Out of Love
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What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility? -
wow im listening to a song about this right now!
i dunnoe man, never happened to me before. -
Hang on would be good but no sparks ah....Ho i got a idea u can try to intro different things like go special places for dinner like go to kelong or overseas trip....ho bo...Good Luck
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if ya gonna solely depend ur r/s on sparks den u gonna burn like charcoal!
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fall out of love means no more obligations
wat obligations u talking about ?
seems like thats just an excuse to cling on to the past -
hey Ito....nv happened to you, meaning you are in a r/s but nv break, or nv been in a r/s...heheOriginally posted by Ito_^:wow im listening to a song about this right now!
i dunnoe man, never happened to me before.
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no more love, stay together also no point...responsibilities is when you have kids and family to support...Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility?
in r r/s, no such thing as obligations, because both will lose out in the long future... better to break and get sad now, then to suffer in future.
most people doesnt want to get out of a r/s is because they think that its good to at least have someone to go out with on weekends, or when you are bored...or they think that they need to find someone first before breaking...
either way, is unfair to both parties. -
maybe what the author meant was u cant bear to leave the girl or the guy.. but usually its a one sided thing right.. that either the boy loves the girl and the girl got no more SPARKS or the girl loves the boy and he got no more SPARKS..
but if it was me in such situation.. i'd try to talk it out and leave.. usually sparks are gone because the relationship is boring de.
but its best not to depend on the SPARKS alone bah.. cos if u really love, then its not about the sparks..
sparks = attraction.
sparkLESS = u're no longer attracted to the girl/ guy.. more likely its just LIKING for a short period of time. -
Like you said: "with great pretence"?Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility?
I think you better cut the party loose. Don't waste time. What kind obligations and responsibility are you talking about? Unless you are married with kids or the female side is pregnant with kids.
doko -
i think in a relationship, sparks will always be gone when you reach a steady stage.
When that happens, (for some maybe 2-3 months time, some maybe up to 1 year), its time when both parties need to put in effort to maintain the relationship. A relationship does not survive on sparks alone, it survives on effort, care and concern and commitment amongst others.
When you feel that the spark is gone, it would be nice to surprise your partner with little gifts or special holidays etc. It should spice up your relationship a little, provided that both still love each other. (Of course, when both hate each other, its another story.)
Also, it is not very difficult to say "I love you" or to hold hands when watching TV or when simply slacking. Such small actions, actually to some research (Dont ask me where, I cant remember), does improve and maintain the intimacy of a relationship!
IMHO, you need effort and not just the novelty of love.
Cheers!
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Originally posted by darknessfall:hey Ito....nv happened to you, meaning you are in a r/s but nv break, or nv been in a r/s...hehe
No third party but the sparks are gone.
breaking up gt many reasons one. -
never stay on purely due to obligations and responsibility. it won't last. you won't be happy.... ande she will also not be happy...Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility?
end it before she gets even more attached -
No third party. That is good to hear.
I quote this from a book.
You Have you to love three things,
1) Each Other
2) Your Children(When you have some)
3) Your Marriage
What I mean by the last one is, there may be times that you fight, and sometimes you and Catherine won't even like each other. But those are the times that you have to love your marriage. It's like a third party. Look at your wedding photos. Look at any memories you've made. And if you believe in those memories, they will pull you back together.
So you see, I find it quite inspiring when I read that paragraph. Maybe you should do the same thing. Find ways to bloom the love even more and let your soul rushes into your partner.
Memories are everything. It's like a glue.
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since engine die, try n remember how it all started...Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility? -
What 'sparks'?Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility? -
must be mutual agreement to let goOriginally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility?
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Strike some flints to get more sparks.
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is the sex stills good, the last glue that binds them?Originally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility? -
WoundedkneeOriginally posted by woundedknee:What do you do when you fall out of love??
No third party but the sparks are gone and it is with great pretence to stay together.
Will you walk out or hang on out of obligations and responsibility?
Just to answer your question: recently I agree with the lyrics from a new song by Jeff Chang: "Ni ying gai fei de" it said in the lyrics that it's not right if one choose to be together because of the fear of breaking promise(s) and if one gives too much of what is not wanted, it is not gentleness but it is burden/burdensome.
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You cna try to remake these sparks.Show a little more concern tell her how u feel relive the part when you two first got together. If you still feel that you are forcing yourself to do it,I suppose its really time to think if love still exist between the two of you.Talk to her,work things out perhaps she is feeling the same way.Dont cheat her and most importantly dont cheat yourself if you feel that your realationship is a burden to you then its really time to put its down and move on...No use carrying on a loveless relation only makes you and her more miserable.
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Shave my head to drive away all the bad stuff that comes wif it.....
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Depends on whether u 2 have any common goal for a future together. If yes, I'll stick on and work on the r/s to rediscover the sparks....
If not, then we can still be frens..........