Parents and Children's Privacy
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Suppose your father has a good friend who says s/he needs to get in touch with you for some reason. However, you don't know that person at all. If in this circumstance your father gives your contact details (email, phone number) to that friend of his, without asking for your permission first, how would you feel?
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your father's friend want to get in touch with you?
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Parent's right usually overule any privacy and what not's children may have.
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insist on not picking up any calls or replying any e-mail.
Tt fella might mao2 shou3 mao2 jiao3 with you...
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No!
Father > father's friend.
just tell ur dad. -
if my good friend wants to get in touch with my child, i would insist on knowing the purpose. if i approve the reason, i would be the one to tell or arrange that contact.
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it really depends on whats it for.
if its for business or to get some help with procedures etc its fine though informing is a must. afterall its only a number and you can always say no.
if its like insurance/sales etc then no. -
It was for a very innocuous reason, basically to ask for my advice on something that I have some expertise on.Originally posted by hisoka:it really depends on whats it for.
if its for business or to get some help with procedures etc its fine though informing is a must. afterall its only a number and you can always say no.
if its like insurance/sales etc then no. -
well if its nothing much and not much bother i would say its ok to give the phone number. after all its only a phone number although i would expect a call or telling me that his friend would call.Originally posted by dreameryb:It was for a very innocuous reason, basically to ask for my advice on something that I have some expertise on.
if it requires more work then i would say they need to get your permission, just a call asking questions for 5 mins which are no bother i feel no permission needed but informing just to prevent you from getting suspicious or whatever. -
i'll answer his calls and see what he's up to lor.
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den i will slam down the phone after answering finish.Originally posted by browniebaobao:i'll answer his calls and see what he's up to lor.
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Well if its that's the case, then just be a darling and give that poor man a hand. That's what friends are for isn't it? Your father is his friend's savior for having a son like you who's the expert in that area!Originally posted by dreameryb:It was for a very innocuous reason, basically to ask for my advice on something that I have some expertise on.
On another hand, maybe you can use this case as a lead-in to explain to your father that you would appreciate he get his friend's contact and pass it to you to call instead of giving away yours, since you don't seem to feel comfortable about it (from your first post)
His friend will have his questions answered, you have the control of when to call, and you keep your privacy. Win-win!
If this is a first case, probably your dad didn't know about your preference. Communicate to him and let him see the reason.
I did that with my mom too, and from then on she won't give my mobile away or agree to do something for her friends on my behalf without asking me first.
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I think different people might hold a different level of 'privacy' for his / her own contact(s)... If you're not interested or even comfortable with that person, you can always choose not to entertain that person? You can even let your dad knows you're not comfortable with what he's doing.Originally posted by dreameryb:It was for a very innocuous reason, basically to ask for my advice on something that I have some expertise on.