How to maintain a long lasting friendship?
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I've started internet only in 1997. Since then, I did make a lot of net friends. But our relationship didn't last... about 2 yrs only. Initially, we did meet up once a month for dinner. But now, totally no news from them anymore.
We got nothing in common except the internet, so, when they're bored with the net, that's the end of the relationship.
There's only 1 whom I still keep in touch till now. All thanks to my another friend who would invite us to her house to play mahjong every weekend. If not......
Till now I am still making new friends in the net. But I wonder, how long will our relationship lasts?
It is very saddening to see friends come and go. What are the ways that I can maintain a long lasting friendship? BTW, I am 29 and my net friends range from 19-40++. Thanks for the advice. -
Ruth|E!!! I oso wanna join can or not? I promise to behave, can can?
Raingal, the problem with internet is that it just brings lonely or bored people together. In the immortal words of the SDU "This is a beginning, the rest is up to you." Be more proactive in making friends, call up once in a while, e-mail them see what's up with their lives.
The greatest thing in life, is to be loved and be loved in return. If you haven't catch "Moulin Rouge" go and catch it this weekend. The whole movie plays like a discotheque+opera hall+concert hall+MTV... wonderful music and highly entertaining. It got me humming that Elton John's "Your song" for the last few days..... It's a little bit funny, this feeling inside... I'm not somebody that can easily hide, I don't have much money but if I could, I buy a big house that we could live in...... How wonderful life is while you're in the world..... er... sorry got carried away and I'm too lazy to delete it. Hehe :p -
guess it up to yourself how u maintain the contact...
last nite one of my fran whom I have not met up wif for a few mths suddenly msg mi..
Well.. he's one of those few who's seldom online but we still keep in touch offline... meet up once a while for dinner or something so tat will not lose touch..
even my childhood fran since baby till now noe him also juz meet once in blue moon for dinner... one of my bro from e net also is alwiz there till something happened to him... b4 soomehting happen to him, we will juz meet once in a while for kopi or something and try to keep the other updated abt the other's life lor...
it is not tat ez esp if they r no longer ircing... it takes 2 hands to clap too... but as long as one takes the initiative, it shouldn't be a problem keeping contact lor...
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Friends....?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
ya, same here, I met my net friends in the forums and in IRC. We organise outing once a month. Even so, I always see new faces. Some join us for a few outings then disappear already. So saddening.
The group I met in 1997 prefer email than forums. So we started to talk using emails. Then slowly one by one lazy/busy to write, till my another friend had to sms them to see if they're fine..... no reply from them, so you know what happened.
Klactovak, I watched Moulin Rouge already
with my another Forum friends.... it is a nice shows indeed.... -
raingal:
Welcome.
Making friends on the web isn't a easy task. Looking at what a person types and how he/she expresses what he/she is typing physically would determine whether the friendship can last or not. I prefer to meet up with my friends now and then as we share the common interests. Just be easy on such matters as nothing is forever.
ruth|e:
Never tell me where u guys/gals were that evening. Anyway, I was "out" by 1am. Thanks to my buddies who decided to make me "out". -
MY First Sentence is: I DUN REALLY BELIEVE IN FRIENDSHIP, NO MATTER SHORT OR LONG.
Friendship?? or issit juz Aquaintance? Its easy to get aquaintances but not eazy when forming a frendship.. there r lots and lots of people whom we've met and know them, see them, even tok to them for quite sometime.. but somehow they have yet to be recognised as friendship.. even though we have place some or big amount of trust in it. sad, but well it happens! u might not believe it but well, you have already experience it.. only some people would realise it.. we r juz too buzy for this world, this country, even at this time.. Cruel and Merciless i suppose..
how about it when u met an "old" frend or a long lost frend?? yeah, its true at first, "frends are frends forever".. but as time goes by.. do u think we have more or less merely "downgraded" them to juz aquaintance?? look at the way we tok to them, spend time with them, or even behave when they r around or met them along the streets.. issit as same as if they r juz aquaintance? instead we spend more time to those people whom u r interested to tok to..building the bridges of communications with them..destroying those bridges youve made with other people whom you have met before..
A few big Examples to strengthen my point is that.. DO YOU EVER ASK YOURSELF THIS.. When u r in SECondary skool.. do u ever ask yourself WHERE ARE MY NURSERY AND KINDERGARTEN FRENDS go to? do i still remember ALL of them? HOW abOUT the name and faces those few TEACHERS guiding me during that time? do i still remember the CONCERT we had after we had passed our Kindergarten levels? maybe the only thing we remember is during the photo taking session in kindergarten where we are suppose to wear like University Graduate holding a scroll.. ohhh thats long long time ago.. do u still remember your "frend" who sat juz beside you? maybe u still remeber those faces of the naughty ones... but whats his/her names ah? do u think they still remembers me? ask the same thing when u r in POLY, JC or ITEs.. where r my primary skool frends, Kindergarten frends, and nursery friends...???? do i juz stipped them off too?? or do i still rememer them in the first place? ask the same thing again if u r University Grads or in Working Fields. do the answers are almost the same as the previous questions??
this is the same thing that happens to you, it happens everytime, like a cycle. once you leave skool.. u r leaving your "frends" too or juz merely stripped their status from "frendship" to mere aquaintance.. cos you r giving this status to someone new in future..
there r also lots people whom youve met and tok to..but once u r not interested talking to them, you somehow disappear.. its naturaL.. and when they want to tok to you.. you juz reply for the sake of entertaining them and soon you are being a hypocrite yourself.. how do u feel if u r in their shoes.. u tok, they tok.. u stop, they also stop.. soon u'll either lose intrest in toking to them or u start trying to get their attention.. and i bet that most of them will feel irritated whenever u try to get their attention.. dun worry .. its nature too.. we are living in the world of WAYANGS!!
This is juz appertizers only.. i still got some more to say but im afraid among u all might write a novel bout it and self-declared original and become a local best-sellers..and i got nuthing.. im a PROFESSIONAL (SELF-DECLARED) CRITICS, u noe.. im a person who u can see destruction in one way but a chance to self-improve in another way..
i havent put in bout those frends who suddenly become backstabbers... hmm backstabbers.. sounds familiar?? anyone kena before?? i still got a few DAGGERS left behind my back waiting for someone to help me take it out.. it hurts whenever i try to sleep on my back.. OWWW
thats one of many reasons why i dun really believe in FRENDSHIP.. but more on short term or long term Aquaintance cos sooner or later.. time will separate us unintentionally, either me or you, keeping those who r still interested in maintaining contact.
so dun feel really SAD if the so-called frendship that u had with these new bunch of people dosent last that long. always remember about your frends in Primary school.. SIX-SEVEN BLOODY YEARS you r with them.. sharing joy and laughter and sadness.. but how and where were they now? is SIX years of frendship too short?? so issit FRENDSHIP or Aquaintance?
To make a Frendship is like making a multi-flavoured ice-cream.. u need to put a lot of things.. trust, sincere, hope, common activity, time, money etc and 1 most important thing.. which i myself still doing "research" about thow to make it last the longest.. as we know for ice-cream.. the more fatty the cream is, the longer they last.. but for this.. erm.. The decision lies in the hands of the most powerful, most compassionate and the most merciful.. the ONE who CREATE US! no one can make anything last longer than HIM.. Seek for HIS help and PATIENCE is the catalyst for anything, even frendship to last longer. If HE decided that something must not last long, there must be a reason behind it and its for us to decipher them..
oklah.. me already got bubbles in my mouth liao..
GOOD LUCK!
AS ALWAYS....
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Professional Critics -
Now, here is a guy who did alot of thinking....?Originally posted by ProSucker:MY First Sentence is: I DUN REALLY BELIEVE IN FRIENDSHIP, NO MATTER SHORT OR LONG.
Friendship?? or issit juz Aquaintance? Its easy to get aquaintances but not eazy when forming a frendship.. there r lots and lots of people whom we've met and know them, see them, even tok to them for quite sometime.. but somehow they have yet to be recognised as friendship.. even though we have place some or big amount of trust in it. sad, but well it happens! u might not believe it but well, you have already experience it.. only some people would realise it.. we r juz too buzy for this world, this country, even at this time.. Cruel and Merciless i suppose..
how about it when u met an "old" frend or a long lost frend?? yeah, its true at first, "frends are frends forever".. but as time goes by.. do u think we have more or less merely "downgraded" them to juz aquaintance?? look at the way we tok to them, spend time with them, or even behave when they r around or met them along the streets.. issit as same as if they r juz aquaintance? instead we spend more time to those people whom u r interested to tok to..building the bridges of communications with them..destroying those bridges youve made with other people whom you have met before..
A few big Examples to strengthen my point is that.. DO YOU EVER ASK YOURSELF THIS.. When u r in SECondary skool.. do u ever ask yourself WHERE ARE MY NURSERY AND KINDERGARTEN FRENDS go to? do i still remember ALL of them? HOW abOUT the name and faces those few TEACHERS guiding me during that time? do i still remember the CONCERT we had after we had passed our Kindergarten levels? maybe the only thing we remember is during the photo taking session in kindergarten where we are suppose to wear like University Graduate holding a scroll.. ohhh thats long long time ago.. do u still remember your "frend" who sat juz beside you? maybe u still remeber those faces of the naughty ones... but whats his/her names ah? do u think they still remembers me? ask the same thing when u r in POLY, JC or ITEs.. where r my primary skool frends, Kindergarten frends, and nursery friends...???? do i juz stipped them off too?? or do i still rememer them in the first place? ask the same thing again if u r University Grads or in Working Fields. do the answers are almost the same as the previous questions??
this is the same thing that happens to you, it happens everytime, like a cycle. once you leave skool.. u r leaving your "frends" too or juz merely stripped their status from "frendship" to mere aquaintance.. cos you r giving this status to someone new in future..
there r also lots people whom youve met and tok to..but once u r not interested talking to them, you somehow disappear.. its naturaL.. and when they want to tok to you.. you juz reply for the sake of entertaining them and soon you are being a hypocrite yourself.. how do u feel if u r in their shoes.. u tok, they tok.. u stop, they also stop.. soon u'll either lose intrest in toking to them or u start trying to get their attention.. and i bet that most of them will feel irritated whenever u try to get their attention.. dun worry .. its nature too.. we are living in the world of WAYANGS!!
This is juz appertizers only.. i still got some more to say but im afraid among u all might write a novel bout it and self-declared original and become a local best-sellers..and i got nuthing.. im a PROFESSIONAL (SELF-DECLARED) CRITICS, u noe.. im a person who u can see destruction in one way but a chance to self-improve in another way..
i havent put in bout those frends who suddenly become backstabbers... hmm backstabbers.. sounds familiar?? anyone kena before?? i still got a few DAGGERS left behind my back waiting for someone to help me take it out.. it hurts whenever i try to sleep on my back.. OWWW
thats one of many reasons why i dun really believe in FRENDSHIP.. but more on short term or long term Aquaintance cos sooner or later.. time will separate us unintentionally, either me or you, keeping those who r still interested in maintaining contact.
so dun feel really SAD if the so-called frendship that u had with these new bunch of people dosent last that long. always remember about your frends in Primary school.. SIX-SEVEN BLOODY YEARS you r with them.. sharing joy and laughter and sadness.. but how and where were they now? is SIX years of frendship too short?? so issit FRENDSHIP or Aquaintance?
To make a Frendship is like making a multi-flavoured ice-cream.. u need to put a lot of things.. trust, sincere, hope, common activity, time, money etc and 1 most important thing.. which i myself still doing "research" about thow to make it last the longest.. as we know for ice-cream.. the more fatty the cream is, the longer they last.. but for this.. erm.. The decision lies in the hands of the most powerful, most compassionate and the most merciful.. the ONE who CREATE US! no one can make anything last longer than HIM.. Seek for HIS help and PATIENCE is the catalyst for anything, even frendship to last longer. If HE decided that something must not last long, there must be a reason behind it and its for us to decipher them..
oklah.. me already got bubbles in my mouth liao..
GOOD LUCK!
AS ALWAYS.... Where have you been all this while, my friend...?
Do you not realise that the motive of life is not merely to disect the fruit, explore and study it....? But also to taste it with your tongue, feel it with your heart... Mmm... What wonderful taste it gives....? This... is the the joy of life.... Do you understand...?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥....