IS this absurd?
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many ppl said those NS guys with gf have nothing big to worry except worry of BING BIAN ( means GF change heart when her bf is in ns) .
Reasons due to it is:
(1) no time to acc HER
(2) cant share with HER saddness or happiness everyday
(3) NS guys BOTAK liao, SHE might find that he is not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer.
(4) cant stand loneliness
(5) don't understand e tireness in NS
and many more reasons ..
but my relationship is very different wor..
(1) he have no time to acc me.. i don mind.. two weeks meet once.. is ok de..
(2) he cant share with my saddness or happiness everyday but not even often..
(3) my bf is not BOTAK, i never find him not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer, So?
(4) i can stand loneliness coz i have to work almost everyday..
(5) i k understand e tireness in NS. i willing to go until that far to find him..
but do he appreicate? NO NO NO..
But i never BING BIAN le.. how would i wish i k..
but y does i just cant give up on him .. i am really very different from other gal who BING BIAN but why my bf still
like very cold towards me? take me 4 granted?
doesnt this sound absurd? -
stress it to him lor. some guys very ci duen one. they dun see problems coming until the last second and they go WTF!?
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Perhaps he is one of those kind of people who are very relaxed towards the relationship. Can you give examples of being cold to you?Originally posted by Amber20:many ppl said those NS guys with gf have nothing big to worry except worry of BING BIAN ( means GF change heart when her bf is in ns) .
Reasons due to it is:
(1) no time to acc HER
(2) cant share with HER saddness or happiness everyday
(3) NS guys BOTAK liao, SHE might find that he is not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer.
(4) cant stand loneliness
(5) don't understand e tireness in NS
and many more reasons ..
but my relationship is very different wor..
(1) he have no time to acc me.. i don mind.. two weeks meet once.. is ok de..
(2) he cant share with my saddness or happiness everyday but not even often..
(3) my bf is not BOTAK, i never find him not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer, So?
(4) i can stand loneliness coz i have to work almost everyday..
(5) i k understand e tireness in NS. i willing to go until that far to find him..
but do he appreicate? NO NO NO..
But i never BING BIAN le.. how would i wish i k..
but y does i just cant give up on him .. i am really very different from other gal who BING BIAN but why my bf still
like very cold towards me? take me 4 granted?
doesnt this sound absurd?
doko -
(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me.. -
when he need you, he will go and find you. when does he need you? and wat do you guys do? how often does he find you?Originally posted by Amber20:(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me.. -
erm how i wish i had a nice gf who has this kind of character
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he need me when his frenz not free to meet him ba..Originally posted by blu_sky:when he need you, he will go and find you. when does he need you? and wat do you guys do? how often does he find you?
he does not find.. he will want to meet me.. maybe meet at his house near by..
we meet once in two weeks time.. -
u know it is absurb so just dump him
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hmmm, maybe he change liao ba. In army, not only girls change, guys will also change. For my case, is not i change, is my ex changed. so sad loh. this type of guy, dump him for your own good.
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Originally posted by Amber20:
What the hell do u expect him to do? I'm sure inside he must be pissed... maybe he even think u are going to do ur 'bing bian'.
(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me.. -
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let pierre^^ intro u some of the nice guys in this forum
let me think ...
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hw abt Tamago? -
(1) two day sms not enough? At least he still msged you? He probably did not do it to other girls? But since you are the girlfriend he msg you. What do you want him to msg? It's not manly for a guy to get mushy you know.Originally posted by Amber20:(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me..
(2)never care for you? Please explain.
(3)Just wait for him to contact you to meet him. You are a bit on the sensitive? Or better still, why don't you ask him to meet you? Call him.
(4) At least, he never gets jealous. What do you expect him to do? Cage you?
(5) Worry for him? He is probably busy in NS. Has time to reply you? What do you have to worry over him here? Everyday worry over him? You are giving yourself unnecessary pressure here. Relax ok?
(6) Don't say until like he doesn't care for you. If that is true, perhaps you rushed into the relationship in this case. He needs to have a life outside you know.
In conclusion, I don't think this guy has done anything wrong. Maybe you think too much? He is still going out with you. Your life don't just revolve around this guy also.
doko -
yeah exactly...he might have felt squeezed.Originally posted by mayday80:What the hell do u expect him to do? I'm sure inside he must be pissed... maybe he even think u are going to do ur 'bing bian'.
doko -
True and trueOriginally posted by dokono:(1) two day sms not enough? At least he still msged you? He probably did not do it to other girls? But since you are the girlfriend he msg you. What do you want him to msg? It's not manly for a guy to get mushy you know.
(2)never care for you? Please explain.
(3)Just wait for him to contact you to meet him. You are a bit on the sensitive? Or better still, why don't you ask him to meet you? Call him.
(4) At least, he never gets jealous. What do you expect him to do? Cage you?
(5) Worry for him? He is probably busy in NS. Has time to reply you? What do you have to worry over him here? Everyday worry over him? You are giving yourself unnecessary pressure here. Relax ok?
(6) Don't say until like he doesn't care for you. If that is true, perhaps you rushed into the relationship in this case. He needs to have a life outside you know.
In conclusion, I don't think this guy has done anything wrong. Maybe you think too much? He is still going out with you. Your life don't just revolve around this guy also.
doko
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Can pm me.
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1) you mean he never sms you at all, or sms you just once?Originally posted by Amber20:(1) k two day reply or sms me once..
(2) never care for me..
(3) never say he wan to meet me..
(4)tell him this guy and tat guy wan to woo me,
he don care..
(5) tell him i worry for him, he still never reply..
(6) when he need me, he will come and find me.
when he don need me, he will just don care about me..
either way, i find it unacceptable
3) persistant 'syndrome'?
4) is he usually passive, and shy that kind? -
Amber20... think you should just let him do what he want lor... One thing I don't understand... you mean he started to behave differently once he start to serve his NS? He no longer behaves like he was last time?
At this age, I think both of you are still changing... Will be good if you have the space to explore and understand what you really want from a man... If all you need is attention, perhaps, you should directly let him know wat you want... Guys don't like to guess... and don't assume they should know... cos they don't.
But that doesn't mean he don't love you.... I'd suggest you have a good talk with him... don't jump into baseless conclusions...
All the best yeah? -
Girls should serve NS, and they will understand
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what is ur is ur .....
what is not ur is not ur...
it will come back on the own if it is ur...
"dot dot" worry so much also not used... think so much waste energy... think of other things... -
since u feeling tis then tell him lo...Originally posted by Amber20:many ppl said those NS guys with gf have nothing big to worry except worry of BING BIAN ( means GF change heart when her bf is in ns) .
Reasons due to it is:
(1) no time to acc HER
(2) cant share with HER saddness or happiness everyday
(3) NS guys BOTAK liao, SHE might find that he is not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer.
(4) cant stand loneliness
(5) don't understand e tireness in NS
and many more reasons ..
but my relationship is very different wor..
(1) he have no time to acc me.. i don mind.. two weeks meet once.. is ok de..
(2) he cant share with my saddness or happiness everyday but not even often..
(3) my bf is not BOTAK, i never find him not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer, So?
(4) i can stand loneliness coz i have to work almost everyday..
(5) i k understand e tireness in NS. i willing to go until that far to find him..
but do he appreicate? NO NO NO..
But i never BING BIAN le.. how would i wish i k..
but y does i just cant give up on him .. i am really very different from other gal who BING BIAN but why my bf still
like very cold towards me? take me 4 granted?
doesnt this sound absurd? -
[quote]Originally posted by BrUtUs:
Originally posted by Amber20:
many ppl said those NS guys with gf have nothing big to worry except worry of BING BIAN ( means GF change heart when her bf is in ns) .
Reasons due to it is:
(1) no time to acc HER
(2) cant share with HER saddness or happiness everyday
(3) NS guys BOTAK liao, SHE might find that he is not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer.
(4) cant stand loneliness
(5) don't understand e tireness in NS
and many more reasons ..
but my relationship is very different wor..
(1) he have no time to acc me.. i don mind.. two weeks meet once.. is ok de..
(2) he cant share with my saddness or happiness everyday but not even often..
(3) my bf is not BOTAK, i never find him not attractive anymore..
OTHER look nicer, So?
(4) i can stand loneliness coz i have to work almost everyday..
(5) i k understand e tireness in NS. i willing to go until that far to find him..
but do he appreicate? NO NO NO..
But i never BING BIAN le.. how would i wish i k..
but y does i just cant give up on him .. i am really very different from other gal who BING BIAN but why my bf still
like very cold towards me? take me 4 granted?
doesnt this sound absurd?
since u feeling tis then tell him lo...
In red: You sound like you are contradicting yourself here.
He cannot accompany you and you don't mind. Then later you contradict yourself by complaining that he did not share happiness with you. What are you talking about? He also has his problems too. He also can't share NS with you, can he?
Then you say you can stand loneliness and you understand his NS transition period but you are still feeling that lack of lovingness from him. You contradict yourself by saying that you can stand loneliness and you still want to meet him. Truth is, you aren't. Lots of confusing language here. What about you showing your lovingness by not demanding too much ? Aren't you contradicting yourself here? You know his problems but you are complaining. Are you being understanding?
Haha...Im not trying to scold you or anything. Give him room to relax and adjust into NS life.
OK?
doko -
What she's saying is, she did her part. She has walked this much.
Now she's waiting for him to do his part.
Without communicating properly......this is the only contridiction i see.
The rest of her words are heartfelt. Not much logic, more of saying what's within.
Cheers -
tell him nicely but don't hurt his feelings...
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if the guy is in bmt or ptp, cut him some slack la... i had some shitty times in my bmt... very low morale. Maybe he needs u more than u need him. Plus he may be suffering from low morale + low self esteem with his botak head.
If u r a nice gf as u said... just be there for him for these months. If u 'bing bian' then I have nothing to say. -
break up with him and make a new bf in your university.