Anyway, it's over, u shd b glad u hav such a caring bf nw, can sense your uneasiness when u meet him, so long your bf is around, u shd feel more secure, rite?Originally posted by joanne:well, i posted a msg before quite sometime ago saying wat shd i do if i really met him.. i just met him at suntec just now when i was wif my bf..n he was wif his group of frens.. he said hi to me.. i smiled back.. i wished i didnt see him..i just hated him too much..i cannot bring myself to forgif someone that hurt me so much before... so much that i tot i could nv get up again.. at least my bf is nice n he comforted me as he could sense that i was v disturbed.. i regretted smiling at that fellow.. i should just diao him n walked off...
Good point... To add, you're glad that you're happy with your current bf? Not to throw a wet blanket on you... But you'll never know when the next wave would hit you again in life..... Like Bear has said... Learn to let go of this one, and you'll learn to let go of the next one better... If this 'jerk' has taken up much precious time of your life and contributed much pain to your self... DON'T top up to that effect by wasting your stress hormones on him anymore... In life you LEARN... If NOT, you'll be TAUGHT AGAIN....Originally posted by Bear:Joanne,
I can understand the hurt that's in you.. U were involved in the r/s. Some say if u dun feel hurt in a r/s, u were never involved in the r/s before.
Ur hurt may have well-up inside during the times when u never saw ur ex, and it was kind of happily settled down inside u before this incident happen. But things do happen... and it did...
Jus hope that u will consider. it's a natural reaction for u to smile at someone u know. and u cannot control it. u may regret it now.. but I doubt u told urself that u must smile at him at the point in time. It just was there, and u r just being friendly. On the other hand, u maybe recalling the hurt again, and start to be angry wif him for messing up ur life in the past. I'm NOT asking u forget the past and forgive him now. coz in life no one can do that.. But let's put it this way, as compared to the past I'm sure the hurt has diminished slightly. That will be important.. coz it's the process...
Another thing, no use telling urself that u must be angry wif him when u see him, coz in a way u r telling urself to remember something which has scarred ur life. y bother to do such a thing for someone, u feel is not even worthy for u to know?? U r still living in the shadows and unable to let urself be free.. Let time heals, coz it can. Let feelings flow, coz it will. Let the past be history, coz it's not something u will want to remember in life...
Take care...
Originally posted by joanne:Bear,
thanks for ur advice..it really hit me hard.. my ex is the one n only one person that hurt me so deeply in my entire life.u are rite that i cannot make myself forget him as i thought i could..its no longer love but hatred that grow day by day.. that day when i met him, it was a great shock.. time does cos my pain to be lessen, but it makes me hate him more everyday..i nv blamed him for anything, but when i noe that these bad experiences still haven left me, i began to hate him..day by day..!!! ARGH!!!~
i told my bf everything abt him, he understands n he just tell me not to think abt that jerk anymore.but he just couldnt understand that it's not that i wanna think abt him, its just that the scar is too too too deep to be healed.. he just kip telling me not to hate him! i dunwan to hate him either! but it's something that i can't control!! get it?
Originally posted by ZiZi:Can understand...we can't control the feeling we haf given out...We knew tat u didn't purposely want to hate him but is juz a feeling tat u urself(i think) also dun wish to haf...but tis is uncontrollable...dun blame urself coz u haf done ur part.enjoy ur present bf's company...little little bit of warm & love tat he gif proves his love for u...Take care and treasure wat u haf...
Oh, your ex-him is named bas, so interestg leh...Originally posted by joanne:oops...forgot to reply to someone that asked me if i had a bf called jeremy... nope..my ex's name is BAS...he claims that he is a bastard (since the day i noe him) so thats his name...BAS!
Originally posted by ZiZi:Better?May i ask wat are my best & worst?
.........Originally posted by Ruth|E:im someone who is revengful.... but i cant curb with my emotional...
i ever thought... what if 1 day i happen to meet my ex bf with hes new gf?!?!?!?!
what should i do?!?!?
breakdown and cry??
or heartily wish him all da best??
my frd once told me, if he was in da wrong fer the breakup, jus ignore him...
but if you happen to know tt ger and she was the 3rd party fer yr breakup... just go to tt bitch and slap her and give yr ex a kiss on hes cheek... (awesome issnt) ?? lol
i guess if i happen to see him on da rd... i will breakdown and cry... boo hoo hoo....
its hard to forget someone you have loved deeply...
It's hard but it's possible isn't it?Originally posted by Ruth|E:im someone who is revengful.... but i cant curb with my emotional...
i ever thought... what if 1 day i happen to meet my ex bf with hes new gf?!?!?!?!
what should i do?!?!?
breakdown and cry??
or heartily wish him all da best??
my frd once told me, if he was in da wrong fer the breakup, jus ignore him...
but if you happen to know tt ger and she was the 3rd party fer yr breakup... just go to tt bitch and slap her and give yr ex a kiss on hes cheek... (awesome issnt) ?? lol
i guess if i happen to see him on da rd... i will breakdown and cry... boo hoo hoo....
its hard to forget someone you have loved deeply...