Vexx.. Need advice or help...
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Recently gal attached to a man age 40, gal age 29.
But gal feeling insecure, because of previous r/l set back.
This man work as homebase business supplier for some equipments. Travel once in a while to oversea for business.
He told gal, he only can company her prefer in night time.
For the reasons, his homebase business only can do some e-corroespondces in daytime. After 6pm he will be free to company gal be it weekday or weekend. Which he did that for the pass weeks, of company from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed, Thurs, Sat) be it shopping or dinner. Today is sunday gal feel lonely when he is not around, he told gal he is going to sibling house awhile and later going to view car with his friend. (He is planning to buy new car)
Weekend he would ferry his parents to sibling house for visit. Or once a week will help his brother (who work in midnite) bring his 3child and sis-in-law for shopping especially during Friday night.
Gal ask before get into relationship she worry if he has time for her.
His reply " You got to understand i havn't been in r/l for years, have to give me time to adjust my lifestyle. More ever, if you never try how do you know if i got no time for you, time can be adjust don't worry".
He is finanically very stable.
Gal don't know if she should trust his words. Cause gal feel he is too overly potiential to be single, and don't think she is so lucky to find such man. Gal don't have confidences yet didn't tell him how she felt. As she don't know if he would find her too emotionally attached and very troublesome demanding.
Gal just sms him, asking him how is he today. But until now no reply, wondering what's wrong or maybe she think too much ?
Gal do feel she is over demanding. Is she ? -
No.Originally posted by chaah:Recently gal attached to a man age 40, gal age 29.
But gal feeling insecure, because of previous r/l set back.
This man work as homebase business supplier for some equipments. Travel once in a while to oversea for business.
He told gal, he only can company her prefer in night time.
For the reasons, his homebase business only can do some e-corroespondces in daytime. After 6pm he will be free to company gal be it weekday or weekend. Which he did that for the pass weeks, of company from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed, Thurs, Sat) be it shopping or dinner. Today is sunday gal feel lonely when he is not around, he told gal he is going to sibling house awhile and later going to view car with his friend. (He is planning to buy new car)
Weekend he would ferry his parents to sibling house for visit. Or once a week will help his brother (who work in midnite) bring his 3child and sis-in-law for shopping especially during Friday night.
Gal ask before get into relationship she worry if he has time for her.
His reply " You got to understand i havn't been in r/l for years, have to give me time to adjust my lifestyle. More ever, if you never try how do you know if i got no time for you, time can be adjust don't worry".
He is finanically very stable.
Gal don't know if she should trust his words. Cause gal feel he is too overly potiential to be single, and don't think she is so lucky to find such man. Gal don't have confidences yet didn't tell him how she felt. As she don't know if he would find her too emotionally attached and very troublesome demanding.
Gal just sms him, asking him how is he today. But until now no reply, wondering what's wrong or maybe she think too much ?
Gal do feel she is over demanding. Is she ? -
Since he has got no time for the gal. He should have given up on the relationship if he feels that he's not ready for it. It is very cruel to make a girl wait and tolerate long period without his presense.
It is not demanding of the gal who desires her man to commit his time into their r/s.
But do reconsider. If the man has not enough time for the r/s, then it's better to break up than to endure day after day, the torments of not spending enough time together.
Relationship needs time and effort to blossom. Without enough time spent, it will drift apart.
Chang2 tong4 bu4 ru2 duan3 tong4
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Originally posted by -[0]-:Since he has got no time for the gal. He should have given up on the relationship if he feels that he's not ready for it. It is very cruel to make a girl wait and tolerate long period without his presense.
Prehaps man want to be in love afterall he is in his late 30s. But his lifestyle and schedules are way too over crowded. He did company gal for the past few days, but gal just wonder what will it become when days go longer into the r/l
It is not demanding of the gal who desires her man to commit his time into their r/s.
Thanks for ensuring gal thoughts isn't too much.
But do reconsider. If the man has not enough time for the r/s, then it's better to break up than to endure day after day, the torments of not spending enough time together.
Relationship needs time and effort to blossom. Without enough time spent, it will drift apart.
Man and Gal know very much r/l need time to blossom. For now man is trying to squeeze time. But gal don't know how long it he is able to do that for long, gal afraid as time pass man very grumble. Or prehaps wouldn't no one will know.
Chang2 tong4 bu4 ru2 duan3 tong4 -
depends on how much time the gal demands from the guy. more impt is the quality not quantity. guys need time for their career and so on, u want us to spend time with gf everyday is not possible lah.
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Business man. Expects to be busy.Originally posted by chaah:Recently gal attached to a man age 40, gal age 29.
But gal feeling insecure, because of previous r/l set back.
This man work as homebase business supplier for some equipments. Travel once in a while to oversea for business.
He told gal, he only can company her prefer in night time.
For the reasons, his homebase business only can do some e-corroespondces in daytime. After 6pm he will be free to company gal be it weekday or weekend. Which he did that for the pass weeks, of company from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed, Thurs, Sat) be it shopping or dinner. Today is sunday gal feel lonely when he is not around, he told gal he is going to sibling house awhile and later going to view car with his friend. (He is planning to buy new car)
Weekend he would ferry his parents to sibling house for visit. Or once a week will help his brother (who work in midnite) bring his 3child and sis-in-law for shopping especially during Friday night.
Gal ask before get into relationship she worry if he has time for her.
His reply " You got to understand i havn't been in r/l for years, have to give me time to adjust my lifestyle. More ever, if you never try how do you know if i got no time for you, time can be adjust don't worry".
He is finanically very stable.
Gal don't know if she should trust his words. Cause gal feel he is too overly potiential to be single, and don't think she is so lucky to find such man. Gal don't have confidences yet didn't tell him how she felt. As she don't know if he would find her too emotionally attached and very troublesome demanding.
Gal just sms him, asking him how is he today. But until now no reply, wondering what's wrong or maybe she think too much ?
Gal do feel she is over demanding. Is she ? -
it seems that you being financial stable is a very big plus point in your perspective. maybe you would like to eleborate more about the kind of person he is?
as for being busy, he can make it up to you by spending quality time with you... -
1. He might want to correspond with his business counterparts during the day due to timezone differences. I don't see that as a problem as he might lose a day due to the time difference if he don't correspond during the few hours he have.
2) If the girl is feeling left out, she can always suggest to tag along to view the car with his friend, family etc especially since if it is serious dating. I don't think the girl needs individual attention does she?
3) By making time for her from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed,Thurs,Sat) is already taking the initiative to make time for her. What else does she want him to do? Spend time with her 24/7?
4) Single or not is by choice. Even if you are extremely eligible it doesn't mean that you have to be attached. Look at Sim Mong Hoo. If you want to say if he is eligible or not, he is extremely eligible but not attached. If the gal thinks that he is making changes to his lifestyle etc, she should exercise some trust in him.
Excuse me for saying this but the girl seems to have no self-confidence and doesn't seem to be very trusting. It could be because she had some form of bad experiences in the past but isn't it time to move on? The girl shouldn't let past bad experiences affect her potential future happiness. -
Originally posted by chaah:Recently gal attached to a man age 40, gal age 29.
But gal feeling insecure, because of previous r/l set back.
This man work as homebase business supplier for some equipments. Travel once in a while to oversea for business.
He told gal, he only can company her prefer in night time.
For the reasons, his homebase business only can do some e-corroespondces in daytime. After 6pm he will be free to company gal be it weekday or weekend. Which he did that for the pass weeks, of company from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed, Thurs, Sat) be it shopping or dinner. Today is sunday gal feel lonely when he is not around, he told gal he is going to sibling house awhile and later going to view car with his friend. (He is planning to buy new car)
Weekend he would ferry his parents to sibling house for visit. Or once a week will help his brother (who work in midnite) bring his 3child and sis-in-law for shopping especially during Friday night.
Gal ask before get into relationship she worry if he has time for her.
His reply " You got to understand i havn't been in r/l for years, have to give me time to adjust my lifestyle. More ever, if you never try how do you know if i got no time for you, time can be adjust don't worry".
He is finanically very stable.
Gal don't know if she should trust his words. Cause gal feel he is too overly potiential to be single, and don't think she is so lucky to find such man. Gal don't have confidences yet didn't tell him how she felt. As she don't know if he would find her too emotionally attached and very troublesome demanding.
Gal just sms him, asking him how is he today. But until now no reply, wondering what's wrong or maybe she think too much ?
Gal do feel she is over demanding. Is she ?
It's not the problem of the man; it's the problem of her past.
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err, can spend 4 hours with her during those days oledi very good le...some couples dun even have that luxury...
during those days when the guy cant make it, why don't the girl go and find sth else to do? So that she doesn't need to hang around by the phone waiting for him to call, then it wun seem like she is revolving her life around him. -
agree... some gers i know didn't expect their bf/s husbands to accompany her every day.. they know that men set their career as their first priority.. gers should be understanding..Originally posted by Travey:depends on how much time the gal demands from the guy. more impt is the quality not quantity. guys need time for their career and so on, u want us to spend time with gf everyday is not possible lah. -
Some guys expect their galfriends to company them everyday, regardless of meeting friends of working late. There are guys who are juz as clingy as well.Originally posted by huy:agree... some gers i know didn't expect their bf/s husbands to accompany her every day.. they know that men set their career as their first priority.. gers should be understanding..
The point is, everyone is different. Choose someone who is compatible. -
If i were you, i wouldn't go into a r/s which i will feel insecure about worrying whether the guy can afford to spend time with me anot.
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is okie. got me. i got time no money. poly student =x
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U don't expect a guy to buzz around the gal 24/7 just because they're dating ba.Originally posted by -[0]-:Since he has got no time for the gal. He should have given up on the relationship if he feels that he's not ready for it. It is very cruel to make a girl wait and tolerate long period without his presense.
It is not demanding of the gal who desires her man to commit his time into their r/s.
But do reconsider. If the man has not enough time for the r/s, then it's better to break up than to endure day after day, the torments of not spending enough time together.
Relationship needs time and effort to blossom. Without enough time spent, it will drift apart.
Chang2 tong4 bu4 ru2 duan3 tong4
He has a career to do and he already do his best to accompany her the time after his work when he could just say he's tired.
Life's practical yo, don't think u guys fall in love then can survive on love for each other hor, be glad that he's rational enough to separate love life and work, it doesnt matter the quantity of time spent but rather the quality.
And, from what the threadstarter described, he seems like a filial guy too and of course financially stable. -
how long 'she' has known him? he confirm no other partner that her? if she wans security she has to see the picture clearer... maybe join him on his family trips and shopping too...Originally posted by chaah:Recently gal attached to a man age 40, gal age 29.
But gal feeling insecure, because of previous r/l set back.
This man work as homebase business supplier for some equipments. Travel once in a while to oversea for business.
He told gal, he only can company her prefer in night time.
For the reasons, his homebase business only can do some e-corroespondces in daytime. After 6pm he will be free to company gal be it weekday or weekend. Which he did that for the pass weeks, of company from 7pm to 11pm (Mon, Wed, Thurs, Sat) be it shopping or dinner. Today is sunday gal feel lonely when he is not around, he told gal he is going to sibling house awhile and later going to view car with his friend. (He is planning to buy new car)
Weekend he would ferry his parents to sibling house for visit. Or once a week will help his brother (who work in midnite) bring his 3child and sis-in-law for shopping especially during Friday night.
Gal ask before get into relationship she worry if he has time for her.
His reply " You got to understand i havn't been in r/l for years, have to give me time to adjust my lifestyle. More ever, if you never try how do you know if i got no time for you, time can be adjust don't worry".
He is finanically very stable.
Gal don't know if she should trust his words. Cause gal feel he is too overly potiential to be single, and don't think she is so lucky to find such man. Gal don't have confidences yet didn't tell him how she felt. As she don't know if he would find her too emotionally attached and very troublesome demanding.
Gal just sms him, asking him how is he today. But until now no reply, wondering what's wrong or maybe she think too much ?
Gal do feel she is over demanding. Is she ?