Run away?
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Yes, im ignoring him and intend to do so. im taking the morning flight tomorrow morning. Juz leave. should i let him know that i have left before boarding the flight or after i have arrived at my destination? At least that would be the closure of this disastrous nitemare?Originally posted by pwnz0r:Just ignore him. This kind of people are influenced by power and domination. The more you give him room to dominate or to play games, the more he will think he can play a fool.
Don't feed him. Best to just ignore him. At most change phone numbers and if you see him loitering around your place, immediately call the police and see who has the most fun then.
With regards to the video. Did you engage in sexual acts with him? If not, there is minimal risk of being compromised with any video. -
Y even bother to let him know that you have left in the first place?Originally posted by vgal:Yes, im ignoring him and intend to do so. im taking the morning flight tomorrow morning. Juz leave. should i let him know that i have left before boarding the flight or after i have arrived at my destination? At least that would be the closure of this disastrous nitemare?
enjoy your break.. hope u dun get to meet such a lamer again.. -
You are CLEAR. You just needs to be FOCUSED enough.Originally posted by vgal:I'm lost.
I think this guy has already done enough damage for you. Learn to protect yourself before you can think for others.
You are responsible for your own safety and your own life. Do not take any more nonsense fom him. Do not be afraid to go by means to send the MESSAGE ACROSS to him. Right now you're just telling him that he can be a monkey, that's why he playing the fool around with you. -
i do not think i have told him he can be a monkey. he tries to be funny, i will leave him, which i have. he tries more, i will walk into the police station, which i had. i stopped cos i see it will be a lose lose situation.Originally posted by Devil1976:You are CLEAR. You just needs to be FOCUSED enough.
I think this guy has already done enough damage for you. Learn to protect yourself before you can think for others.
You are responsible for your own safety and your own life. Do not take any more nonsense fom him. Do not be afraid to go by means to send the MESSAGE ACROSS to him. Right now you're just telling him that he can be a monkey, that's why he playing the fool around with you.
i do not think he is afraid that i will walk into the police station, for he is no longer sane.
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Do not inform him!!! By letting him know your intentions, you are again feeding him power. This is like still reporting to him.Originally posted by vgal:Yes, im ignoring him and intend to do so. im taking the morning flight tomorrow morning. Juz leave. should i let him know that i have left before boarding the flight or after i have arrived at my destination? At least that would be the closure of this disastrous nitemare?
Take note, we're saying no more contact. Not today, not tomorrow, not next month, not next year, not in 10 years time. Just move on and totally forgot him. I bet he will play this kind of game with every woman in his life. You already said that he is a divorcee and has since had many other relationships. His record doesn't indicate anything good.
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I wonder how it is possible that he managed to get you as his gf in the first place. He's not the man you used to love anymore. Scary. I mean, there are so many good guys out there. Oh well, love is not logical.Originally posted by vgal:i do not think i have told him he can be a monkey. he tries to be funny, i will leave him, which i have. he tries more, i will walk into the police station, which i had. i stopped cos i see it will be a lose lose situation.
i do not think he is afraid that i will walk into the police station, for he is no longer sane.
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correct! agree totally.Originally posted by pwnz0r:Do not inform him!!! By letting him know your intentions, you are again feeding him power. This is like still reporting to him.
Take note, we're saying no more contact. Not today, not tomorrow, not next month, not next year, not in 10 years time. Just move on and totally forgot him. I bet he will play this kind of game with every woman in his life. You already said that he is a divorcee and has since had many other relationships. His record doesn't indicate anything good.
Remember, he ask for a new beginning, new chance could never mean he is sincere and again is playing games.
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Enjoy your trip.
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VGAL enjoy your flight and holiday.
Have a nice trip
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Smses i received today:
8:30am: The video realli still exist. Wanted to show you on thurday nite when we met up but din have a chance. i shall keep it then.
11:50am : Damn you for affecting my work!
3:30pm: I think u realli need to b convinced.
5:04pm: U r damn knn, now i got to go around asking people to go out coz u left me suddenly! U definitely have a bf now!
5:07pm: Play wif my feelings! U r good! Will save big present for ur next bf or husband! Get it? Hahahah!!!! -
Despicable rat! The more he says, the more i think they are empty threats.
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make sure your phone have enough memory to save all your sms. some phone can only save a certain number of sms, newer sms will replace the older sms.Originally posted by vgal:ya. but he said if the police cant find the video in his place (honestly i doubt there is a video), he can sue me for defamation. i know the smses can back my case up, but i do not want to blow this thing up. after all, having such an ugly relationship is realli not a thing to be proud of.
i have not asked my lawyer friends too, cos it is really nothing to be proud of.
i think you could apply for restraining order to restrain him from you for a certain distance but i don't know if this will cover phone call and sms.
i suggest you to make a police report for record purpose and you don't have to mention the video because the sms have spoken for itself. he can't sue you for it.
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just report it to police la those offensive sms you are very indecisive and is obviously running away from the problems................if you report to the police would he be able to post the video onlne or something ? the answer is no the more you delay the percentage of posting the videos online or send to others in msn is more so what are you waiting for ? Call 999 now To arrest him.Originally posted by vgal:Smses i received today:
8:30am: The video realli still exist. Wanted to show you on thurday nite when we met up but din have a chance. i shall keep it then.
11:50am : Damn you for affecting my work!
3:30pm: I think u realli need to b convinced.
5:04pm: U r damn knn, now i got to go around asking people to go out coz u left me suddenly! U definitely have a bf now!
5:07pm: Play wif my feelings! U r good! Will save big present for ur next bf or husband! Get it? Hahahah!!!!
Lastly Thank you for cooperating With S.P.F - Singapore Police Force
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yes, i believe but he just want to control vgal and want vgal to be what "he" want. is it called love?Originally posted by M©+square:Would you believe me that he doesn't want this to happen as well?
He didn't mean to 'kill' or 'destroy' you.
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Received another threat sms. but heck!
I'm changed and packed. Heading for the airport now. Earlier post on only leaving tomr is a smokescreeen. juz incase he sees this thread.
Thank you all of you for your kind words, advices and concerns. Really appreciate it. No word can convey my appreciation.
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All the best and have a nice trip relaxing.
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Wonder whether you can sue him for harassment?Originally posted by vgal:Smses i received today:
8:30am: The video realli still exist. Wanted to show you on thurday nite when we met up but din have a chance. i shall keep it then.
11:50am : Damn you for affecting my work!
3:30pm: I think u realli need to b convinced.
5:04pm: U r damn knn, now i got to go around asking people to go out coz u left me suddenly! U definitely have a bf now!
5:07pm: Play wif my feelings! U r good! Will save big present for ur next bf or husband! Get it? Hahahah!!!!
If you make it a police case, the police will warn him not to step within dunno how many metres radius from you. I think so. -
We didn't discuss about love from their break up onwards.Originally posted by mark_docent:yes, i believe but he just want to control vgal and want vgal to be what "he" want. is it called love?
He lost his sanity, and inability to consider what are dangerous, what are destructive. In short, he lost his senses.
He wants vgal because he thought - possession regardless of means and outcome will make him satisfied, happy.
Which in every being, there is this desire to be filled, satisfied and happy.
However, the way to go about getting these intangibles are subjective.
That this state he didn't know he's hurting vgal, or even if he does. He doesn't care.
It is no longer love, but the ugly desire of men - revealed.
These desires are beautiful and have their reasons. But if tripped on the wrong path. It reaps sad experiences and stories.
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Even if you're taking your steps backwards... I don't see how it's gonna be a 'win' situation for you if he's gonna be persistent enough...?Originally posted by vgal:i do not think i have told him he can be a monkey. he tries to be funny, i will leave him, which i have. he tries more, i will walk into the police station, which i had. i stopped cos i see it will be a lose lose situation.
i do not think he is afraid that i will walk into the police station, for he is no longer sane.
i thought if he had known im gone (ie no longer in this country) he may give up. -
This man is possessive and is a control freak. He tried to dominate his woman. He may have won the girl by being nice initially but in due time, he has thrown his own pattern of tantrums which will deteriorate over time. When vgal stayed with him and rejected him later, he became very nasty because of his huge ego and because the man is uptight. This explains why why he got very uptight and stifled when he see other guys near his girl.
Vgal, you took the right choice. It may be painful at first but you won't get hurt by a possessive and jealous man.