my parents instead of a couple of friends... cos we really HAVE a good time together just talking, joking, eating, its.. effortless. I'm glad I love them in this way and I know... slowly they would grow old.. and there would be a time, when they won't understand my jokes anymore... or be able to laugh at them. But its what all this time from here to then is for... so that when its time for them to almost reach the destination, too far from us... they can reminiscince about all these memories.. and won't be too lonely until one day we join them too ba. Dont mean to be morbid.
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Have you listened to the heartbeats of the people you love?
I listened to my mom and my dad's heartbeats through a stethescope...for the first time, when I listen to their heartbeats and compared it to my own... and it is scary because I could actually hear the difference theirs were more muffled... I could actually hear their hearts trying to work harder beating... weaker... softer... and for the first time, the reality of their mortality strikes me in the face full force I kept thinking about this.. even though this happened months ago now that I have moved out and starting a new home of my own and suddenly the rhythm of the heartbeat will just get into my mind and I will be reminded to give my mom a call... or take them out for the weekend.. cos.. u never know.... when those heartbeats will stop. -
i guess everyone will have similar feelings like yours dude...
there is one advice that has been around for sometime
appreciate your parents NOW, talk to them and even tell them "I LOVE YOU" before they are gone... 
it is a simple thing to do,yet pp always procrastinate...and when they decide to do it, its too late. -
i try not to think about it too much.
so while they are around, we should try to be around them as much as possible -
Prepare yourself mentally
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we may sometimes disagree with our parents but cherish what you have now before it's too late.
I have that fear too -
i cannot understand why some ppl can have such bad relations with their parents, quarrel publicly over things like money, even going to court to sue one another over it
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my parents are both gone.
at 41, i am the youngest in the family. when i see my siblings i keep asking myself, "which one of us will go first?"
the feeling really sucks!!!
i told one of my sister and she asked me to stop thinking about such things and let nature take its course. -
ya iz also one of my biggest fear..
but sometimes i think of it these way.. when they old they are unable to understand our jokes and speech yes.. but when we were young (babies-toddler) we couldnt really understand our parents as well, we couldnt take care of ourselves too, our parents repeated answers to our innocent questions no matter how many times we asked, & took care of us thru their busy work too..
so i tell myself, we are paying back to the love they give us.. so no matter how naggy they are, i will try my best to smile and reply.. (although there are times i cant stand too ^_^'')
even sitting down to watch tv tog counts..
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just be sure u dont die before them .......
it's such a torture to see ur children before u
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i had this strange dream about my mother leaving me a few weeks back. it was a terribly sad moment and i was crying and crying.Originally posted by Honeybunz:I remember when I was a schoolkid, I ever had a dream of my parents leaving me and I woke up crying non stop the next day. And I would feel sad and cry whole day long. This kind of dream still has this kind of effect on me and I always pray that I don't dream of that at night.
yah, indeed dreams like that have a very enduring effect on me as well.
my parents are getting old as well and right now, i only pray for good health to my family members.
yah, like what mistyblue said, we have to treasure them while they are still around. -
x2Originally posted by InnoHippo:just be sure u dont die before them .......
it's such a torture to see ur children before u
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Personally, I find it not worthwhile to think about stuff or feel bad about certain things or events in which one has no control over.
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Some things are inevitable and has really no point in worrying over...Originally posted by Honeybunz:I dunno whether you all are bugged by this... but personally I am.
Everyday I see my parents grow old and I am so afraid to see them leave. I know for a fact that the day will come when we say goodbye (who knows, maybe I'm the one who leave first, but it's still a goodbye). After so many years, I still cannot reconcile with this.
I remember when I was a schoolkid, I ever had a dream of my parents leaving me and I woke up crying non stop the next day. And I would feel sad and cry whole day long. This kind of dream still has this kind of effect on me and I always pray that I don't dream of that at night.
Yesterday I went to an elderly home. It's within a block of one-room flat, run by a certain charity. The elderly are friendly and they all smiled at me when I walked past them or their apartments. But somehow it didn't give me a warm feeling. In my mind, I just thought about my own parents. I am so afraid that one day when they are frail and sick, I will not be able to take care of them, due to my work commitment and health. I am so afraid that I have to send them to elderly home.
I am not sure whether anybody is having this kind of fear as well. I really dunno whether I should stop about it and handle things only when it comes.
Don't think too much at the moment and cause yourself more unnecessary worries and troubles... -
Ever since my father is gone, im also very afraid of losing my mum.
I try to spend time with her more often..
juz staying at home and watch tv with her, eat the dinner she cooks, she will also feel happy.
Even tho next time i get married, i will also want to stay with my mum leh.. if not, then stay nearer lor... if not my mum very lonely.. -
sheng lao bing si is a natural process that we cannot control...
the only thing we can control is to prevent any regrets that we might have between us and our parents... -
just be mentally prepared..
someday.. sometime.. someone close to you,
even ur friends.. might just go..
then u got free curry chicken to eat at night alr..
so ya.. just matter of time before they expires.. -
all my life. my parents were middle aged when i was born, plus they had diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. but not exactly bugged by it..
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fear is always there... but tink of it, they live for so long, their body must be tired also so must also be hapi for them to move to the next step of life.... as for now, take good care of them while they still around...Originally posted by Honeybunz:I dunno whether you all are bugged by this... but personally I am.
Everyday I see my parents grow old and I am so afraid to see them leave. I know for a fact that the day will come when we say goodbye (who knows, maybe I'm the one who leave first, but it's still a goodbye). After so many years, I still cannot reconcile with this.
I remember when I was a schoolkid, I ever had a dream of my parents leaving me and I woke up crying non stop the next day. And I would feel sad and cry whole day long. This kind of dream still has this kind of effect on me and I always pray that I don't dream of that at night.
Yesterday I went to an elderly home. It's within a block of one-room flat, run by a certain charity. The elderly are friendly and they all smiled at me when I walked past them or their apartments. But somehow it didn't give me a warm feeling. In my mind, I just thought about my own parents. I am so afraid that one day when they are frail and sick, I will not be able to take care of them, due to my work commitment and health. I am so afraid that I have to send them to elderly home.
I am not sure whether anybody is having this kind of fear as well. I really dunno whether I should stop about it and handle things only when it comes. -
Ageing parents are ageing
thats funny cuz my ageing parents are younging