Confuse Relationship
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100th!!!
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conservative, superstitious and MCP?Originally posted by binarynwitz:Your boyfriend sounds... very conservative, superstitious and MCP.
I mean, what? Dream of something telling him that someone born in your year would cause trouble to him and his family?
WTF?
You need to stop for a moment, and think about the relationship. Do you wish to become a "property" of him? From what I've heard, he seems to be a MCP, and honestly, if he can believe in such a stupid dream thing, I think you're better off without him.
Still, you have to make a decision on your own.
or could it juz be an excuse... -
sometimes at certain juncture of a relationship, we get so confused and keep wondering why is the guy/gal doing this and why is he/she saying that.
why dont we take a moment and start thinking, is this what we want? is this the kind of relationship we want? -
apparently, D is trying to break u and ur bf up..Originally posted by chaah:Ok i admit i am confuse.
Let me elaborate n summaries my relationship :
BF : H
Fren : D
Actually my bf treat me well, bring me to nice dinning, pick me up as and when from office for dinner. Pay for my computer which i wanna change but no $$.
Only things is his hobbies is taking up too much time, at times i felt neglected.
i have tried talking to him, but he just avoid the things and prevent quarrel. But things do not change at all. After my grumble he is back to square one. Actually i dnt mind, coz i am grumbling. And also he had mentioned before if he had fail to treat me well, remember to remind him. As gal i though that is nice of him.
But then came along my close fren D.
Who keep analaysing things between me and bf.
He told me my bf isn't committed to me, and by reminding him i am helping him when he slack. This way i will never leave him.
He taught me to secretly mark H, faults and slack in relationship. And to the point give up if the relationship go haywire. And do not tell my bf what's wrong but let him think hard. If he has heart for me, he would do so.
I am lost now.
Coz i don't know if i should heed D advise ?
he's up to no good..
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Originally posted by blu_sky:100th!!!
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eveyone has their own interests ...u have yours too rite?
respect each other if you wanna live yr life with him
he's still not married so let him have his own free time with his interests in photography...btw u said u feel neglected..can u tell us exactly how he neglect u? i know there are many gals who expect their bf to meet them EVERYDAY..if miss one or two days they will feel they are being neglected
I meet my bf only during weekend when we arent working...i'm not complaining...we need have our own time for work..friends and own solitude moments.
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u might wan to follow the postings...Originally posted by spikedoll:eveyone has their own interests ...u have yours too rite?
respect each other if you wanna live yr life with him
he's still not married so let him have his own free time with his interests in photography...btw u said u feel neglected..can u tell us exactly how he neglect u? i know there are many gals who expect their bf to meet them EVERYDAY..if miss one or two days they will feel they are being neglected
I meet my bf only during weekend when we arent working...i'm not complaining...we need have our own time for work..friends and own solitude moments. -
recording ur bf's faults is just dumb. each of you need to have your own life. he may be building a future for both of you. you should talk to him and he needs to listen. if he's switched off, write to him. make sure he listens. if he pretends nothings wrong, then you know what to do..
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D is a devil ! Dun listen to him !
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D might be saying these things from his point of opinion. I assume he is a close friend? that why he knows alot about you relationship problems and his comments kinda of affected your feelings towards your boyfriend.
Step aside from ur friend's opinion. What do you really think and feel?
From the thread replies u have had, I think you can think and see for yourself.
you REALLY need to communicate with your boyfriend regarding what you really feel or else the gaps between you and him will become wider. He on the other, should listen and contemplate what u had said. How can a couple get along well for a lifetime without proper communication?
On the other hand, if both of you can break through this obstacle, the relationships will become stronger as both learn to communicate better. -
hi tks.Originally posted by spikedoll:eveyone has their own interests ...u have yours too rite?
respect each other if you wanna live yr life with him
he's still not married so let him have his own free time with his interests in photography...btw u said u feel neglected..can u tell us exactly how he neglect u? i know there are many gals who expect their bf to meet them EVERYDAY..if miss one or two days they will feel they are being neglected
I meet my bf only during weekend when we arent working...i'm not complaining...we need have our own time for work..friends and own solitude moments.
how about try imagine my role now.
beginning twice a week, then once a week. (All dinner then go home)
Then once a week either dinner or daytime always end up in temple or their event. You want to try such a life ? And for information his phototaking is taking pictures of temple event. what you people think ?
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tks but i guess my guy isn't putting effort.Originally posted by Isis:D might be saying these things from his point of opinion. I assume he is a close friend? that why he knows alot about you relationship problems and his comments kinda of affected your feelings towards your boyfriend.
Step aside from ur friend's opinion. What do you really think and feel?
From the thread replies u have had, I think you can think and see for yourself.
you REALLY need to communicate with your boyfriend regarding what you really feel or else the gaps between you and him will become wider. He on the other, should listen and contemplate what u had said. How can a couple get along well for a lifetime without proper communication?
On the other hand, if both of you can break through this obstacle, the relationships will become stronger as both learn to communicate better.
Until now i have been requesting to meet for discussion. He keep putting me off. sigh.. -
I have always thought love should be simple.
But this relationship show me lots of ugly side of man.
I always refuse to believe man can be selfish and ruthless when come to business etc..
I help in setting up his business, so his website and email is done up by me.
FYI the website itself crack my brain for 2 months for compilation of data of certain equipments. Because it a technical report that i am fishing for records.
All his business contacts and suppliers are given by me. And flew to supplier country to help him clinch the support from them.
He pressure me almost everyday for the website during that time. I work in the daytime, at night i stay up to 3am doing net for him.
These 2 days i found out he change all the website passwords without informing me. I am very sad and disappointed.
That once loving man change into heartless man.
Until now i do not know what has went wrong ?
Isn't because i refuse to be his puppet ?
Sigh...
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u did nothing wrong.... he is not a man... he is a beast... so just give him the notice of termination and move on.... dun tink he is worth it... tis beast just wants to prey on new innocent lives... seriously just give him the finger and go meet real men out there... cheers...!Originally posted by chaah:I have always thought love should be simple.
But this relationship show me lots of ugly side of man.
I always refuse to believe man can be selfish and ruthless when come to business etc..
I help in setting up his business, so his website and email is done up by me.
FYI the website itself crack my brain for 2 months for compilation of data of certain equipments. Because it a technical report that i am fishing for records.
All his business contacts and suppliers are given by me. And flew to supplier country to help him clinch the support from them.
He pressure me almost everyday for the website during that time. I work in the daytime, at night i stay up to 3am doing net for him.
These 2 days i found out he change all the website passwords without informing me. I am very sad and disappointed.
That once loving man change into heartless man.
Until now i do not know what has went wrong ?
Isn't because i refuse to be his puppet ?
Sigh... -
So you're saying there's hardly much trust within your relationship or...?Originally posted by chaah:I have always thought love should be simple.
But this relationship show me lots of ugly side of man.
I always refuse to believe man can be selfish and ruthless when come to business etc..
I help in setting up his business, so his website and email is done up by me.
FYI the website itself crack my brain for 2 months for compilation of data of certain equipments. Because it a technical report that i am fishing for records.
All his business contacts and suppliers are given by me. And flew to supplier country to help him clinch the support from them.
He pressure me almost everyday for the website during that time. I work in the daytime, at night i stay up to 3am doing net for him.
These 2 days i found out he change all the website passwords without informing me. I am very sad and disappointed.
That once loving man change into heartless man.
Until now i do not know what has went wrong ?
Isn't because i refuse to be his puppet ?
Sigh... -
how is it gal? have you guys been goin on dates?Originally posted by chaah:tks but i guess my guy isn't putting effort.
Until now i have been requesting to meet for discussion. He keep putting me off. sigh.. -
Hmm...
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yes?Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... -
hehehe why??? devil miss me ah??Originally posted by Devil1976:LTNS? You bery busy izzit?
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Chaah,
what's the situation now? -
Nothing..Originally posted by blu_sky:yes?
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Originally posted by smudgey:hehehe why??? devil miss me ah??
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Oh sorry didn't update all my caring friends.
I ended the relationship last Jan.
He is married but lied to me.
Married for 8yrs. Check his ROM -
lucky u found out... continue on with ur interest lo... theres better guys out there...Originally posted by chaah:Oh sorry didn't update all my caring friends.
I ended the relationship last Jan.
He is married but lied to me.
Married for 8yrs. Check his ROM -
tmd..Originally posted by chaah:Oh sorry didn't update all my caring friends.
I ended the relationship last Jan.
He is married but lied to me.
Married for 8yrs. Check his ROM
go hack his website, make sure his business go 'beek-chia'!