What am i supposed to do?
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hey Samuelpsw, ther's stil hope to salvage the whole situation. most important u nid to noe if u stil wan her to b the woman in ur life, or not.
ther's some homework which u can do.. as long as she willing to go out wif u, or to communicate wif u, ther's stil chance for u. dun follow the footsteps like other guys who r wooing her, like consistently wooing her, buyin her tinks, keep buggin her etc.. they simply wun work for u since u oredi confess ur feelings for her. n the more guys who r keen in her n woo her, the least she will b interested in all tis actions, cuz to her she's oredi immune to these. wad u can do nw is, to make her feel special being wif u, bring out the gd feelings in her, n gradually do the little tinks for her or by givin her compliments abt her hair, belongings etc. v seldom guys will take the trouble to compliment on a ger, which is sumtink gers like most. if both of u hab nt known each other long enuff, try nt to make compliments on her body, it will oni turn her off. oni compliment on her body when she's oredi ur gf
keep doin the little tinks for her, let her feel she's nt alone n dat she tink of u romantically, in time she'll remove u frm the fren category. if after doin all tis for 1 mth or so, n her reactions didnt change, it's time for u to giv up n go for other gers who might b interested in u. +u -
haiz...i don koe eh..confused lor
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give me the girls number , and i will do the rest
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my advice now is that if u do not wanna lose her as a friend.... do not come on too strong.Originally posted by Samuelpsw:haiz...i don koe eh..confused lor
she's now attached.
so treat her as a friend. u can still be there for her... but do not make her feel uncomfortable by wooing her now... cos if she feels that she'll be leading you on just by hanging out with you, she'll probably start avoiding you...
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hey, she is outOriginally posted by Samuelpsw:haiz...i don koe eh..confused lor
In this harsh dating world, you have to control your own feelings. The only person you can control is you. If you are too emotionally involved with her and the results is disappointing, you will definitely be damn sad.
Instead take from a different perspective. Learn from this mistake and what it can offer. Learn not to be disappointed. All of us have expectations due to our own desires. That's why you must take a zen-like approach to r/s. Learn to be detached from the outcome until she is your gf. Also, it doesn't mean she is your gf there will be no problems. Having her as a gf doesn't mean your life will be happy. As long as she is not your gf, you have no chance at all.
Now that the result is out, have manners and just back off. Thank her for her time. Don't pester her anymore and go find your own partner again. How young are you? There's no need to feel confused. Some girls just can't feel for you.
doko -
hey thanks guys...i think this certain part of my life..which the bgr part has always been a stumbling block for me...guess i really need to overcome this in order to go for a longer route in life...
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heyOriginally posted by Samuelpsw:hey thanks guys...i think this certain part of my life..which the bgr part has always been a stumbling block for me...guess i really need to overcome this in order to go for a longer route in life...
Do not ever give up on yourself. Don't allow a single failure with one girl stop you from getting dates.
Be patient with yourself. This girl is just not into you.
You have to find someone who likes you and you also like her.
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Does it make any different from this,Originally posted by Samuelpsw:i think i like this gal, which is a friend that i know in malaysia while attending some conference...she is also staying in singapore and jus broke off with her bf 1 mth ago...and i think i like her but from wat i koe...she treats mi like a very good friend...wat am i supposed to do..and she actually asked do i have any gal that i like nw...and i also don koe how to answer her....btw..she has quite a no of suitors..
http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=216327
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haha...some sort same la..maybe facing the same prob at the same time lor..hahaOriginally posted by bryanseb:Does it make any different from this,
http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=216327
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seems like what I went through last year
(though I think I confessed 2months after meeting her instead of 1 hehe)
To the OP, there is nothing much you could do now, the ball is on her side of the court. There a few choices...
1) Accept the current situation and move on. Just be good friends with her (I know it's hard, but it's possible like me and my ex-crush) and suppress all feelings pertaining to BGR.
2) Continue the battle. This is not going to be easy, I repeat not easy at all. There will definitely be lots and lots of envy, jealousy, emotional agony. Until now I'm thinking, 'wow, how did i really survive for that period of 1year'. The amount of things I did was quite substantial but nevertheless failed (can give a detailed list if you want to hear hehe
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If you do choose this path, I have one advice for you. 'Don't think too much'