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i have a very good guy friend/ colleague whom i confide to him in almost everything, not even to my bf cos we are always busy. i enjoyed his company very much. sometimes i would prefer to go out with him rather than with my bf.. he is not attached, i afraid he may get the wong idea, and worse lose him as a friend...
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A good friend may not be a good lover.
Anyway, yes, you are quite thoughtless lah. -
A few questions here:Originally posted by jacqn:i have a very good guy friend/ colleague whom i confide to him in almost everything, not even to my bf cos we are always busy. i enjoyed his company very much. sometimes i would prefer to go out with him rather than with my bf.. he is not attached, i afraid he may get the wong idea, and worse lose him as a friend...
am i being thoughtless for my bf?
How often do you meet your boyfriend? And why do you feel you'd rather go out with your colleague instead? Are you getting tired of your boyfriend? You don't want him to get the wrong idea for the sake of being loyal or because you love your boyfriend? Are you afraid of losing him as a friend or losing the chance to confide in him?
I apologise for being too direct.
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Go out only wad. I have a girl friend whom is attach and she always confide in me and go out together. but tat doesnt mean she likes me... even though we use words like i love u or i miss u kind of thing..
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y dun u jz take him as ur bf instead?Originally posted by jacqn:i have a very good guy friend/ colleague whom i confide to him in almost everything, not even to my bf cos we are always busy. i enjoyed his company very much. sometimes i would prefer to go out with him rather than with my bf.. he is not attached, i afraid he may get the wong idea, and worse lose him as a friend...
am i being thoughtless for my bf?
but seriously, wats ur bf for anyway? y u even end up with him when u can talk things with?
yes it might give wrong idea but its how u put the stops to prevent such thing from happening... -
bf is for sex.
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it seems your bf is not fulfilling a woman's basic need - the need to communicate. not healthy woah..... maybe you should explore the possiblity of communicating more with your boy?
my personal opinion is that boys r generally "blur" when it comes to satisfying a gal's need to communicate. so gals just have to "pro-communication" a bit
btw, have u tried telling ur boy abt your fren? that might just make him jump so he pays more attention to you
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Does ur best friend know u are attach?? If no, i strongly suggest that u tell him as not to get his hope soo high just to pull it down later...
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He does know u got a bf, right?
Anyway, not everything can be told to your boyfriend. So don't feel guilty -
yeah i know what u meanOriginally posted by mhcampboy:Go out only wad. I have a girl friend whom is attach and she always confide in me and go out together. but tat doesnt mean she likes me... even though we use words like i love u or i miss u kind of thing..
even thou TS really need to see where she is in this situation given the replies -
the warning signs are all there, and you can read it yourselfOriginally posted by jacqn:i have a very good guy friend/ colleague whom i confide to him in almost everything, not even to my bf cos we are always busy. i enjoyed his company very much. sometimes i would prefer to go out with him rather than with my bf.. he is not attached, i afraid he may get the wong idea, and worse lose him as a friend...
am i being thoughtless for my bf? -
ya.
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dude, tht are words used between gf/gf, or bf/gfOriginally posted by mhcampboy:Go out only wad. I have a girl friend whom is attach and she always confide in me and go out together. but tat doesnt mean she likes me... even though we use words like i love u or i miss u kind of thing.. -
"miss" is fine... but "love"? Personally, I cant accept it.Originally posted by Space1999:dude, tht are words used between gf/gf, or bf/gf
Anyway, TS. I guess you yourself is confused. You dont really need us to explain anything to you. You know exactly how you feel.
I got this feeling that you are asking, hoping that we will say its ok so that it will lessen your guilt. No offence.
Both the gf and bf have to be pro active. Since he isnt, you can do it, and ask him to do it next time. No communication at all is not going to help.
Anyway, if you are really confused, post again and all the kind people here will try to see how we can advise you accordingly.
JMHO
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I have a girl buddy who tells me frequently that she loves me, but that doesn't really mean the BGR type of love. It all depends on the individual, and how he/she interprets it. Besides, out-going people tend to say I love you more easily, and its usually those that has low self-esteem or more traditional in outlook that will mis-interpret it.
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hmm l tink u are going over the line liao...
Do ensure that u noe how to control ur emotion well and draw a distance between a friend and ur bf... -
very misleading.. will cause problems in the future, for her.Originally posted by mhcampboy:Go out only wad. I have a girl friend whom is attach and she always confide in me and go out together. but tat doesnt mean she likes me... even though we use words like i love u or i miss u kind of thing.. -
would you like it if the ur bf does the same to you??
i guess its ok to be close to someone of the oppo sex.. but to the extend that you prefer to hang out with him Over your bf?? thats somethg u need to think abt.. -
I think it's alright... we are living in a society which is so uptight about boy-girl! Just be sure your bf knows you are hanging out with the other friend then everything's all good.Originally posted by jacqn:i have a very good guy friend/ colleague whom i confide to him in almost everything, not even to my bf cos we are always busy. i enjoyed his company very much. sometimes i would prefer to go out with him rather than with my bf.. he is not attached, i afraid he may get the wong idea, and worse lose him as a friend...
am i being thoughtless for my bf?
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not if you have limp wristsOriginally posted by Space1999:dude, tht are words used between gf/gf, or bf/gf