Personal Selection
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Dear All,
Please kindly take into consideration that the below scenario is for your personal brainstorming and providing constructive advice towards other viewers for which maybe in the same plight and not able to sound out for advice.
Let's say fate brings you to know this wonderful gal which you have dream all along for years. After knowing her more tru phone calls. You came to know that she is actually from a wealthy family and high education but comparing to yours you are just a average working class which may maybe earning 1.5k per month and low education.
1) With her family background will you choose to be with her till the end of life as you really thanks God bringing her to You after so many years of waiting?
2) Give her up as you will not want to make her suffer as she well brought?
3) Thanks God for the enlightenment and just be friends with her?
Please give Constructive advice only!!!
Thanks in advance. -
Be with her.
Work harder, study harder and build yourself up to be worthy of her.
The End. -
If her feelings towards you is mutual, shouldnt give her up. Like what kitty said, work harder to have a better life with her. You can also consider furthering your studies if feasible.
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i'm stuck between 1 and 2
but i think i'll choose 1. My dream is to be with her.
I'll work harder, study harder, to be with her -
I see no problem with going out with her. The important thing is your approach and your mindset. Treat her like any other girls, do you love her for what she is or who she is ?
Secondly, ppl around you and even her family may doubt you or may pass critical or cynical remarks about you - are you prepared to handle it ? I've got a fren who was in your shoes, and the gal he fancy comes from wealthy family, speaks polished English (she is local not foreign grad) and live in District 9. he finds it extremely stressful and the relationship didn't work out because of unrealistic expectations of himself and because he tried to be somebody he isn't
Its very tough but not impossible. The important thing is to get your thinking right. -
Does she mind the education level and present job of the guy at this moment?Originally posted by blu_sky:If her feelings towards you is mutual, shouldnt give her up. Like what kitty said, work harder to have a better life with her. You can also consider furthering your studies if feasible. -
Presently she dun mind as what she say..Originally posted by M©+square:Does she mind the education level and present job of the guy at this moment?
As there's too many issue had to be face like from parents and relative from her side...
Maybe.... quite hard as she is those kind of Kuai Kuai Type always listen to her parents.
May foresee more harder obastacle ... -
Originally posted by finrise:Dear All,
Please kindly take into consideration that the below scenario is for your personal brainstorming and providing constructive advice towards other viewers for which maybe in the same plight and not able to sound out for advice.
Let's say fate brings you to know this wonderful gal which you have dream all along for years. After knowing her more tru phone calls. You came to know that she is actually from a wealthy family and high education but comparing to yours you are just a average working class which may maybe earning 1.5k per month and low education.
1) With her family background will you choose to be with her till the end of life as you really thanks God bringing her to You after so many years of waiting?
2) Give her up as you will not want to make her suffer as she well brought?
3) Thanks God for the enlightenment and just be friends with her?
Please give Constructive advice only!!!
Thanks in advance.
I think it's not wise to presume that she is the girl you wanted all your life and have that fixedly mindset to be with her until you expire from this world. Furthermore, it seemed to me that your friendship is probably nothing more than mere phone calls.
If you wanna know how this will turn out to be, you probably have to start knowing her personality and start dating her before could decide your route. Even if she says she doesn't mind, usually such issues don't bother the protagonist as much; it's usually the parents.
Always remember:
Earn less - can strive to earn more
Lowly educated - can upgrade oneself.
If you condemn yourself so quickly, then it's more or less permanent until you decide to break away from your narrow point of view.
We are what we think we are.
Cheers -
education level shouldn't be a barrier.
as many forumites suggested, go for upgrading.
what happens is whether u are able to 'connect' to her, becos if your educational level is much lower, it might result in a problem in communication. but if there's no problem with the level of thinking and communications b/w u 2, i feel that you should go ahead and try!
even if she comes from a wealthy family, it doesnt certainly means that she will be more successful in life than u. dun feel inferior. we dun choose our parents and we cant decide if our family is wealthy anot. it's not ur fault, dun let it stop you!
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Before anything else, does her family mind?
If you want to think far... then the most plausible, and immediate barrier I see (presuming she's not objecting), is her family. -
1) With her family background will you choose to be with her till the end of life as you really thanks God bringing her to You after so many years of waiting?
Meeting such a person is a gift. Its a choice as to whether I want to make progress with her or not AND even if there is education or social status difference, as long as she and I are willing, we can still be together.
Frankly speaking (Consider dis comment from me as a boast and egoistic stuffs, etc, etc) I do not think I am of any inferior upbringing or status or whatever. BUT I am humble enough to acknowledge I am limited in many things.
BUT then again, have I met this person in real life yet? How well do I know her? What if she and I cannot click after realising we are flawed afterall? What if she noted I am NOT her type?
There are so many questions and obstacles stopping me from being with such a dream person, BUT I will not give up simply like that. I will work towards it, better myself in character and spirit and perhaps in status and wealth... -
Even with not rich and wealthy girl might also have to face SH|T and PROBLEMS mah... SO WHAT'S THE ISSUE HERE....??Originally posted by finrise:Presently she dun mind as what she say..
As there's too many issue had to be face like from parents and relative from her side...
Maybe.... quite hard as she is those kind of Kuai Kuai Type always listen to her parents.
May foresee more harder obastacle ...
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love knows no boundaries
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Tell that to a materialistic girl.Originally posted by buses_galore:love knows no boundaries
Oops!!!
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2.) Due to me feeling inferior. But when i become better i will chase her to the corner of the Earth
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no chance, just be friends,
honestly this will save you a lot of agony and pain and self reflection why you are so poor compared to her
just like life, live within your means -
Give up coz i dun wan to suffer later on.
LOVE TOO DEEP HURT EVEN DEEPER -
juz friendsOriginally posted by finrise:Dear All,
Please kindly take into consideration that the below scenario is for your personal brainstorming and providing constructive advice towards other viewers for which maybe in the same plight and not able to sound out for advice.
Let's say fate brings you to know this wonderful gal which you have dream all along for years. After knowing her more tru phone calls. You came to know that she is actually from a wealthy family and high education but comparing to yours you are just a average working class which may maybe earning 1.5k per month and low education.
1) With her family background will you choose to be with her till the end of life as you really thanks God bringing her to You after so many years of waiting?
2) Give her up as you will not want to make her suffer as she well brought?
3) Thanks God for the enlightenment and just be friends with her?
Please give Constructive advice only!!!
Thanks in advance.
If ur not good enuff for hear,shld juz naturally step down
yes i'll do what i juz typed -
i will die die go and marry her ( die trying )
and thank god for that ;p get her love and to carry on my genes is enough
any others is bonus -
It's hard to believe that this question even bears asking.
What have you got to lose by taking your best shot? The worst that can happen is that things won't work out, by which point you may have stepped up a little in life and gotten a bit smarter, leaving you slightly ahead of square one.
On the other hand, if you're the sort to go, "Oh no no, she's too good for me", and then spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had" like a sad sap, then you never were up to the challenge, were you?
Either way, the issue's resolved. The only question that remains is whether or not you have the spine to go for it.
I used to date the daughter of a Federal Court judge a few years back, and hell, I just walked in like I had all God-given right to be there. The trick to life is simply to skip the question of "Can this be done?" and go right to "How are we going to do it?" - the old man saw no lack of confidence in me and we got along like a house on fire.
The relationship didn't work out, but we're still friends, and better still, I've now got a mate who's a big judge. -
That's a good piece of encouragement.Originally posted by Gedanken:It's hard to believe that this question even bears asking.
What have you got to lose by taking your best shot? The worst that can happen is that things won't work out, by which point you may have stepped up a little in life and gotten a bit smarter, leaving you slightly ahead of square one.
On the other hand, if you're the sort to go, "Oh no no, she's too good for me", and then spend the rest of your life wondering "what if I had" like a sad sap, then you never were up to the challenge, were you?
Either way, the issue's resolved. The only question that remains is whether or not you have the spine to go for it.
I used to date the daughter of a Federal Court judge a few years back, and hell, I just walked in like I had all God-given right to be there. The trick to life is simply to skip the question of "Can this be done?" and go right to "How are we going to do it?" - the old man saw no lack of confidence in me and we got along like a house on fire.
The relationship didn't work out, but we're still friends, and better still, I've now got a mate who's a big judge.
Cheers -
hmmm well if the gal dont mind abt your status... aha then u can go for her... hahaha...