Secret lives of S'pore teens- sex survey by Straits Times
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It strikes me that plenty of pretty girls are insecure abt their guy, so they choose a less yandao one. Likewise, fugly girls can take it easy having a yandao bf 'cos these guys did not go after them for looks. Just my opinion....Originally posted by Ristar:in fact, i was surprised a lot of times already...
it never fails to amaze me whenever i see this again and again.. how come cute girls can go out with horrendous looking guys, and vice versa.
oh ya... maybe its the soul thingie i was talking about just now...
or the money. 
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well... i wont disagree with that...Originally posted by Rock^Star:It strikes me that plenty of pretty girls are insecure abt their guy, so they choose a less yandao one. Likewise, fugly girls can take it easy having a yandao bf 'cos these guys did not go after them for looks. Just my opinion....
if her guy were that easily shaken, the guy is just lusting after her. she shouldnt be with him in the first place. but wait, girls want somebody interesting, can talk a lot, with that little dash of danger added to the excitement... ooh the mix is intoxicating, indeed. who can she blame for being insecure?
so, she tortures herself by going out with somebody who looks like he kenna langga by truck before, probly after a few bad experiences.
hypothetically speaking, another girl who is insecure would snatch this unfortunate looking guy away, making him become the world's most fortunate guy.
in the end, i feel that love that doesnt last for a lifetime and beyond is just unadulterated lust... with some good feelings attached to it. it has no meaning to it, in and of itself. unless the joker wanna score a million girls before he hits 21... -
x2. As sucky as it is for me to say this, it's just way too much to expect my girl to be a virgin.Originally posted by Rock^Star:If I'm single, I wouldn't expect my prospective gf to be V but I don't expect her to have been a loose gal either.
To me what truly matters is that she's my one and only, and that I get to give my virginity away to her on my wedding night.
Gordon... I can understand how it feels like when you know that kids these days are getting laid before they even know how to do quadratic equations and chemistry lab sessions. I know. I'm already 23, and I've never even had a steady relationship before, much less a sexual intercourse.
But like I said, it's all about perception. You may think that they're lucky they had sex so early. But try telling that to the 14-year old Sec 2 girl who had to drop out of school to rear her baby or the 17-year old JC student who contracted the HIV virus. I'm sure that they'd consider themselves as anything but lucky.
You're not the only 20-something virgin here, after all. -
Seriously, is it that hard to internalise some self-ethical codes?
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Seriously I can't imagine ONS happening. How does one feel after it has happened? Emptiness?
Met a steward the other day and he ever experienced a couple trying to copulate on a passenger seat under the blanket. There was a lot of giggling and my friend had to say, "Errr....excuse me guys?" (Now, can u imagine?)
Sparks already flew when they were at the door. Wah so ez huh??? I also wan
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You are not alone....Originally posted by fudgester:x2. As sucky as it is for me to say this, it's just way too much to expect my girl to be a virgin.
To me what truly matters is that she's my one and only, and that I get to give my virginity away to her on my wedding night.
Gordon... I can understand how it feels like when you know that kids these days are getting laid before they even know how to do quadratic equations and chemistry lab sessions. I know. I'm already 23, and I've never even had a steady relationship before, much less a sexual intercourse.
But like I said, it's all about perception. You may think that they're lucky they had sex so early. But try telling that to the 14-year old Sec 2 girl who had to drop out of school to rear her baby or the 17-year old JC student who contracted the HIV virus. I'm sure that they'd consider themselves as anything but lucky.
You're not the only 20-something virgin here, after all. 
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The problem is that those ethical codes by themselves are constantly changing. 30 to 40 years ago in Singapore a couple holding hands in public was already considered as a shameless act of PDA. Now prostitutes openly soliciting customers in the streets is considered normal. At this rate, open sex by the roadside will soon be the norm.Originally posted by LazerLordz:Seriously, is it that hard to internalise some self-ethical codes?
You also can't underestimate to power of the mass media. As much parents and teachers keep telling us about the virtues of chastity and abstinence, it all counts for nuts if we have our youth watching sex scenes and blatant promiscuity on the telly set at 10pm. The message that gets driven into their brains is clear: 'sex is fun. Abstinence is for dorks.'
In the past, the best friends of our youth are their parents. But now with the close relationships of youths exhibiting a paradigm shift from parents to their peers, it's a whole lot harder to live by your parents' sayings and warnings with regards to sexual promiscuity. Especially if your best bud happens to be bragging about how all his sexual 'conquests'.
As for me, I'll stick to what my parents said about the birds and the bees. Call me old-fashioned, but to me they hold a lot of wisdom.
And after seeing what happened to one of my buddies when he came down with gonorrhoea after a ONS, I'm convinced once and for all that abstinence till marriage is the smartest thing to do. -
I'm fairly open and liberal actually, but something like sex has to be really put into perspective, because there is always the element of risk, and the emotional burden that you will get as you go along..Originally posted by fudgester:The problem is that those ethical codes by themselves are constantly changing. 30 to 40 years ago in Singapore a couple holding hands in public was already considered as a shameless act of PDA. Now prostitutes openly soliciting customers in the streets is considered normal. At this rate, open sex by the roadside will soon be the norm.
You also can't underestimate to power of the mass media. As much parents and teachers keep telling us about the virtues of chastity and abstinence, it all counts for nuts if we have our youth watching sex scenes and blatant promiscuity on the telly set at 10pm. The message that gets driven into their brains is clear: 'sex is fun. Abstinence is for dorks.'
In the past, the best friends of our youth are their parents. But now with the close relationships of youths exhibiting a paradigm shift from parents to their peers, it's a whole lot harder to live by your parents' sayings and warnings with regards to sexual promiscuity. Especially if your best bud happens to be bragging about how all his sexual 'conquests'.
As for me, I'll stick to what my parents said about the birds and the bees. Call me old-fashioned, but to me they hold a lot of wisdom.
And after seeing what happened to one of my buddies when he came down with gonorrhoea after a ONS, I'm convinced once and for all that abstinence till marriage is the smartest thing to do.
Perhaps it's just one of those no-go areas for me. PDA is not that bad in my eyes though, but when I hear of those abortion questions, I'd really want to knock them in the head.. -
Eh, even though i'm a guy, i still gotta say this
Most guys if not all want to be their wife's 1st
But then don't u all think it's a bit selfish that u urself may not be a virgin either? -
To me, the reasons for abstinence are pretty clear:Originally posted by LazerLordz:I'm fairly open and liberal actually, but something like sex has to be really put into perspective, because there is always the element of risk, and the emotional burden that you will get as you go along..
Perhaps it's just one of those no-go areas for me. PDA is not that bad in my eyes though, but when I hear of those abortion questions, I'd really want to knock them in the head..
1. I'm not ready for a shotgun marriage. Let me get my B.Eng (Mechanical) first, please...
2. If my girl gets pregnant, it would be too much to ask her to skip one semester of school and carry the baby to term.
3. But at the same time, I find it abhorrent to be killing Fudgester Jr in his mother's womb. To me, abortion should only be an option in extreme cases where life or limb is at stake.
4. Gonorrhoea, chylamydia and herpes simplex sound ugly. And they ARE ugly.
5. My religion forbids it. Simple as that.
As it is, I already have plenty to worry about with assignments, term papers and projects going on. I certainly have better things to do than add problems 1-5 to my already-growing list of headache-inducing problems. -
I came across this quote: You can never love a woman completely unless you have slept with her.
food for thought. -
i do not trust most of the articles published... maybe some reporters/journalists just need to generate interest so they came up with some interesting topic out f no where
and i always ask: where and how did they find such a person? -
Lol, which is why u have intercourse after marriage duh, 1st the marriage vow, a symbol of love then the physical affection.Originally posted by alexkusu:I came across this quote: You can never love a woman completely unless you have slept with her.
food for thought.
If u use that reason to have sex before marriage, u're not showing that u love the woman completely, but rather u love urself completely that u wanna satisfy ur desire. -
I still remember in the past sg was soooo "bao shou" but now we seems to b more open and it's time for sg to ""own up"Originally posted by missqi:Haiyo.
This kind of thing so common liao.
Just that people refuse to face up to it, and educate youths ABOUT sex, instead of telling us to abstain. -
quite well said.Originally posted by fudgester:To me, the reasons for abstinence are pretty clear:
1. I'm not ready for a shotgun marriage. Let me get my B.Eng (Mechanical) first, please...
2. If my girl gets pregnant, it would be too much to ask her to skip one semester of school and carry the baby to term.
3. But at the same time, I find it abhorrent to be killing Fudgester Jr in his mother's womb. To me, abortion should only be an option in extreme cases where life or limb is at stake.
4. Gonorrhoea, chylamydia and herpes simplex sound ugly. And they ARE ugly.
5. My religion forbids it. Simple as that.
As it is, I already have plenty to worry about with assignments, term papers and projects going on. I certainly have better things to do than add problems 1-5 to my already-growing list of headache-inducing problems. -
Probably name changed to protect identity liao..Originally posted by ditzy:Was claire from ACJC? -
Go on, have premarital sex.
If your body doesn't suffer, your heart will. Let's see how long you can try to fill the emptiness in your soul. You will never, ever. -
*Gacky applauds fuggie*Originally posted by fudgester:To me, the reasons for abstinence are pretty clear:
1. I'm not ready for a shotgun marriage. Let me get my B.Eng (Mechanical) first, please...
2. If my girl gets pregnant, it would be too much to ask her to skip one semester of school and carry the baby to term.
3. But at the same time, I find it abhorrent to be killing Fudgester Jr in his mother's womb. To me, abortion should only be an option in extreme cases where life or limb is at stake.
4. Gonorrhoea, chylamydia and herpes simplex sound ugly. And they ARE ugly.
5. My religion forbids it. Simple as that.
As it is, I already have plenty to worry about with assignments, term papers and projects going on. I certainly have better things to do than add problems 1-5 to my already-growing list of headache-inducing problems.
Nv knew u were capable of saying such sensible things.. surprise..
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Honestly...not surprising already...just last night i was at MOMO and.....ahem...i got "contacted" left right center.....as the song goes, "girls just wanna have fun"...no strings attached..
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Times have changed
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not enuf people into BDSM. damnit.
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I am not into BDSM too
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i think we have allowed the media to define who we are
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So how can I get to know these 'open-minded' teens?
But seriously, this is nothing new. Teenagers are being exposed to sex at a much earlier age now. -
to tackle the issue of anything is not to deny or ignore it. but that seems to be the only way singaporeans tackle everything. on the surface everyone is happy, hardworking etc. underneath u see people are really very unhappy, confused, lost and disgruntled