perplexed. what am i to her.

• thousandisland

  15 Dec 06, 04:11

  i just came back from an overseas community service trip to cebu, philippines. during this trip, i got to know this girl amongst many others. i dont know why but as the days (11 in total) i came to like her. she has a way with children and is really a kind girl and sporty too.
  
  we had a few private moments tgt like short sightseeing arnd our sites and she referring injured children while i treat their wounds. she's one of the few girls that i met that also like to eat haha and we shared food every now and then during the trip.
  
  then there was one night. we drank some beer over dinner and she got drunk. the other guys teased her and asked whether she like various guys. she said no for all then when asked about me, she said 'i don't tell you, i'll tell (my name) later' then i helped her back to the van and she said i am good bf material and im nice.
  
  the next day we had r&r and we played jetski tgt. so i was behind her like on a motorcycle and i prompted her about what she said that night when she was drunk but she said she couldnt rmb.
  
  should i make my feelings known to her? should i take what she said in a drunken stupor to be the truth? sigh
• the_fallen

  15 Dec 06, 04:37

  well, too fast into this might not be good, since you prompted her, she didnt pick the hint, than just carry on as usual, date her out to eat and hang out more. when the feeling and atmosphere + chemistry is correct, than you say.
  
  don't rush into things.
  
  if not you will scare the lady off.
• FireIce

  15 Dec 06, 06:51

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  she's one of the few girls that i met that also like to eat haha and we shared food every now and then during the trip.
  

  wat is haha? where got sell?
• thousandisland

  15 Dec 06, 11:13

  sigh the problem is i'm alw v passive when it comes to relationship, same goes to that with a previous classmate of mine.
• fudgester

  15 Dec 06, 11:25

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  sigh the problem is i'm alw v passive when it comes to relationship, same goes to that with a previous classmate of mine.

  Well, if you think that you've got a chance with this girl, then I say go for it. No point keeping silent and regretting it later.
  
  Just don't take things too fast and too furious. Gradually get to know her better first by talking to her on the phone and asking her out.
• mayday80

  15 Dec 06, 11:27

  please... gan gan ask... boys can't be shy. Ask her out or something... hang out a bit, date a bit.
• choco B

  15 Dec 06, 11:29

  You snooze, you lose!
  

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  sigh the problem is i'm alw v passive when it comes to relationship, same goes to that with a previous classmate of mine.

• R3SsH|n

  15 Dec 06, 11:30

  u still get to see her frequently after your service trip?
• the_don

  15 Dec 06, 11:31

  the gal sg or not?
• sillyme

  15 Dec 06, 11:38

  I met my girlfriend at a dive trip. If I had left things as it is, we won't be getting married next year.
  
  Do not ask what you are to her. Be active and be something to her.
• Ito_^

  15 Dec 06, 11:39

  the last trip i went some ppl oso lidat.. machiam going for matchmaking trip. sibei buey tahan.
• the_don

  15 Dec 06, 11:42

  haha ya i noticed a common trend to "find galfren/boyfrens" during trips/camps. makes me wanna run away and go backpacking myself
• thousandisland

  15 Dec 06, 11:52

  im in ns now. she's taking her a's next year. okay then i'll go all out alr
• R3SsH|n

  15 Dec 06, 12:01

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  im in ns now. she's taking her a's next year. okay then i'll go all out alr

  she jc ar?
  not to be "tam" blanket, but jc A level very important wan. later no time to date. then you will probably quarrel with her more often. plus u ns cannot book out.later she run away with another man behind your backs. you know la..girls...especially those kind. boyfriend not around means he doesn't exist. flirt with other guys first.
  
  wait...as i finished typing that out.i was wondering. are you a jc student too?
• thousandisland

  15 Dec 06, 12:09

  was
• R3SsH|n

  15 Dec 06, 12:17

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  was

  damn..can i take back my advice?
• Devil1976

  15 Dec 06, 13:06

  Originally posted by thousandisland:

  sigh the problem is i'm alw v passive when it comes to relationship, same goes to that with a previous classmate of mine.

  Pretend to get drunk and tell her that you love her?
• thousandisland

  15 Dec 06, 13:13

  lol you think tit for tat?
• Space1999

  15 Dec 06, 13:14

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Pretend to get drunk and tell her that you love her?

  good idea as long as you dont take off your pants and get naked =)
• blu_sky

  15 Dec 06, 18:12

  Originally posted by Space1999:

  good idea as long as you dont take off your pants and get naked =)

  LOL! Stop quoting that example all the time!
• Darkness_hacker99

  15 Dec 06, 18:16

  Originally posted by Space1999:

  good idea as long as you dont take off your pants and get naked =)

  x10
• manyu882

  15 Dec 06, 22:36

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  x10

  x2.5
• Sheepophile

  15 Dec 06, 22:42

  huh? jc tork about drunk? my gawd underage leh.
• R3SsH|n

  18 Dec 06, 13:50

  Originally posted by Sheepophile:

  huh? jc tork about drunk? my gawd underage leh.

  well..you know la..act adult and everythng...