Life is so easy, it's meaningless.
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You christian?Originally posted by LetterboxMind:What about God. Sometimes emptiness can be easily filled by believing in God. -
pls. no.Originally posted by LetterboxMind:What about God. Sometimes emptiness can be easily filled by believing in God. -
compared to the rest of the peers your age, you already is very outstanding in terms of being sensible and wanting to work rather than the others who just wants to play.Originally posted by suss.adele:i think i'll start with alliance francais...
anyway, lol, im not that sensible la. i might seem sensible in this area but you know... everyone has a little immaturity in them somewhere =)
thx for the advice btw
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who knows? maybe it's only a moment of impulse... den like quit veri fast 1
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Hey Adele (i'm assuming thats your name).
Dont worry, i guess we've all gone through the "what's the meaning of life" cum "i wish i knew what i'm here for" phase, but everyone gets through it.
"working" doesnt help you find peace of mind. It just distracts you from thinking about the more important things (like what you REALLY want to do when you're done with school/uni, what your life plans will be). I'm not saying its time for you to think about it, i'm just saying it's normal to be unsure.
All this time on your hands is a great opportunity to go explore what your strengths are. I think i was in a much worst position than you were when i was your age. I got kicked out of Cat.High then ACS(Br) and was basically not doing a thing until i found photography. It took me a long while to find it - 4 years in fact , but i love what i do now.
Well hope i was a little bit of help. Cheer up, we all go through it so you're not alone. =)
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Whoops just read a post about you wanting to do Fashion Design. I've got a couple of friends who are really interested in that. I've gotten my friend a job (low paying though) with my Aunt Tina Tan Leo (You'd know her if you were in the singapore fashion scene). She's been telling him to keep sketching ideas that come to his head whenever possible. Just an idea though. -
I think the threadstarter has found the solution to her problem.
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Maybe you can find hobbies yourself ? Like drawing , cooking , etc . Then , you can request your dad to allow you to take lessons about the subjects you're keen in , that could kill some time and also you can learn more about things you're interested in and you can apply some of the skills to your future jobs
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So u are saying Been there Done that? Actually not working doesn't mean you are useless. Ur friends are working is because they are in need of money to shop n support themselves, since their parents cant support their expenditures. U need not work because your parents can support ur expenditures, which is a good thing.Originally posted by suss.adele:I'm 16.
Having my post-O'level holidays now; not working.
I come from a family of 5- 2 older bros and I'm the youngest girl. Sometimes I think things come too easily for me. It's like, I want what, I get what.
I don't need a job 'cos my Dad isn't keen on the idea. Last year I tried to get a job but he said "I'll pay you double of what you'll be getting there".
The thing is... Whenever I see my friends working (most of them are), I feel quite useless. I mean, they have that ability to earn their own $ and don't have to depend on parents, and most of them come from families that aren't as blessed, and maybe facing financial difficulties, but they are still able to overcome all this, including the stress etc! And me? I'm their age, good family/environment/no problems but I feel like I'm not as capable as them.
Sometimes I wonder what's the meaning of life. It's like so pointless. I feel like the people around me have something to live for. They wake up in the morning and have to work/go for a meeting/plan a presentation etc. But me? I wake up in the morning, sit up on my bed and think, "What should I do today?" Shopping? Did that yesterday. Go for some fine dining? Did that yesterday too (you get what I mean).
All these was fun at first but as the days pass the novelty of it all wears off. I feel like a sloth, I lack the drive.
What are my goals...
My ambitions...
I feel rather useless...
Also you needn't worry about being useless. Im the same as age as you, yet im not working and didn't feel that im useless. I only feel that im wasting my own time. You can always realise ur talents when u get older and is time to work and start a family. If you feel that you aren't as capable as them, prove urself that u are not. Try getting good results in ur studies. That's also a good way that you are capable in some ways they dont.
Im not too sure about drive. I get it naturally. Maybe you want to try something different? Say doing something u have never done b4?
Regarding ambitions. Try getting urself inspired by someone u really admire. I did that before. I inspire to be a mechanical engineer that designs all sorts of technical stuffs, after i was inspired by them after watching them how they construct things and how amazing it was to build things and realise ur talent. That's my ambition. And i wish you luck in finding ur own ambition.
Also, be proud of urself. Dont feel useless or what ever sh*t. This makes u unhealthy n moody.Try doing something that makes you proud of, say getting good results as above, naturally u will smile and will strive to do better.
Good luck!
God bless u....
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yup, i am.Originally posted by Bontakun:You christian? -
thank you for the advice... (all the rest of you too)Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:So u are saying Been there Done that? Actually not working doesn't mean you are useless. Ur friends are working is because they are in need of money to shop n support themselves, since their parents cant support their expenditures. U need not work because your parents can support ur expenditures, which is a good thing. Also you needn't worry about being useless. Im the same as age as you, yet im not working and didn't feel that im useless. I only feel that im wasting my own time. You can always realise ur talents when u get older and is time to work and start a family. If you feel that you aren't as capable as them, prove urself that u are not. Try getting good results in ur studies. That's also a good way that you are capable in some ways they dont.
Im not too sure about drive. I get it naturally. Maybe you want to try something different? Say doing something u have never done b4?
Regarding ambitions. Try getting urself inspired by someone u really admire. I did that before. I inspire to be a mechanical engineer that designs all sorts of technical stuffs, after i was inspired by them after watching them how they construct things and how amazing it was to build things and realise ur talent. That's my ambition. And i wish you luck in finding ur own ambition.
Also, be proud of urself. Dont feel useless or what ever sh*t. This makes u unhealthy n moody.Try doing something that makes you proud of, say getting good results as above, naturally u will smile and will strive to do better.
Good luck!
God bless u....
*Scania N113CRB luver*
i'm current working at SHRI as a temp. admin staff (till end feb. nxt year), which is much better than staying at home and doing nothing
realised some important things through the advice form all of you (glad i did), and i've come to a self-realization that actually... i already had an ambition, but along the road somewhere, i encountered some problems (usual teenage bgr probs...what else... ) and was thrown off track. so you can say i'm sort of steering myself back to the right direction now.
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Wish me luck
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You welcome!!!!Originally posted by suss.adele:thank you for the advice... (all the rest of you too)
i'm current working at SHRI as a temp. admin staff (till end feb. nxt year), which is much better than staying at home and doing nothing
realised some important things through the advice form all of you (glad i did), and i've come to a self-realization that actually... i already had an ambition, but along the road somewhere, i encountered some problems (usual teenage bgr probs...what else... ) and was thrown off track. so you can say i'm sort of steering myself back to the right direction now.
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Wish me luck Yea, its better than stayin at home do nth, unlike me, now so useless... Wah.. BGR probs can throw you off your ambition?? So power arh? Me BGR probs didn't even affect my ambition leh. Btw good luck!
Oh yes, you got friendster?
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I feel like suicide myself. Despair and Depressed. What can I say, at least your dad loves and protects you, abit too much. You only need to take small slow steps to show him you can survive on your own. Me, I wish to end my life and hope my insurance payout is good so that my husband can enjoy swimming in the money from my death. Then he can get a girl who likes to spend money aimlessly and enjoy herself and make my ex-husband happy as well.
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yup. www.friendster.com/adelezzzOriginally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:You welcome!!!! Yea, its better than stayin at home do nth, unlike me, now so useless... Wah.. BGR probs can throw you off your ambition?? So power arh? Me BGR probs didn't even affect my ambition leh. Btw good luck!
Oh yes, you got friendster?
GOOD LUCK!!!! x10 -
dun worry..Originally posted by suss.adele:I'm 16.
Having my post-O'level holidays now; not working.
I come from a family of 5- 2 older bros and I'm the youngest girl. Sometimes I think things come too easily for me. It's like, I want what, I get what.
I don't need a job 'cos my Dad isn't keen on the idea. Last year I tried to get a job but he said "I'll pay you double of what you'll be getting there".
The thing is... Whenever I see my friends working (most of them are), I feel quite useless. I mean, they have that ability to earn their own $ and don't have to depend on parents, and most of them come from families that aren't as blessed, and maybe facing financial difficulties, but they are still able to overcome all this, including the stress etc! And me? I'm their age, good family/environment/no problems but I feel like I'm not as capable as them.
Sometimes I wonder what's the meaning of life. It's like so pointless. I feel like the people around me have something to live for. They wake up in the morning and have to work/go for a meeting/plan a presentation etc. But me? I wake up in the morning, sit up on my bed and think, "What should I do today?" Shopping? Did that yesterday. Go for some fine dining? Did that yesterday too (you get what I mean).
All these was fun at first but as the days pass the novelty of it all wears off. I feel like a sloth, I lack the drive.
What are my goals...
My ambitions...
I feel rather useless...
u r still young..
start making plans..
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Thx! Btw i've added you. Me is Softbone boi btw. BOY! U dont look u are 16 in ur fwenster pics! Looks like 20+!Originally posted by suss.adele:yup. www.friendster.com/adelezzz Wow didn't know you live near me!
Btw u look very cheery in ur pics. Didn't know you had much headaches and probs.
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Got an idea . Why not save the money your dad gives you and do abit of trading/investment/term deposit stuff with your savings? Learn how the stock market goes and the banks etc. Make more money for a rainy day/when you want to open your own shop etc - you can use that money you made instead of asking daddy dearest.
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Originally posted by suss.adele:yup, i am.
I am not refering this question to you, I am talking to letterboxmind.
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Everyone has their right to choose.Originally posted by Bontakun:
I am not refering this question to you, I am talking to letterboxmind.
But its good to know you are a child of God. I'm just saying some people find solace in God. Obviously, there are others lurking this forum that will not hesitate to flame that idea. 
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As long as they do not shake our faith. And we can also use it as a chance to clarify certain things dats misunderstanding in Christianity to others.Originally posted by LetterboxMind:Everyone has their right to choose. I'm just saying some people find solace in God. Obviously, there are others lurking this forum that will not hesitate to flame that idea.
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well at least you're rich you dont know how many people are dying to get rich. etc. me pick up a hobby or something.
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Originally posted by thelastunwantedkid:I feel like suicide myself. Despair and Depressed. What can I say, at least your dad loves and protects you, abit too much. You only need to take small slow steps to show him you can survive on your own. Me, I wish to end my life and hope my insurance payout is good so that my husband can enjoy swimming in the money from my death. Then he can get a girl who likes to spend money aimlessly and enjoy herself and make my ex-husband happy as well.
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How about using the time to slim down.Originally posted by suss.adele:yup. www.friendster.com/adelezzz -
you're an as5hole, you know that?Originally posted by Eric Cartman:How about using the time to slim down. -
Heh, what a surprise. You study at a school whose principal was my classmate's father. And it's very near my home.Originally posted by suss.adele:yup. www.friendster.com/adelezzz -
Think you need a new prescription. She's fine the way she is.Originally posted by Eric Cartman:How about using the time to slim down.