Overprotectiveness the root of all evil?
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Well first and foremost , It has indeed been a very long time since I last posted. For those of you who might remember me , just to let you all know that those problems I used to experienced , I've put them behind.
What I'm going to post will not be another ranting post from me but just some food for thought I guess.
I've been doing lots of observation on BGR using the people around my social circle as my target for observation.
I've seen far too many teenage relationships crumble under the hands of this single word called "Overprotectiveness". As far as my observations go , I hardly see such cases being surfaced among adult couples but is indeed rampant in the realm of teenage relationships.
It's basic human nature for us males to feel overprotective when we forsee a potential threat. I've seen people who become so obsessed with suspecting that their closest friend is trying to steal their girlfriends away so much so that they are willing to give up the friendship for the sake of their obsessive behaviour. I guess the blame lies in the obsessive party not taking the initiative to actually understand the people around him.
Is there any logical explaination behind why teenage couples are more prone to being overprotective towards one another while it really isn't so in adult relationships?
Like I've said it's typical human nature for us to be overprotective but we must know our limits. Even I myself sometimes feel a slight pinch of it and I would like to know whether is there any way in which we can actually tame the overprotectiveness inside of us? Especially if one party has lots of friends from the opposite sex BUT are just merely friends?
Of course at the end of the day it all boils down to trust and respect for both parties in a relationship.
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Sometimes it aint like that...If you met the friends i mixed with...
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Your friends are kinda extreme.Originally posted by Seth35:Sometimes it aint like that...If you met the friends i mixed with...
They are not of good gauge.
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The regrets i had was i Helped them alot...
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Originally posted by Seth35:The regrets i had was i Helped them alot...
you chose to help isn't it? -
Yes...
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Originally posted by rammstein619:Well first and foremost , It has indeed been a very long time since I last posted. For those of you who might remember me , just to let you all know that those problems I used to experienced , I've put them behind.
What I'm going to post will not be another ranting post from me but just some food for thought I guess.
I've been doing lots of observation on BGR using the people around my social circle as my target for observation.
I've seen far too many teenage relationships crumble under the hands of this single word called "Overprotectiveness". As far as my observations go , I hardly see such cases being surfaced among adult couples but is indeed rampant in the realm of teenage relationships.
It's basic human nature for us males to feel overprotective when we forsee a potential threat. I've seen people who become so obsessed with suspecting that their closest friend is trying to steal their girlfriends away so much so that they are willing to give up the friendship for the sake of their obsessive behaviour. I guess the blame lies in the obsessive party not taking the initiative to actually understand the people around him.
Is there any logical explaination behind why teenage couples are more prone to being overprotective towards one another while it really isn't so in adult relationships?
Like I've said it's typical human nature for us to be overprotective but we must know our limits. Even I myself sometimes feel a slight pinch of it and I would like to know whether is there any way in which we can actually tame the overprotectiveness inside of us? Especially if one party has lots of friends from the opposite sex BUT are just merely friends?
Of course at the end of the day it all boils down to trust and respect for both parties in a relationship.
Cheers
Not exactly; I seen them both in adult and teenage BGR. It's about the same, just that as we grow older, the intensity gets worse.
Overprotectiveness is just another term for possessivess... both derive from insecurity.
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totally agree..Originally posted by Yunhaier:Overprotectiveness is just another term for possessivess... both derive from insecurity.
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I thought MONEY is the root of all evil...?
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People can come out with whatever they want.Originally posted by Bontakun:I thought MONEY is the root of all evil...?
Whatever makes them happy.
Eh, want to be DA mod boh.
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Huh...? But yoo & Dev still doing good mah. No need other mods from my point of view.Originally posted by M©+square:People can come out with whatever they want.
Whatever makes them happy.
Eh, want to be DA mod boh. 
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DAting Advice...Originally posted by Bontakun:Huh...? But yoo & Dev still doing good mah. No need other mods from my point of view. -
Dat 1 even more CANNOT. my type sure put ppl off. NononononononononononononononononononononononononononononononoOriginally posted by M©+square:DAting Advice...
If its to help discover and cultivate self virtues and personal well being in spiritual and emotional self. Maybee I consider. -
As long as you're willing to help, I think being a mod is just secondary...?Originally posted by Bontakun:Dat 1 even more CANNOT. my type sure put ppl off. Nonononononononononononononononononononononononononononononono
If its to help discover and cultivate self virtues and personal well being in spiritual and emotional self. Maybee I consider. -
Yar... help help can liao. MOD har. I dun tink I got da responsibilities to handle.Originally posted by Devil1976:As long as you're willing to help, I think being a mod is just secondary...? -
Jealousy, possessiveness, etc all stem from insecurity. It's called the fear of loss. Actually, think about it: you dun really lose anything. You gain something unnecessary sometimes or most of the times--emotional stress.
The solution: Be cool about it. Control yourself. -
Originally posted by Bontakun:Yar... help help can liao. MOD har. I dun tink I got da responsibilities to handle. Most people don't appreciate Mod's effort one. So must prepare some occasions where Mod kanna attack... like chain of command... top die first.
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Den you do leh. Seems they wanna hit clouds not easy... Coz all shoot thru and da cloud forms back.Originally posted by Yunhaier: Most people don't appreciate Mod's effort one. So must prepare some occasions where Mod kanna attack... like chain of command... top die first.
Cheers
But seriously, I tink you do a GOOD job at it though. -
Totally agreed. Control yourself or lose everythingOriginally posted by dokono:Jealousy, possessiveness, etc all stem from insecurity. It's called the fear of loss. Actually, think about it: you dun really lose anything. You gain something unnecessary sometimes or most of the times--emotional stress.
The solution: Be cool about it. Control yourself.
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*coughs*Originally posted by Bontakun:If its to help discover and cultivate self virtues and personal well being in spiritual and emotional self. Maybee I consider.
ARHHAAHHA -
Originally posted by alexkusu:*coughs*
ARHHAAHHA 
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i would say that this would be difficult to achieve for most people... who not not be afraid to lose someone they treasure so dearly?Originally posted by dokono:Jealousy, possessiveness, etc all stem from insecurity. It's called the fear of loss. Actually, think about it: you dun really lose anything. You gain something unnecessary sometimes or most of the times--emotional stress.
The solution: Be cool about it. Control yourself.