Silence? Not suitable?
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Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry...
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Your age difference is...
Do you plan ahead to do some activity together?
Do you go out for some activity together?
After talking for a while... it is natural to run out of topics... -
Perhaps the communication channels between u two have not been developed enough........ Time to sit down and talk things out openly..........
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I assume you've got to know her not long before jumping into a relationship?Originally posted by kuckuc:Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry...
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Why not try online chatting instead?Originally posted by kuckuc:Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry... -
difference about 6....
get to know her for around half a year before going into r/s..
in a week, we meet up for 4 days like that, somemore got chat on phone almost everyday...
i got suggest for going holiday, so need to save $$. -
its not a generation gap. both of you are at a plateau after a spike.Originally posted by kuckuc:Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry...
Chatting dont necessary means that you are saying anything important.
talking does. And she means it literally about, dont want to talk, please hang up. You are making her stand and sit at the phone when she can do better to do something else and maybe telling you about it later.
A person may not need to say anything to have the good friend understands what needed to be known. -
if you have nothing more to talk about it makes sense to hang off. if you have nothing to talk about at all, why call in the first place?
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Dun blame yourself for running out of topic during conversation. Brighten the r/s up by engaging into other sorts of activities. Cheers.
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dun make it mandatory to have a conversation with ur girl. maybe be spontaneous and call each other only when there's something to talk about.
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yes i agree that talking on the phone every night is very draining
why not try to cut down on the frequency and see how it goes... explain to your gal the situation and make known that you are speaking to her less not because you care less but more that you want to improve on the relationship instead -
Probably different issues... Going for a holiday can solve your current problemOriginally posted by kuckuc:difference about 6....
get to know her for around half a year before going into r/s..
in a week, we meet up for 4 days like that, somemore got chat on phone almost everyday...
i got suggest for going holiday, so need to save $$.
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if everyday talk.. will run out of topics de..
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exactly. just remember this sentence. save the talking for dates.Originally posted by browniebaobao:if everyday talk.. will run out of topics de.. -
bad sign for u... but u reali hv to remember how u last time get her as ur gf... u know her interest then follow up with topics from there... where are both of u now? she sch n u work?Originally posted by kuckuc:Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry... -
if she really likes u she will acceot ur quietness then she will do the talking. There are actually so many things to talk to. its u dun knw where to start from.
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a few warning signs to look out for:Originally posted by kuckuc:Hi,
Recently my gal always say very sian coz on the phone, we always chat about the same thing, or nothing to talk at all, so both parties become silent.
It has been a while...
Then she say do we have generation gap? If dont want to talk then hang up... When you have nothing to chat about or maybe chat on same topic whenever you see your partner, maybe he/she is not suitable for you.
I admit I'm that quiet type of person & do not often initiate topics.
Really worry...
-she say she is ''sian''. Think about it. If she has a lot of feelings for you, she will try to find some topics to talk. She will expand on what you say or even ask you back questions. something is wrong.
-you say it has been a while
-she ask u whether the two of you have a ''generation gap''? Does a girl with high feelings for you say this? Is she trying to tell you that she is losing chemistry for you? It's funny how some couple can have chemistry even though they have a lot of age differences. Think about it.
Conclusion: don't talk too often on the phone. -
I've always had this problem. I may not be able to help you much, but at least i can try to advice you. This talking thing, Is something that just comes naturally. You dont have to plan it, Its stupid IMO. Just let yourself run free.
But if you really want somethings to know what to talk about, My friends always tell me this COMMON YET USEFUL PHRASE TO KILL BOREDOM LOL
"You eat already?"
"Why haven't eat? Go eat la, you always never eat one"
"Dont starve yourself okay. later sick how"
"How are you?"
"How's your day?"
K, i just sounded like a freaking junky. -
Thanks all...
Now it's better, as we don't call that often these days, but still we smses...
beavan: perhaps you're right, to think back, I guessed i feel like it's mandatory to call her even i have nothing to talk to her... just call to say "how are you today? how's work? etc..."
BrUtUs: Both of us are working.
A holiday might work, we are planning to go back hometown this coming public holiday, will see how things work =p
If you everyday on the phone with your partner, will you be exausted & run out of topic -
My bf runs out of topic most often and I do tell him to just go sleep or do his stuff cuz talking on the phone is BORING. I'd much rather we leave each other alone and have some personal time then talk about it later when we do meet face to face than to call and stare at the ceiling in silence until I hear him snore.
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sms will will just fine on this occasion i feelOriginally posted by kuckuc:Thanks all...
Now it's better, as we don't call that often these days, but still we smses...
beavan: perhaps you're right, to think back, I guessed i feel like it's mandatory to call her even i have nothing to talk to her... just call to say "how are you today? how's work? etc..."
BrUtUs: Both of us are working.
A holiday might work, we are planning to go back hometown this coming public holiday, will see how things work =p
If you everyday on the phone with your partner, will you be exausted & run out of topic