Serious problem developing =(

• kelviz

  11 Dec 06, 22:07

  Need some advice here bros / sis haha you've been a great help in the past and I know you guys will always reply.
  
  Here goes,
  Met this girl at the club two weeks ago and we have been smsing each other and meeting up often. Last two days i confess to her that I was sort of liking her etc standard stuff. But some what I feel she does response, however she is like playing around with me as in she says she misses me etc but doesn't show it. So what should I do, should i stop contacting her althought it's hard or what? I'm afraid I might fall into her trap, she is however very honest with me and really opens her heart to me when we meet but after that she kinda ignore me and after awhile she seems to want to meet me again. Hmmmm confusing huh?? pls advice me on what i should do, i really dun wan to fall in love with the wrong person and get hurt again like e past. . . . =) thanks alot bros here
• d3sT1nY

  11 Dec 06, 22:10

  You like her yet you dont trust her..?
• kelviz

  11 Dec 06, 22:11

  Nono it's not about trust bro. it's about falling for e wrong person =)
• charlize

  11 Dec 06, 22:11

  Fall into her trap?
  
  Which drama is this now?
  
  
• lolxzxz

  11 Dec 06, 22:14

  Originally posted by charlize:

  Fall into her trap?
  
  Which drama is this now?
  
  

  i dun think drama leh i think killer movie
• kelviz

  11 Dec 06, 22:14

  Haha its not a drama la as in have u really really gotten like so in love with someone and later she make use of u like for money etC how to really see whether its true or not ??
• d3sT1nY

  11 Dec 06, 22:16

  But still you sound as though you can choose to love her or not..
  
  And should it be a wrong relation.. Let the lesson be learnt then.. You cant say this person might not be true in the relationship that's why you back out at the beginning..
  
  What if forumers here say you should back out to prevent you from hurting yourself when actually she does have real feelings for you..?
  
  Just some of my views..
• d3sT1nY

  11 Dec 06, 22:17

  Originally posted by lolxzxz:

  i dun think drama leh i think killer movie

  Spy movie..
• charlize

  11 Dec 06, 22:18

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  Haha its not a drama la as in have u really really gotten like so in love with someone and later she make use of u like for money etC how to really see whether its true or not ??

  No money, no honey.
  
  That's the sad fact of life.
  
  
• kelviz

  11 Dec 06, 22:19

  lol sometimes no money got honey thats e beauty ma hahaha nuts man actually its kinda confusing getting mixed up with your own feelings sometimes
• Bontakun

  11 Dec 06, 22:19

  You know her for 2 weeks only? Invest more time to understand her better.
• charlize

  11 Dec 06, 22:20

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  You know her for 2 weeks only? Invest more time to understand her better.

  Yeah.
  
  Invest more time and money on her.
  
  Then you will know more about her.
  
  
• fudgester

  11 Dec 06, 22:22

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  Haha its not a drama la as in have u really really gotten like so in love with someone and later she make use of u like for money etC how to really see whether its true or not ??

  Ask yourself this:
  
  Why do you like her when part of you doesn't trust her?
  
  Trust has to be present for a friendship to work... what more with a relationship.
  
  If I mistrust the girl of my dreams, thinking that she might just be after my money, then she's not the girl of my dreams at all. The same goes for you. If you don't trust her, she's not the one for you.
  
  Besides, you know her for all of two weeks. Kinda brief amount of time, no? I'll bet that you don't know 90% of what she's like.
  
  My advice? Get to know her better first.
• kelviz

  11 Dec 06, 22:23

  haha thanks for your quick reply actually should like time tell huh?? after my last relationship i have a hard time trusting people hmmm kinda bad huH?
• fudgester

  11 Dec 06, 22:26

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  haha thanks for your quick reply actually should like time tell huh?? after my last relationship i have a hard time trusting people hmmm kinda bad huH?

  Then you need to get back to being more trusting.
  
  Until then, you're not ready for a new relationship. Otherwise, you'll both end up hurt. Trust has to be absolutely present for a relationship to work.
  
  Develop your trust, of course... but don't let it degrade to naivety.
• d3sT1nY

  11 Dec 06, 22:26

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  haha thanks for your quick reply actually should like time tell huh?? after my last relationship i have a hard time trusting people hmmm kinda bad huH?

  Yalor..
• lolxzxz

  11 Dec 06, 22:38

  Originally posted by d3sT1nY:

  Spy movie..

  i like da way u describe
• ifish

  11 Dec 06, 23:01

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  Need some advice here bros / sis haha you've been a great help in the past and I know you guys will always reply.
  
  Here goes,
  Met this girl at the club two weeks ago and we have been smsing each other and meeting up often. Last two days i confess to her that I was sort of liking her etc standard stuff. But some what I feel she does response, however she is like playing around with me as in she says she misses me etc but doesn't show it. So what should I do, should i stop contacting her althought it's hard or what? I'm afraid I might fall into her trap, she is however very honest with me and really opens her heart to me when we meet but after that she kinda ignore me and after awhile she seems to want to meet me again. Hmmmm confusing huh?? pls advice me on what i should do, i really dun wan to fall in love with the wrong person and get hurt again like e past. . . . =) thanks alot bros here

  let me get this right first.
  
  you meet this girl, you like the girl, you confess to the girl..
  
  the girl say it but not from the heart. right?
  
  the one in blue happen in 2 days?
  
• lonestar86

  11 Dec 06, 23:06

  Originally posted by d3sT1nY:

  You like her yet you dont trust her..?

  Can human be trusted in the 1st place??
• ifish

  11 Dec 06, 23:19

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  Can human be trusted in the 1st place??

  yes they can
• lonestar86

  11 Dec 06, 23:20

  Originally posted by ifish:

  yes they can

  but not all..
• jsubaru

  11 Dec 06, 23:26

  Invest more time and money on her.
  
  Then stop doing that for awhile.
  
  Then you will know more about her true colour.
  
• darknessfall

  11 Dec 06, 23:53

  oh...i am not sterotyping any person....
  but given the scenario that you met her in a club, probably she just wana have some fun? gals and guys alike..they all think people who goes clubbing are mostly(not all) out for some fun...
  
  frankly speaking, never really get too serious with a person you just met, till you know him/her better....
  
  one more thing..heard before "play hard to get" ?
• isosceles

  12 Dec 06, 01:10

  Its only 2 weeks.. there is plenty of time to know each other better before pledging your love ..
  
  Get to know her more.. dun end the relationship with
  
  " our character is very different "
  
  or
  
  " I find our character clash.. "
  
  " We started too fast "
• FBI

  12 Dec 06, 01:45

  Originally posted by kelviz:

  Need some advice here bros / sis haha you've been a great help in the past and I know you guys will always reply.
  
  Here goes,
  Met this girl at the club two weeks ago and we have been smsing each other and meeting up often. Last two days i confess to her that I was sort of liking her etc standard stuff. But some what I feel she does response, however she is like playing around with me as in she says she misses me etc but doesn't show it. So what should I do, should i stop contacting her althought it's hard or what? I'm afraid I might fall into her trap, she is however very honest with me and really opens her heart to me when we meet but after that she kinda ignore me and after awhile she seems to want to meet me again. Hmmmm confusing huh?? pls advice me on what i should do, i really dun wan to fall in love with the wrong person and get hurt again like e past. . . . =) thanks alot bros here

  she jus playing ard, whether she is real or not i dunno.
  
  try to play ard with her too and see wat happens.
  
  don put in too much feeling into this