Why would anyone marry him then?Originally posted by alba:what do u think or feel, if as a wife, your husband unwilling to help your parents. how willu feel or do, and is there any other way out.
ur husband hated your parents. yr husband unwilling to take care of your sick mum. and your husband don't like the sight of your dad. even both of them did him no wrong, it is just he feel they r no standard (when actually they got high standard, he got no standard), when he thinks he is always right and everybody wrong. what will u as his wife do, it is so hurting any way to get him to like your parents, any way to soften his heart to accept them, or just one of them to stay with the wife and him.
just to give them a chance to live life as a familiy before they die.
u r so right, i think there is no way out right, except if he learn it in painful way and realises his flaws, but i guess it takes long time, but now time is short both my parents are old folks, and pity they can't hv most of their old time with families, and they got only 2 kids, for the time being i am the only child in their life now, the other one is not here gone away to nowhere.Originally posted by compadre:gosh this is a really tough situation in my opinion..... i would say that by this problem cannot really be solved by discussion because it seems that this is a very strong sign of a character flaw (big ego - always thinking you are right).
usually it takes some really life changing experience - usually painful, before one realises his own flaws... it happened to me...
of course not all guys like tat... for tis kind of guy, its usually the way he was brought up -> taught to be selfish n heartless... only way he learn is when he feel the pain himself... gals, beware 4 these guys... there are better respectful guys out there who are fillial to their parents n oso to any elderly...Originally posted by alba:u r so right, i think there is no way out right, except if he learn it in painful way and realises his flaws, but i guess it takes long time, but now time is short both my parents are old folks, and pity they can't hv most of their old time with families, and they got only 2 kids, for the time being i am the only child in their life now, the other one is not here gone away to nowhere.
so pity for them.
is it all guys like that so much of ego, well i can't suggest or say anyting, he will shout at the top of his voice and curse. and like no way i can talk back. no 2 way communication. very distressing. very ego. any way to bring down a bit of his ego. is it all like that, i tried all ways to smooth him down, when i think i achieve i fail after another mission to bring my parents and him together fail mission.
now i am carrying heavy loads on my head. don't want to upset both.![]()
hi alba....Originally posted by alba:u r so right, i think there is no way out right, except if he learn it in painful way and realises his flaws, but i guess it takes long time, but now time is short both my parents are old folks, and pity they can't hv most of their old time with families, and they got only 2 kids, for the time being i am the only child in their life now, the other one is not here gone away to nowhere.
so pity for them.
is it all guys like that so much of ego, well i can't suggest or say anyting, he will shout at the top of his voice and curse. and like no way i can talk back. no 2 way communication. very distressing. very ego. any way to bring down a bit of his ego. is it all like that, i tried all ways to smooth him down, when i think i achieve i fail after another mission to bring my parents and him together fail mission.
now i am carrying heavy loads on my head. don't want to upset both.![]()
anyway my mum sense he is not happy, so she told me, don't worry i will leave soon, just a few days i am going back to my place, wowo when i hear that i cried. so sad. my dad said nothing can be expected from your husband.Originally posted by alba:the problem is before marriage all look good and fine, never expect this. its been going on , thought get better, but look like getttng worse.
now he is hating me for talking abt this.
he is not talking and still very angry with me. i felt so down now.
i am torn into 3 , pity to see my parents, and angry with husband. really hard lah
a sis but married and oversea, (don't think coming home), and she is old (old sick) age 70yrs. old. i am worried, all over body sick.Originally posted by browniebaobao:actually wat is ur mum suffering from?
are u the only child?