Agony, my problem :(

• Devil1976

  2 Oct 06, 13:09

  Originally posted by FaithGuy:

  This is not gaining sympathy, a major glitch , you are correct , my friend.
  
  I used to be navie, very navie, sometimes i find myself immature but i am not stubborn. So many incidents, so many of them , too much of them throughly
  awaken me from my insensitive dreams.
  
  Too bad, a decision will be made soon , no I wont made the decision . I will ask her the last time. One last time, I ensure myself, I must bite my teeths,
  grab my fist no matter the outcome.
  
  I bear no hopes now. She hurt me too deep, stabbing a direct wound on my heart which maybe cant be heal in this lifetime.
  

  Before you really do. Go for a CLEAR HINT that you could be executing a break up if you're left with no choice (and that you love her and do not wish to do so - only if you feel this way)....
  
  But that would be a 'prelude'. With no effect, break up should be executed shortly after.
• Gedanken

  2 Oct 06, 13:34

  Uhhh, exactly what are you getting out of this relationship?
  
  From the sounds of it, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain by pulling the plug on this one.
• de_middle

  2 Oct 06, 14:48

  Originally posted by FaithGuy:

  Hi everyone,
  
  I am sad, tell me , someone pls, what do you do when you gf is suggesting breakup to you numerous times when you dun agree to that ?
  
  What do you do when your GF is so straight forward and always insults you verbally, your intelligent, your well-being using very harsh words althought you told her numerous times its not correct to do so nicely ?
  
  What do you do when your Gf is complaning and loves to writes complaint letters to retailer on their service on product ?
  
  What do you do when yr gf insult you and yell at you infront of your friends and her family members ?
  
  I know love is a one sided frm me .Its a dual process. Sometimes I find my actions doing more than enough but I hope to play my very best part in my relationship.
  
  she failed me badly, fail her part badly I think. I got only little love from her . I am not being stereo-typed her. That's her impression to me. We been going on steady for a year and 3 months. As days come nearer to today, I feel that our relationship is on the declining stage. I tried very very hard to save, endure ,withstand . Its catching on my limit soon .I am going to suffer a breakdown soon .
  
  NO ! I didnt start this , there is no third parties, no related incidents. This is between 2 of us. It gets a hell lot complicated. She started to insult my parents in our quarrel using the F*ck word. She says there is nothing I can do to when she use this words !
  
  Every little single wrongly white stuff I did, She will yelled at me , in front of her family member and EVEN my friends. I had enuff . She is challenging my ego and pride. Just simple little things, for e.g a detail which I did not asked to the Telephone operator , she would yelled at me in front of her family. I feel like an idiot . our quarrel will always end up in threatening to "BREAKUP".
  
  Today , I am became rebellious. I began to show coldness to her, not carrying her stuff , talked the way she did to me in front of her friends . I got tired of it, I told her I am going off and went home alone without her and her friends.
  
  I want to save the relationship, a lot of times, I gave in although its clearly not my wrong, not my mistake. I hope breaking up is not the ultimate option. But if it is, if it could benefit both of us, I will execute it.

  My friend, the areas highlighted in RED are serious. From the many replies you have gathered here, I will just add another telling you to move on.......yes, no need to explain any further or even salvage such a relationship, simply because it's NOT HEALTHY.
  
  You have been nice to accomodate such behaviour & being able to accomodate till such a level, i trust you can find a better one out there whom you'll have a more pleasant time with.
  
  Best of luck
  
  
• soul_rage

  2 Oct 06, 16:10

  Originally posted by de_middle:

  My friend, the areas highlighted in RED are serious. From the many replies you have gathered here, I will just add another telling you to move on.......yes, no need to explain any further or even salvage such a relationship, simply because it's NOT HEALTHY.
  
  You have been nice to accomodate such behaviour & being able to accomodate till such a level, i trust you can find a better one out there whom you'll have a more pleasant time with.
  
  Best of luck
  
  

  Still, I am inclined to look at it that this is just one perspective of the relationship.
  Is there a reason why something like this happened? Before faulting the gal, perhaps the guy himself have some glaring problems?
  
  I am not offering any excuse for such behaviors, but I tend to like to reflect upon myself to see if I have the right to fault another person. Perhaps I am doing something that is very wrong too.
  
  More often than not, I find my basic human instinct is wanting to point my finger at someone else. It takes a lot of effort to do self-reflection and to acknowledge any problem of one self
• qooorange

  2 Oct 06, 21:27

  Originally posted by FaithGuy:

  Unappreciated ? Can I forgo this traits ?
  
  Yes,
  She will sometimes , yes sometimes maybe once in a few months suprise me with a small gift.
  
  I really cant understand , she was always in a "want to win" character, full of pride, she must have the all win attitude, in everything, in when comes to love,
  something which she can do better than , she will raise her volume at it.

  quick break up with her.. this kind of r/s will bring suffering to u