How to remove the husband's control ...
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You are not?Originally posted by playmemory:wow ... now i become the problem ...
cool down ...
So what are you? -
Knife solve everything....
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Allow me to reply myself.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:You are not?
So what are you?
Chill girl. As much as there're some things you don't like in life, there really ain't a need to get all too personal. Please respect the topic-starter. -
Do you still need this thread?Originally posted by playmemory:wow ... now i become the problem ...
cool down ...
If not I'm closing it. -
x2Originally posted by Devil1976:Do you still need this thread?
If not I'm closing it. -
We should be responsible for our actions but not blaming on others ...
no one should be responsible for the partner for being bad temper ...
unreasonable behaviour is usually the root caused. -
be positive ...Originally posted by viciouskitty74:You are not?
So what are you?
yeah ... i am more intersted in getting more feed back ... -
then they call themselves boyfriend and girlfriend and no more husband and wife????Originally posted by playmemory:How to remove the husband's control and still able to maintain the family.
I have seen from internet that seperated couples still living under one roof ...
Under seperations law pple can have their private lives, boy friends or girl friends and still keep the family intact ...
any one heard of such laws ?
Self-declare lor, no need law what. After separation, your separated wife live with you if you allow her but you 2 no longer call husband and wife. Is this what you trying to say??? -
x-husband or x-wife still can be friend ...Originally posted by dreamykite:then they call themselves boyfriend and girlfriend and no more husband and wife???? -
It is a way to take care of your family, 'keeping family intact', and self-declared freedom. Am I right? I wonder if any party will marry again?
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Glance through the thread of messages...there's is nothing wrong about divorce when both party feelings have gone. Separation requires courage and might be the way to greater happiness. Women have always been seen as a victim when comes to fights due to smaller in size?? But what causes the fight - obviously is disatisfaction.
No party is right or wrong when divorce...shouldn't be judgemental and bad-mouthing anyone...think scientifically, is just that they have no more feelings for each other and is time to go a separate way.
Any one like to be invisibly tie by someone's emotions? The ans is certainly no.
Be open-minded. -
Well said ... its not a healthy relationship ...Originally posted by dreamykite:Glance through the thread of messages...there's is nothing wrong about divorce when both party feelings have gone. Separation requires courage and might be the way to greater happiness. Women have always been seen as a victim when comes to fights due to smaller in size?? But what causes the fight - obviously is disatisfaction.
No party is right or wrong when divorce...shouldn't be judgemental and bad-mouthing anyone...think scientifically, is just that they have no more feelings for each other and is time to go a separate way.
Any one like to be invisibly tie by someone's emotions? The ans is certainly no.
Be open-minded. -
Here's a story about busy body.
A man in his 30s. Has a wife and a new baby. Wife likes to buys expensive stuffs for baby. Man cannot earn enough.
So wife and Man always qurral.
man then go around with his friends who are not married. And these friends will always agree with what the man says.
On one occasion one of the these unmarried man tells the man: Why your wife so unreasonable, surely she can buys cheaper diapers and help you save money. your wife is really bad.
man hears, felt that since his friends are saying it. it must be true.
So he goes home, qurral with wife and initial divorce.
Now that that particular friend is married. That friend understood the tribulations of parenthood and is seeking that man to apologise to him for instigating him resulting in divorce.
Now friend is frighten cos friend spouse also has such friends to suggest to break up a family just becos friend arent good in parenting or earning money.
There are those who prey on the insecurities of others.
And there are those who thrive on the troubles or create havoc on lives of others.
may such busybodies have karma to burn their lives as they did others. -
How a person is tied, depends on how a person deals with it.Originally posted by dreamykite:Glance through the thread of messages...there's is nothing wrong about divorce when both party feelings have gone. Separation requires courage and might be the way to greater happiness. Women have always been seen as a victim when comes to fights due to smaller in size?? But what causes the fight - obviously is disatisfaction.
No party is right or wrong when divorce...shouldn't be judgemental and bad-mouthing anyone...think scientifically, is just that they have no more feelings for each other and is time to go a separate way.
Any one like to be invisibly tie by someone's emotions? The ans is certainly no.
Be open-minded.
It takes 2 hands to clap. What one party may seem okay may not be the same for the other person. And its usually the mind that refuse to open thus resulting in troubles.
As with asian cultures, man cannot tolerate infidelity from their spouse, but females usually can tolerate their spouses infidelities.
To a man. If they find their wives with a boyfriend. It meant that its Divorced. No forgiving and no looking back of it as their recrimations for their own infindelities. -
Who may I ask, gave you the authority to judge and label it so?Originally posted by playmemory:Well said ... its not a healthy relationship ... -
COOL IT with your dirty laundry girl...Originally posted by viciouskitty74:How a person is tied, depends on how a person deals with it.
It takes 2 hands to clap. What one party may seem okay may not be the same for the other person. And its usually the mind that refuse to open thus resulting in troubles.
As with asian cultures, man cannot tolerate infidelity from their spouse, but females usually can tolerate their spouses infidelities.
To a man. If they find their wives with a boyfriend. It meant that its Divorced. No forgiving and no looking back of it as their recrimations for their own infindelities.
Don't ya think it's really getting way too personal?
Like everyone has to agree with you based on your personal experience...?
I don't mind you sharing your own opinions, but please spare room for others.. -
Devil, I was very cool when I do these postings.Originally posted by Devil1976:COOL IT with your dirty laundry girl...
Don't ya think it's really getting way too personal?
Like everyone has to agree with you based on your personal experience...?
I don't mind you sharing your own opinions, but please spare room for others..
Would it be preferred that I refer the postings from books and actual counsellors from CMC?
Or is this a discussion not based on Singapore demographic? -
your posting is cool ...Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Devil, I was very cool when I do these postings.
Would it be preferred that I refer the postings from books and actual counsellors from CMC?
Or is this a discussion not based on Singapore demographic?
unfortunately ... living in singapore, men and women is always unfair ...
and there is nothing u can do to change it ...
I hope u look at the brighter side ... -
Oh for heavens sake. Chill it with trying to make it personal.Originally posted by playmemory:your posting is cool ...
unfortunately ... living in singapore, men and women is always unfair ...
and there is nothing u can do to change it ...
I hope u look at the brighter side ...
I resent your comments that You word.
Grow up and read some good books will you!
men are from Mars, Women are from venus is good.
A good counsellor will tell YOU. Any sentence with that YOU is forbidden if YOU want to sound LESS PERSONAL or Judgemental.
If YOU cannot understand that. DONT PRETEND TO BE IMPERSONAL. -
Originally posted by playmemory:your posting is cool ...
unfortunately ... living in singapore, men and women is always unfair ...
and there is nothing u can do to change it ...
I hope u look at the brighter side ... I was reading it and guess what.
These thoughts was going thru my brain: "What kinda nut is this!"
"Someone clueless as to really know my personal experience does not involve a messy divorce and I am definitely in the brighter side of things."
"Whats this assuming about" "The same old stereotyping of females divorced are depressed and bitter"??????
"Can someone grow up!"
"its like those kids who has everything, but still want to act sad, rebellious & bitter with their parents because the parents are blah blah blah"
"Why must it be others fault, so it arent their own fault?"
Gosh......geeeeeezzzzzz...... -
Your post was getting too sexist.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Devil, I was very cool when I do these postings.
Would it be preferred that I refer the postings from books and actual counsellors from CMC?
Or is this a discussion not based on Singapore demographic?
Till date, I have no problem with your personal belief(s). But like I was trying to say, this is just your personal opinion of life... Don't try to push it up too far into others' nose like it's an ultimate truth.
I hard to (am too lazy to) interfere with most posts... But would not like to be seeing a 'battle of the sexes' in here. Pls cooperate, thanks. It's good that you know your stuffs well, but pls try to contribute in a more positive manner...?
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Pray tell, I was sexist?Originally posted by playmemory:your posting is cool ...
unfortunately ... living in singapore, men and women is always unfair ...
and there is nothing u can do to change it ...
I hope u look at the brighter side ... -
The thread title is already sexist.
May I suggest that the title be changed to.
How to remove spouse's control to be more politically correct? -
Credit to Devil.
For PMs to advise me to moderate my postings.
For attempts to mediate against this viciouskitty and the general 'hide behind the pc folks.'
I raise my glass of wine to you Devil. Its those japanese Plum wine. Time now in OC california is 2002 hours. -
requesting for this thread to be closed.
Information was already posted in the 1st 2 pages for folks who really needed the legal advises.