Betrayed
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Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
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how old is she?
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ur case oso a bit similar as this oneOriginally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
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don't see why are you so bothered over her..?Originally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
do you like her? haha forgive me for being so blatant but you sound like you do.
some people learn it better the hard way... perhaps it's better to let her taste the fruits of her own actions and let her see the consequences for herself...
moreover... why help people who refuse to help themselves? move on bah... it's a waste of your time and resources suffering so much emotional drain just to help her change.
the one and only thing you can do now is to remind her that you will always be there for her should she fail... and that you'll support her no matter which route she takes instead of trying to..you know... impose your beliefs and values on her? -
she how old. why ur heart torn into pieces u like her? u shld go for it before that guy did
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Yea things like that happens.
Guess that you have just gota realised that the life isnt yours and u really have no control over it. Know how you feel, felt that way b4.
Warn her, and then its all hers to deal with, and she has gota bear any consequences that comes along with it. Cause, and effect. -
what you planned to do from here?
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so sorry that you think this way.
don't worry, i'll try to make her a better person. -
1st thing: Improve your english. It is really hard to read in this manner. Do some paragraphing at the very least.Originally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
2nd thing: You want to help her become a better person right? Does she want to become a better person?
3rd thing: All you have done for her so far is in hope that someday you two can get together, right? How long have you been trying to change her?
4th thing: You do know that attempting to change a person's mindset takes a long time. Just like I am attempting to change your views that she is not worth the trouble. See the link? Hard to change.
5th thing: You can refuse to believe but the fact is right in front of you. Deal with it.
6th thing: She spent the night at the guy's house. You wished she spent the night at yours right?
7th thing: Will you still carry on trying to help her become a better person after all these? -
You like her and wants the best for her BUT she don't like you.
Move on bro, at least she didn't fell in love with your friend
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erm, u called tat BETRAYED ??
which part of it is betrayal ?? u 2 were not together to begin wif at the first place... u think too much ba.....
well, brudder, sometimes , things wun go ya way la.. like wht others mentioned earlier on, MOVE ON, not over there thinkin tat u hav been betrayed by someone duhz
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i can understand how u r feeling. when u fall in love with a rotten person who has the capacity to be good, but choose to turn to the "dark side" and ignore u....its painful.
Painful not because of "betrayal" or love lost. But because of severe disappointment. You probably have hopes of changing that person and ending up together with her.
But we can't force love nor change. If the person wants a decadant lifestyle so be it. The thing to do is to move on and wait for the next one. Its hard yes, but time heals all wounds. Soon the pain from disappointment will become routine once u get used to it. -
guy not "bad", girl don't love....Originally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
this gal like the "bad boy".
you are too goody for her.. -
Who cares it is the girls problem for not treasuring you right?
As a man muat learn to rule with a hard of steel -
Been there bros..
Initially it was frustrating and unable to accept the fact.
Time heal all wounds my friends..
cheer up.. -
It happened to me before except that girl was my ex. Got involved with the wrong guy in my school after we broke up. Well, the rest is up for you guys to imagine....
Anyway, after all my advices and pleas fell on deaf ears, I washed my hands off it. I have done what i could. And yeah, she is paying a lifetime for it. There is nothing you can do dude. Drop it.
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this is call emotional blackmail....
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i guess gals prefer bad bois nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai
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That goes with age and preference. Its always changing or fluctuating.Originally posted by cloud210:i guess gals prefer bad bois nan ren bu huai, nu ren bu ai -
holy cow, was stumped at first, coz your post seem similar to what I've experienced. The "her bad past" and the "cant get her on christmas eve and sent her a sweet message thing" but luckily, mine still going strong.
well thats not the point, the point is that we men just cannot devote yourself too much into the time when we are chasing a girl, you know what i'm saying. Like in your situation, you should play along and flirt with her, instead of being so serious when there's nothng on yet.
Now look, she's not gonna last long with that guy, trust me, knowing him for only 1 day and getting attached to him, definitely for either his money or his look. If your personality is better, she will realise it. Just make sure if you did get back together with her, or with other women in the future, do not be so serious. Flirt hard with them, and pull back when you think you are getting too serious.
Think about it, when we flirt with girls and they get hooked up with us easily, we definitely will get the idea of them being a "easy" woman right? The same thing is applied to how a girl thinks. If you get too serious, she would also think you are too "easy" thus not cherishing anything. Flirting and being romantic are the things that actually keeps a relationship going strong, not anything else you are thinking, you know what I'm saying.
Hope this post gets into your head
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On the flip side - Just cos others can't become the people we want them to be, it doesn't mean they aren't trying.
Gotta say tho, some subconsciously don't change cos the trying becomes routine after awhile - and it's more talk, less doing.
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You do not represent all men.Originally posted by cockaholic:holy cow, was stumped at first, coz your post seem similar to what I've experienced. The "her bad past" and the "cant get her on christmas eve and sent her a sweet message thing" but luckily, mine still going strong.
well thats not the point, the point is that we men just cannot devote yourself too much into the time when we are chasing a girl, you know what i'm saying. Like in your situation, you should play along and flirt with her, instead of being so serious when there's nothng on yet.
Now look, she's not gonna last long with that guy, trust me, knowing him for only 1 day and getting attached to him, definitely for either his money or his look. If your personality is better, she will realise it. Just make sure if you did get back together with her, or with other women in the future, do not be so serious. Flirt hard with them, and pull back when you think you are getting too serious.
Think about it, when we flirt with girls and they get hooked up with us easily, we definitely will get the idea of them being a "easy" woman right? The same thing is applied to how a girl thinks. If you get too serious, she would also think you are too "easy" thus not cherishing anything. Flirting and being romantic are the things that actually keeps a relationship going strong, not anything else you are thinking, you know what I'm saying.
Hope this post gets into your head
Hope this post gets into your head -
U should really try to do paragraphing. its difficult to read.Originally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
anyway, u sound like u like her more or less. tell me the truth yes or no!
well, from what u mentioned, i cant comment anything abt the girl cuz who knows she really find true love in that guy. So we cant make any assumtion that she is just flirting ard with him or anything. or immature...
dude, chill man.. as her friend, just stay with her n help her if its needed. be here always if u nid any help. cheers -
lol, hell no, each man represents himself, maybe i should ask "the man/men"Originally posted by Bontakun:You do not represent all men.
Hope this post gets into your head 
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If you are only a friend, i guess there is not much you can do about it. You can only give advice., but the gal choose the life she want to lead.Originally posted by kelviz:Hey bros/sis, I wrong in not too long ago about my problem with this girl haha and on christmas I finally found out her true colours. Though I had known of her disturbing past I didn't mind and tried my best to help her change in hope of her being a better person. Not for me but for herself =D but on christmas eve I tried to contact her to wish her a simple merry x'mas but I couldn't so i sent her a sweet sms to wish her. However when I finally got to talk to her on the phone on christmas day, she told me she got attached? ok that was fine. But when I asked who, she said that it was a guy who she knew from work for less than a week *that was one time when i was out with her and this guy keep msging her like all the mushy stuff though he has only known her for a day. I sorta knew his intentions and warned her* well she said that she has spend the night at the guy's house. Whao that really tore my heart into pieces and I felt really sad. I don't know why and how because it was the first time i felt this way. I felt so betrayed and painful as I thought she changed and became a better person. I still refuse to believe it and it's really dragging my emotional side down, as in it's reall sad to see someone so special being tricked like that thinking that it is true love. REally hurts. I really hope she changes =]
Anyway if you interested in her, you should just go grab her and not waste time being her friend trying to change her.