Story of my..
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Emm..Kkz..This is a story of my..It all happens 2 yrs ago..one the very first day of my course orientation, i came to know this gal "diz"..the first impression she gave mi is those cool cool de style..but after knowing her for a long time, things started to get better, we r having the same thinking, we have things in common and topic to chit chat with..everything goes well..And i think it's jus my one side love bahz..ten there's times tt i wanted to ask her "Can we be more ten friends?"..by the way, she is quite popular in my sch and also course..with lots of admirer..And i know i am nothing to her..
After tt, by chance i have pop up tt question to her and the ans i got Of coz is a "Friends will be better"..And i gave up..actual i was nt confident at all for this war..tt's the first time i feel no confident..BUT i knw i will die, but i just went to pop this question..And tt time is my SIP period..and by chance, my lec wanted to sent mi for oversea attachment and i went for 4 months..and i agree..one of the reason why i agree to go is tt i wanted to use these time to forget her and let time heal my wounds bahz..
Any YES.. after tt 4 months in overseas, indeed i almost get her out of my mindset..BUT after sch reopen and mi and diz got closer again..and we started to have the same topic to chat on..And it's like i almost forget you, how come u still came back..And i am feeling so suffer..And the worst thing is tt, there's this one time, she wanted to show mi a msg and ask mi to view it on my own, when i open the inbox, (As u all know Sony ericsoon hav this function whereby u can view the msg q/o opening it..)the 1st thing which i saw is a msg from a guy..the msg content is "i love you so much"..and my heart Sink to the bottom of the universe..I really duno how to react but act as per normal..i know i am nothing to her..WAT should i do now?? I am feeling so vex..Argh...i dun wan to be trap in this shit.. -
dude, forget it and get a new gal.
she purposely said that she wants to show u a msg is because she wants u to know that she is attached.
if i am u, i rather b her fren then anything else. -
Dude..but the prob now is tt, almost everynite we will chat thru the phone till 4am++..and it con'ts..once i see her num, i can't bear to hang it up..it's like a drug addicted see a packet of drug, he/she can't control themself..tt's wat happen to mi right now..it's kinda of flirt to mi bahz..I dun wan..she is a good lady..I am so hurt now..Haix..I really duno how to handle this le..Help.. : ..(
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It looks like she isnt very interested in improving the friend r/s to a higher lvl....anyway it is better that u and her haven go into a r/s...and u c the msg...better than u and her in r/s le..u find out abt this msg..the more hurt and agnonising u will experience
Look to the other side of the forest..there are so many pretty and nice flowers waiting for us to go explored...why juz merely 1 setback makes u so sad ne? It is not worth it...l suggest that u relax urself and look at the flowers ard...and u will noe wad l mean le...=) -
dude don think so much la,Originally posted by Normal^Guy:Dude..but the prob now is tt, almost everynite we will chat thru the phone till 4am++..and it con'ts..once i see her num, i can't bear to hang it up..it's like a drug addicted see a packet of drug, he/she can't control themself..tt's wat happen to mi right now..it's kinda of flirt to mi bahz..I dun wan..she is a good lady..I am so hurt now..Haix..I really duno how to handle this le..Help.. : ..(
she ONLY wants to b your fren.
now she only hope U don think so much.
can u learn to control your temptation!? -
lol..the words u used so exaggerating ah...Originally posted by Normal^Guy:Dude..but the prob now is tt, almost everynite we will chat thru the phone till 4am++..and it con'ts..once i see her num, i can't bear to hang it up..it's like a drug addicted see a packet of drug, he/she can't control themself..tt's wat happen to mi right now..it's kinda of flirt to mi bahz..I dun wan..she is a good lady..I am so hurt now..Haix..I really duno how to handle this le..Help.. : ..(
l used to smoke oso leh..but when l no $, l auto stop le..
, unless ppl offer ne...see l can withstand the drug 
Aiya juz switch ur hp off for a few days..and she wont call u le..
So wad if she is a good lady..
There are oso alot of nice and good ladies ard in the world..not juz her only mah
nxt time u realise it le..then u will noe hw stupid u are....plz dun be offended by me saying u stupid..l dun really meant that...l admit l used to be a stupid person, maybe more stupider than u
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i agree with the stupid part..Originally posted by xShevchenkox:lol..the words u used so exaggerating ah...
l used to smoke oso leh..but when l no $, l auto stop le.. , unless ppl offer ne...see l can withstand the drug
Aiya juz switch ur hp off for a few days..and she wont call u le..
So wad if she is a good lady..
There are oso alot of nice and good ladies ard in the world..not juz her only mah
nxt time u realise it le..then u will noe hw stupid u are....plz dun be offended by me saying u stupid..l dun really meant that...l admit l used to be a stupid person, maybe more stupider than u
mayb u now don understand wat we are talking but in future u will -
haiyo only the stupid part ah? hahaOriginally posted by FBI:i agree with the stupid part..
mayb u now don understand wat we are talking but in future u will
anyway plz wake up...the truth is that she juz want to be with friend with u..and that is it..like wad FBI says..l oso hav the same tinking like u...FBI
Girls are very straight in this kind of things de...If they say friends or tried hinting u that we are friends..they really meant it...and no more than other things...
So plz collected and clean up ur mood..and try to occupy urself with some other things bah
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Haix..i duno whether am i Dan Nan Ren or not..Coz whenever i saw guy toking to her, or playing with her..i will tends to get fed up and walk away..coz i didn't want to react to it..WTH is this..i am being struck in this stupid deep shit of my..Hope i faster grad and get into army ten mayb things will get better..my friend advise is tt, i go get to know some new friends, ten i will sort of slowing forget her bahz..but i know this wouldn't be easy..coz i try to avoid her calls some times, but it normally fails..i will call back and check is she alright or not..i will tend to get worry..But i knw i am nth to her..Sorri dude..i really duno wat i am toking now..jus feeling very vex..Sorri..
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Dudes...the worst things is tt tml a few of us is going over to her house to help her move house..OMG..i really duno whether to go or not to go, but as i have already promise her earlier on..But i am scare tt..i will can't take any more shock le..i am really very tired abt this issue it..it has been pestering mi since this yr jan..for almost the whole 2006..
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ya...l tink l can sumhow understand how u feeling..well u feel this way becos u still cant put her down..ur feelings to her are still very strong..Originally posted by Normal^Guy:Haix..i duno whether am i Dan Nan Ren or not..Coz whenever i saw guy toking to her, or playing with her..i will tends to get fed up and walk away..coz i didn't want to react to it..WTH is this..i am being struck in this stupid deep shit of my..Hope i faster grad and get into army ten mayb things will get better..my friend advise is tt, i go get to know some new friends, ten i will sort of slowing forget her bahz..but i know this wouldn't be easy..coz i try to avoid her calls some times, but it normally fails..i will call back and check is she alright or not..i will tend to get worry..But i knw i am nth to her..Sorri dude..i really duno wat i am toking now..jus feeling very vex..Sorri..
But in order for all these things to stop..l guess wad u nid is time and during this period of time..avoid finding her or getting involved with her...slowly slowly the feeling will disappear de
And oso dun juz becos of 1 gal...spoilt ur whole feelings...okays? It is juz not worth it... -
Since u promise her liao..juz gentleman lo..go help her le..then after this, avoid her like what l hav say aboveOriginally posted by Normal^Guy:Dudes...the worst things is tt tml a few of us is going over to her house to help her move house..OMG..i really duno whether to go or not to go, but as i have already promise her earlier on..But i am scare tt..i will can't take any more shock le..i am really very tired abt this issue it..it has been pestering mi since this yr jan..for almost the whole 2006.. -
kz..dude..BUt wat if she finds mi?? There are many times tt i try nt to msg her..but whenever she is bored or get into trouble she will still finds mi to tok to..wat if she finds mi 1st?? avoid?? i dun think this is the way bahz??
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hmm u can hav a tok with her...but tink that u and her are juz merely friends, and nthing else... but l suggest that tok is tok but dun be so close to her lo..cuz later u cnt get out of it again..=)Originally posted by Normal^Guy:kz..dude..BUt wat if she finds mi?? There are many times tt i try nt to msg her..but whenever she is bored or get into trouble she will still finds mi to tok to..wat if she finds mi 1st?? avoid?? i dun think this is the way bahz?? -
seriously i think the only thing u can do now is to remain as frens with her and stop thinking abt anything.
find other gals la -
i suggest u go know more gals.Originally posted by Normal^Guy:Haix..i duno whether am i Dan Nan Ren or not..Coz whenever i saw guy toking to her, or playing with her..i will tends to get fed up and walk away..coz i didn't want to react to it..WTH is this..i am being struck in this stupid deep shit of my..Hope i faster grad and get into army ten mayb things will get better..my friend advise is tt, i go get to know some new friends, ten i will sort of slowing forget her bahz..but i know this wouldn't be easy..coz i try to avoid her calls some times, but it normally fails..i will call back and check is she alright or not..i will tend to get worry..But i knw i am nth to her..Sorri dude..i really duno wat i am toking now..jus feeling very vex..Sorri..
then this is v normal especially when u like someone v much -
why she keeps finding you??
never mind
I feel sad for you too
my case is different from yours but I can understand the feelings of losing someone whom you really hope to be with
I'm worse than you cos I haven't moved on yet..my life is so stagnant
so that's something you should be glad of
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So its the "good friends with love element inside" eh? She appearing in your life is for a purpose. I do not know what it is for I am not you. You have to find out it yourself.
You are too accomodating to her. If you really treat her as a friend, you would not have posted this, but you just happened to like her, thus the vexing problem. A simple sms stating someone like her and you felt like crap. What if she decided to DATE SOMEONE ELSE?
And you lack self confidence. Period. You know you are nothing to her, then why she keep calling you so often and chat so much? That is because at the very least she is a genuine friend to you as you are to her.
If I were you, I would not talk to her on the phone for so long. I will still hang around with her outside but I will NOT center my life around her. Its a spiraling trap obviously. She has indicated she only wanted to be friends only, bear that in mind.
I would widen my social circle and hang out with other friends. She is not the only person in "my" life. I will also make good use of the time to prepare myself for life AFTER the course study. What will happen? Prepare for the next stage. Get ready for NS, work, meet more people.
So many things to do, yet you chose to be troubled by this. Really, you are not ready. Sorry I am hard and cruel but I woke up pretty cranky and I read a few, new AA topics which happened to be boy-girl-issues... -
BRO, WAKE UP le, u r not in wonderland anymore...
n her calls like drugs to a drug addict?? too kua zhang ba... :X
well, my pt of view, no matter how fcuk up u feel or how badly u wan her, cast tat aside. she is a frend. but dun cross the border at all.. juz remain low key. try yr best not to hav any connection wif her will do, unless for other reasons, example, u ned to help her shift hse. keep phone conversation less thn 2 minutes. this way, "may" help u , but thn, she may think u r starting to distance n quarrel may occur.. but fcuk care !!!!!!!!! coz yr objective now is to get her out of yr head first !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
after u reach to a pt tat u can accept her as a frend only and nothin else, thn mayb u can get a lil closer//
i know, easier said thn done.. but howeve, nothin is impossible....
as the saying goes, " IF theres a will, theres a way."
2 cents worth ....
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BRO, WAKE UP le, u r not in wonderland anymore...
n her calls like drugs to a drug addict?? too kua zhang ba... :X
well, my pt of view, no matter how fcuk up u feel or how badly u wan her, cast tat aside. she is a frend. but dun cross the border at all.. juz remain low key. try yr best not to hav any connection wif her will do, unless for other reasons, example, u ned to help her shift hse. keep phone conversation less thn 2 minutes. this way, "may" help u , but thn, she may think u r starting to distance n quarrel may occur.. but fcuk care !!!!!!!!! coz yr objective now is to get her out of yr head first !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
after u reach to a pt tat u can accept her as a frend only and nothin else, thn mayb u can get a lil closer//
i know, easier said thn done.. but howeve, nothin is impossible....
as the saying goes, " IF theres a will, theres a way."
2 cents worth .... -
i think TS really needs to learn how to differentiate between wats friends and wats relationship.Originally posted by kokzter:BRO, WAKE UP le, u r not in wonderland anymore...
n her calls like drugs to a drug addict?? too kua zhang ba... :X
well, my pt of view, no matter how fcuk up u feel or how badly u wan her, cast tat aside. she is a frend. but dun cross the border at all.. juz remain low key. try yr best not to hav any connection wif her will do, unless for other reasons, example, u ned to help her shift hse. keep phone conversation less thn 2 minutes. this way, "may" help u , but thn, she may think u r starting to distance n quarrel may occur.. but fcuk care !!!!!!!!! coz yr objective now is to get her out of yr head first !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
after u reach to a pt tat u can accept her as a frend only and nothin else, thn mayb u can get a lil closer//
i know, easier said thn done.. but howeve, nothin is impossible....
as the saying goes, " IF theres a will, theres a way."
2 cents worth ....
If every gal u met is like the one u mentioned above, will u ended up falling with every gals?
No right..
u need to know that not every gal u met u will have to like them.
even how pretty she is, no matter wat some can only b friends and tahts all. -
wha like my case poor thing sia
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ts lacks the will to do things too...
with the will, he can hang up on the phone or not answer it at all...
if there's a will there's a way. -
Time to go cold turkey my friend.Originally posted by Normal^Guy:Dude..but the prob now is tt, almost everynite we will chat thru the phone till 4am++..and it con'ts..once i see her num, i can't bear to hang it up..it's like a drug addicted see a packet of drug, he/she can't control themself..tt's wat happen to mi right now..it's kinda of flirt to mi bahz..I dun wan..she is a good lady..I am so hurt now..Haix..I really duno how to handle this le..Help.. : ..( -
Yes. I personally think if you can't handle her at all, the other best alternative is to avoid her at all cost. Tell her you're busy, you can't meet, you can't chat. After a while she would get the idea.Originally posted by Normal^Guy:kz..dude..BUt wat if she finds mi?? There are many times tt i try nt to msg her..but whenever she is bored or get into trouble she will still finds mi to tok to..wat if she finds mi 1st?? avoid?? i dun think this is the way bahz??
I would say avoiding her or being hooked up by her, both moves would likely torment you in their own ways... On given the fact that you can't handle the 'addiction'. Avoiding her would be a wiser choice for the long run?